I had a friend who had an alchoholic parent so I know how frustrating it can be.Maybe try having the two of you go to a therapy session together? Thats my best advice,&good luck to you :)

that's a really really tough situation and firstly i just wanted to say that the things your mother says about you being controlling/ruining everyone's fun she absolutely doesn't mean. a girl i used to know has a father much the same way, even walking out of the therapist's office shouting expletives and ending up ultimately banned from the office-- he knows he has a problem but not being in control of it makes him angry and he takes it out on those trying to help him.

i know you two have argued about the topic before, but maybe you can try a different approach. you can sit her down and tell her that you know she loves you and that you love her, you know start out with a compliment, then tell her the ways that it affects you so much without explicitly implying that it's all her fault or that she has a problem. tell her that you two have to work together because it's vital for your health. maybe then you can suggest having a therapy session together (with a diff therapist) and see if that helps any.

if worse comes to worst, you should really consider telling your psychiatrist, support worker, etc because it's essential that they know especially if your mother's addiction is reaping such detrimental affects on you. it must be so difficult to be in this situation where you have to make such a huge decision, and there is always the risk of your mother getting in trouble, but it has got to be better than suffering in this situation when changes are obviously not being made. i'm sorry i can't understand what you're going through and the amount of stress that you are under but i truly hope that things work out for you, whichever way you wanna go about the situation. hopefully you do take action, even though it may hurt to think about at the moment. best of luck to you❤️ ❤️

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good luck to you!! you didn't make the wrong decision hug hope things start to improve very very soon :)

You definitely need to tell. You need to keep a log if you can of when and how much she drinks so that your therapist and those who are helping you to cope with your ailments can possibly help her. If possible I would see if someone else can be your caretaker as well as she obviously isn't doing what she needs. Frankly not admitting to herself that this is hurting you is wrong. No mother should just sit back and continue drinking knowing that it's hurting their child as much as it is obviously hurting you.

You deserve the care you need to help you with your day to day functions. I hope things do get better but yes definitely tell someone!