Ok, so I live in Venezuela, I'm 19 years old and I only have 2 more years until I graduate. Venezuela is rather insecure (LIKE EXTREME) and the economy is so bad (like I can't even describe it) but I haven't been robbed yet in my 4 years and I hope I never will even though odds are against me. I also don't go out a lot so maybe that's why. I currently live with my grand-aunt and grandparents. My grandfather got a job offer in Colombia and I can go with my grandparents or I can stay with my aunt. My aunt isn't easy to live with but I believe I'm well to handle the cleaning weekly now that my grandparents can't tell her not to command me around and any other crazy stuff (no, literally, /crazy/.) she might say, I won't pay attention to. However, just like her sister, my grandmother isn't so easy either and she needs to be taken care of constantly unlike my aunt who works during the week. The thing is, my grandparents are always pressuring me to study and get off the computer and I feel as though they're always saying something judgmental when they talk to me. They say I don't respect them when I feel like they respect me very little as well, it's very stressful and on top of that, I always have to ask for permission to go out even if it's not very far and I have to be back before 7pm or I get rants. I know if I go with them I'll only be controlled more and it's to the point where my grandmother wants to stay just to "watch over me" while grandfather goes work BUT there was a month this year where he had to travel and I just couldn't take the stress of taking care of her. Plus I won't really learn what's it's like to live on my own (in a way) because I'd just let my grandfather cook, clean and do the laundry (/lazy/) but I also want to graduate and I definitely don't want to take care of her; which includes serving her food at certain hours, going to sleep at 11pm+ and waking up at 6am no matter what. Obviously, it's tough. I personally don't want to go. But my grandmother has urged me to reconsider. I /would/ start over classes but I mean I only have 2 years left xP

edit: oh but also I guess in colombia, idk how expensive the studies might be but it'd definitely be safer and there's less inflation and stuff... even so! D:

Sounds like way too many cons to go. Why are you reconsidering? You've acknowledged that they're deeply controlling, stressful, and that you don't want to take care of her. So what are the pros to going with them? Is it just the crime situation of Venezuela?

I guess. That and actually learning how to live on my own, let's face it, it's easier to be lazy. LOL. They just keep telling me to think about it - but they think I just want to stay because of a boy I like when there's nothing between us but they don't believe me.

edit; I guess I just wanted a second opinion, you know, another pair of eyes xP

If you're still unsure, a good way to go about it is to write down a list of pros and cons to going with them. If one outweighs the other, then you have your answer

Thank you! :3

No problem :) Hope you figure things out

And remember, your mental health is a VERY important thing to consider

I didn't read through any of the comments, but I would say it would be better to go with your grandparents. Sure, they're over-protective, but if you talk with them and in a safer environment like Columbia it might be easier for you to have a bit more freedom. I would try talking with them first, see if you can assert yourself around them, maybe they'll be a little less strict in a safer environment.

If you think you can be in Venezuela for another two years and finish your school, then maybe it's best if you stay there, as long as you're able to stay safe. If your life is in any way threatened while living there then you should reconsider moving with them because it would be safer.

I honestly think I'd miss them even if they don't think I would. Cause it's not the same being with family vs. being with someone familiar. I've only gone out more recently and it's been to the mall/friend's house/university at most, and since it's been a direct drive nothing really happens to me. I also don't carry expensive stuff around like a toy so u_u

In that case, weigh out your options. Yes, you'll miss them, but it's another 2 years for school and then I assume you would be able to join them after. Transferring would be a pain because the school might not take a lot of your credits in exchange so you might have to start anew even with two years under your belt. If you feel like you can be safe for the two years, then stay behind and finish, or try to do extra classes and finish earlier. I know it'll be difficult, but either situation would be difficult. In my opinion your safety is probably the most important thing, so if you think you can be safe with how you're doing things now, then maybe it is better to stay behind. Or even your grandparent's health and safety. If your grandmother is of ailing health and needs your assistance, then maybe you should go. It really all depends on what is more important and what can or cannot be worked around.

Yea, that's what I'm afraid of. Once I'm graduated, it'll count in other countries. Hmmm... I will start seeing as many classes as I can. I'll also need to rearrange my schedule since I was planning on going during the night but... I don't think so anymore.