I'm in a rut. It's not like I do much. I wake up, shower, eat, putter around the internet with the only friends I have (who all live in other states), eat again, watch some TV or read, and go to bed. I don't drive, and I live in a small town with very little to do. I do volunteer at a library two days a week, but it's not enough.

I'm also sick of being single.

I've lived on this earth for 22 years, and I've never had a romantic connection with anyone in those years. I've tried, but my crush is either already taken, or moves away before I can confess.And like I said, I don't drive.

I don't even know why I'm posting this, It just helps to get things off my chest, I guess.

- In regards to your rut, I was like that too for a year back in 2010. It was a very boring time and I hated it. It was because I had crippling depression and anxiety. That changed when I got my first job. Then, everything else followed and my life is flourishing now... it just took 4 years to get to this point.

In regards to having a romantic connection, I was 22 when I had my first boyfriend, which was a year ago. It's okay to not have had a romantic connection yet.

I think you should try to learn how to drive first. Is there any one you know that can teach you? Also, network at the library. Maybe someone has a job to offer or maybe you can make new friends. The romantic connection will most likely come later.

Thanks for the tips, but I go in before it opens, and go home at noon. My aunt drives, but is very busy. My dad doesn't have a car, and I don't really live near any other family members. But thanks for replying.

- No problem. I hope you can find a solution soon.

Sounds like many of your problems would be solved by finding a job (I know, so easy!)... if there really is fuck all in your little town, is there somewhere busier that you could look for work? Even if it's too far for you now, you could borrow enough (maybe) for a deposit and rent somewhere cheap, like a room in a shared house, if you happen to get a job offer.

If it gets desperate, just find the shittiest job you can. Find out where the FOB foreigners work, because anyplace that hires people that speak very poor English isn't fussy as long as you turn up and do the job.

I was just like you at 21, and then started working in an Amazon warehouse because they take anyone. That completely changed everything, and now I'm 22 with a better job, a car and a boyfriend.

I have Social Security, thanks to high-functioning autism, and am worried a job would take that away from me. But I'll give it a try.

Sorry you're in a rut! I had that feeling a while ago and it's hard to overcome. I have extremely bad anxiety so I always stayed inside and had boring days. To be honest, you really need to go out and force yourself to do something different. Having a job (like everyone else suggested) is a HUGE help. As lazy as I can be at times, I'm glad that I work full time jobs because I feel like I'm getting up and doing what I have to do. Since you live in a small town, there must be a ton of scenery so I suggest going to a nice place and reading/fishing/hiking/anything really. That always makes me feel happy and at peace.

I've been in a serious, loving relationship since I was 14 (I'm 20 now) so I'm not sure how the single life goes. However, the best way to meet people is through activities. I hear people finding romantic relationships all the time at work or events. I'm sure it'll come as you do more things. :)

I don't know how Social Security works in the US but here in the UK earning money affects benefits. But, having a job gives you so much more than just money at the end of the month: skills, friends, general social contact. If there is anywhere in walking distance to you (within 3 miles) then seriously consider it, or further if you have a bicycle. Don't wait until a place advertises a job either, just go in and ask if there are any jobs available. I got my first job by just walking into a shop and asking. They weren't advertising, but turned out they were willing to take me on.

There are a huge number of jobs even in a small town: shops, bars, restaurants, farms, doctor, dentist. Even if you aren't that good socially there are jobs that won't require much social interaction such as cleaning, litter picking, working with animals...

I honestly think this is worth a go, and the first step is realising you are in a rut and need a change so well done on that. :)