So my boyfriend of six months broke up with me last week. I'm currently working in a job 500 miles away from all of my friends and family, including him. It's been rough, especially since I didn't have a clue this was coming on.

We met through some mutual friends at a party last year. We hung out whenever we saw each other at their parties, but didn't really start communicating outside of that until February. We hit it off and were dating about a month later. This wasn't the first relationship either of us had been in, so we both had some hangups, but we worked through those and always communicated really well. Neither of his past relationships were really healthy, and neither of the girls involved were emotionally/mentally stable, but I did my best to reassure him that I wouldn't be like them. There were never any fights. We were supportive of one another. We were happy.

Then I moved here for my temporary job placement. Basically I'm in college, but I will be rotating semesters of school and work until I graduate, so I will be back on campus in January. We still talked everyday. He came to visit me over Labor Day weekend, and we had a wonderful time together.

I told him I loved him. He told me he wasn't ready for that yet, that he was hesitant to get that deeply involved yet because of his horrid past relationships. But he had made it clear through both actions and words that he cared about me, so I told him I would wait as long as he needed to warm up to the idea. Everything carried on as if nothing happened. Then a week later it turned into "I don't know if I can love". Everything carried on as normal. Then last week, it was "This was easy and comfortable, and you didn't do anything wrong, but my heart isn't in it. I'm sorry." This was after we had already made several plans for next weekend, when I'm going back to visit my home state, and after he told me he missed me and called me "baby" the night before.

Maybe I should have known this would happen when he couldn't say with any certainty how he felt after six months. Maybe I was too understanding and too willing to forgive. Maybe I scared him away. Maybe I was always more invested in this than he was. It wouldn't be the first time that has happened to me.

Or maybe he just wasn't ready for a more serious relationship. Maybe he doesn't know what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like, considering his dating history and equally awful family background, and got scared. I don't think he would ever try to intentionally hurt me. His actions showed that he did care about me to some degree. But if he wasn't ready, I wish it didn't take trampling all over my feelings to realize that.

At least he had the decency to let me go before I wasted too much of my time. Although, in time, I don't think I'll look at it as time wasted. We were happy and always had fun together, and maybe one day soon we could be friendly.

But I think the lesson here is that you can do everything right, but things sometimes just don't work out. There's nothing you can do about it but accept it. It will hurt - even though it was only six months, I still miss him every day and dream about him every night. But one day, I will go a whole day without thinking about him. And one day, I will run into him on campus, and I will smile, say hello, and go on with my life. And one day, I'll meet someone who is just as invested as I am. Who loves me, too. Because I deserve to be loved back.

I hope you don't get offended by this but watch a movie called 'Mrs.Doubtfire'. It is a movie about a man who goes too far in partying, resulting as a divorce with his wife, and his 3 children. In the end, They are divorced, but He gets to see his kids more often.

The Wife(Divorced) sees the man cosplaying as a old woman on TV who gives advice to a child, whose parents, are also divorcing. Sometimes you may or may not get back together, but they should not fight everytime they see each other. I hope you find another man who loves you more than him, but maybe he did it because he loved you. Maybe it was because he was frustrated, maybe he was sad, angry, or un-attracted to your relationship.

Dunno How I said this, but in MANGA one-shots, some couples get back together, and some don't. The lesson, is that you can still love each other but still, not date. I sound stupid.

Hi , I'm MJ. I think you already have the right attitude to be honest. It sounds as though you kinda know what you need to do. You're on the right track. Your last paragraph says it all to be honest. Use college and Subeta as distractions. You're away from home, but see it as an opportunity to make new friends. I'm always around if you want to vent some more.