Honestly I feel like the ugly duckling with no friends hardly. I am not a very social person but yet I play here and never get bored of it. Even with friends here I speak to a few times every few months. I need to be more social its not good for me to be anti social. Any suggestions on actually learning to be a very social person.

I'm by nature a very talkative person. I love being in groups of people, it just makes me feel good. I don't know why. Even so, sometimes I just don't want to in public but obviously you can't just stop being who you are. I say it's all right that you aren't a social butterfly - but if you want to make friends you have to BE a friend. Give compliments. Give smiles. Help people out. Be generous with time and effort, money and stuff aren't the only things people need. Write someone a note or a letter.

One of my favorite things to do when I overhear someone talking about what they just LOVE (candy bar, snack, color, hobby) is buy a little trinket or snack. Especially with the holidays coming up, start now saving and getting ideas. Some people really like a little gift, but others really just want attention or nice words. Even just a little pat on the back or something to make them feel good.

I think being anti social is nice at times. Everyone needs a little peace and quiet. Keep your eyes open and your chin up. I think you'll find yourself soon if you do.

I wish I could offer you some decent advice but I'm the same way (probably worse). I don't think being socially awkward is something one can change about themselves very easily...

You know what happened to the ugly duckling - it's actually a beautiful swan so just keep your head up! Someday your time will come =D

I was a fairly shy person during my teenage years - as soon as I hit my twenties, I started making myself make friends with new people. It made me a much more confident person, so maybe try taking a risk and talking to someone new?

I was also once called an 'ugly duckling' by a good friend who had known me from school. I wish I'd slapped him at the time, lol. Be positive about who you are - and make some decisions to improve what you don't like about yourself. Small steps are all it takes sometimes.

I was a very, very quiet person for most of my high school and younger years so I can relate. I'm still somewhat socially awkward but once I hit college I became slightly more outgoing and unlike when I was in high school I can actually do small talk though I dislike it though.

That said, sometimes it's really just simply a matter of going up to a person and saying hi and then seeing what happens from there. Otherwise, similar interests work as well.

Granted, I had to learn that in college when I went to college and didn't know anyone so I was the person having to make friends instead of friends coming to me like it was in high school, but I'd say just work with similar interests and go from there.

I.e. if you notice someone is wearing, liking something you do, just ask them about it...

Also, as someone who's highly introverted, was in the past and likely always will be, solitude is amazing. Sometimes, simply being by yourself is really the best. I would actually walk away from friends in high school because I had to be away from people and I go through periods of time where the only person I see is my family simply because being around people constantly stresses me out. My friends know this, they respect that and they're ok with it because if I was constantly surrounded by people I'd probably go crazy personally.

My whole spiel regarding that was one thing. Find friends you can relate to, don't friend everyone. For one, having close friends is a lot better than friending a bunch of people you don't know simply because you wish to be social. I have a very small circle of close friends and I honestly prefer it that way since I'd probably stress myself out if I had a huge circle of friends, but maybe that's just me.

Believe me, there is absolutely nobody that knows more about your pain than me. That being said, here is some advice.

Physically? Pay close attention to hygiene, especially in the face and as far as your smell. Next? Dress nicely. CONFIDENTLY! I used to be so depressed and I felt like I had no direction. I'd just wear raggedy clothes and feel bad. Now I wear nice dress clothes as often as I can, I think confident thoughts on purpose, and I walk straighter. I try to emulate strength and radiate confidence now. EXERCISE! It's important, it raises endorphins and feel good stuff in your head and you start to LOOK better and that multiplies FEELING better!

Third and final advice, love who you are. You just need to put a shine on the best features of yourself with my previous advice. It's really just about confidence and I gave you tips that helped me get confidence. Ultimately though you must love and accept yourself. :) I have a hero that really inspired me to change, his name was Earl Nightingale. He defined success "Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal." So remember, you're a success.

It ALL starts from within you. We decide to make the best of the situation we start in. Best of luck to you..