So, yet again, I need your advice, Subeta. This is very long and a bit TMI, so ... yeah.

I've been dating this guy for around 4 or 5 months. We've only had one big fight up until now, and that was over my getting too drunk on a party bus, followed by passing out on said bus and vomiting on my passed out self. He was pissed that I ruined his good time and embarrassed him in front of everyone. He told me how he felt a few days later and I promised I would control my drinking and I have, so problem solved.

Just last Saturday we went out for St. Patrick's day and I got pretty buzzed. His friends were all there, including one who was super wasted. While my boyfriend was outside, I talked to his drunk friend, who asked if we'd ever done anal. I responded with the truth, that we had both wanted to try and I had brought lubricant one night, but then he was too tired and fell asleep. That's all that happened and all that I said.

So, I immediately felt terrible for telling his friend about private things like that. When my boyfriend was driving me home, I decided to tell him what happened. He was pretty pissed off and I asked if he was mad at me, but he wouldn't really answer and just said to ask him tomorrow. I'm a very resolution-oriented person and I hate not having closure, so I pretty much bugged him for 10 minutes about how sorry I was and how I'd do anything he wanted if he would just forgive me.

I texted him once after he dropped me off around 1 a.m. and basically told him I was sincerely sorry and asked if he still wanted to hang out next week. I then texted him again around 2 p.m. on Sunday, apologizing and admitting I said something I shouldn't have, but it would not happen again. I haven't received any response from him since then, and I know he's been on Facebook, so he's clearly ignoring me.

The thing is, I hate not knowing where we stand right now. I've told him before that if he ever wants to break up with me, that he should just text/call me and not string me along, because I respect honesty. Frankly, I'm worried he's just ignoring me and hoping I'll take the hint that he's no longer interested. But the least he could do is text me, right? Or is he just giving me the silent treatment? Thoughts? I've been going crazy with worry. :/

Whatever he's doing, it sounds pretty immature. However, you also did something that betrayed his trust.

Right, I totally get that. I take full responsibility for messing up and betraying his trust. I just wish he would tell me where we stand right now -- even if it's bad news.

Try giving him a couple of days to cool off. It's understandable that he would be pissed off. That is something private. But don't beat yourself up. We've all had those, "Foot in Mouth" moments. Give it a few days and try talking to him again. If he still doesn't give you a chance, perhaps he isn't the person for you.

Thanks for the advice. We were supposed to go to a hockey game this Thursday, and when he dropped me off I asked him several times if he still wanted to go with me, to which he said that he did. However, I'm thinking he was just trying to get me out of his hair, since he hasn't responded to my text asking if he still wanted to go. I guess I'll text him Wednesday night? Hopefully things work out. :/

You're welcome :). Wednesday night would be a good time. That's plenty of time to cool off. I hope everything works out for the best

Well imo you shouldnt worry about it. If he is being pissy and needs his time alone, give it to me. If he's just pissy, ignore him and dont feed into the immaturity. I'm not really understanding why you admitted to telling his friend all that, lmao :x I know it's private but i think it's the kind of things guys WOULD talk about if left to their own devices, and if you didnt even mean to spill that much info.. i'd just forget about it and hope the friend never mentioned it again ;x

I feel like I can give you some pretty good advice, as I have been in a very similar situation this past week/weekend myself (only, not getting drunk.)

My bf and I have been having an argument, and like you, I wanted definite answers. So I bugged my bf...for a week, but all I got was "idk". I eventually grew sick of the pain, so I opened up to on of our mutual friends. I totally regret doing that, because I know it was something kind of...personal to both of us and I should've kept it just between my boyfriend and I.

Like you, I grew guilty and told him. He was ticked as well. It caused us to cancel our plans for the following day, and he ignored me all that day until the night time, when he finally replied to me.

Since your situation sounds dead on like my situation (minus the fact that things happened because you were buzzed), it makes me believe that he is just giving you the silent treatment and ignoring you for a bit. It hurts, but it may be for the best, honestly. Having a conversation when he is completely ticked off at you will not make anything better.

Just give him another day or so. I think he is just blowing off steam. He'll probably still be upset when he does reply to you, but you two will be able to work it out and he will hopefully forgive you. At the same time, you'll really have to be careful about drinking; it's caused you two tough situations already. I realize it was St. Patrick's Day, but I highly suggest setting yourself limits next time.

Wow, definitely sounds like a similar situation. And like you, he finally replied to me tonight. Basically, everything is okay, he just said he was disappointed with what happened, but that we're still on for Thursday. Sweet, sweet relief. And yeah, I've been limiting myself to two beers at most, but the bartender offered me a free shot and I stupidly took it. -bangs head- Thanks for the advice and I hope everything continues to go well between you and your boyfriend!

Lawlz, oh the coincidence. It is a GREAT relief when disagreements get resolved. I absolutely hate fights and they freak me out, lol.

Very glad that you two were able to work it out. And thank you!

He sounds like he's just being incredibly immature by giving you the silent treatment.

But idk if a personal story will help, but when I first got together with my boyfriend, something similar happened. We both had the same mutual best friend, a girl, and he used to previously like her before he met me. After him and I got together he told her about what sexual stuff we'd tried, how it was when I lost my virginity to him, positions we'd tried so far, etc. and she came up to me at school the next day and was like "omg! You won't believe what Joseph told me!" and I was just like... oh shit.

This girl was an insane loudmouth and she told me everything he'd told her, plus she was an idiot and decided to share the story in front of 3 or so of my friends. I wasn't really THAT embarrassed- I'm very open about sex if someone asks me personally, but I did feel betrayed that he shared this story not only with someone who we all know is a loud-mouth, but I also felt weird about him talking so deeply about sex to another girl. It almost felt like cheating or something in a way. But yeah long-story-short I confronted him and he felt like crap. He didn't really realize how much he'd told her or really why, he was just excited to vent about the subject and let too much info out I guess. I'm still not sure why he did it, but that was years ago and I'm definitely over it. It's something that can be easily overcome with a good talk.

I just set a boundary and said to him "you can talk about whatever you want between you and your guy friends because I know I can trust them to keep it private. Everyone wants to talk about sex sometimes, I get it, no big deal. But don't tell Cassie anything ever again because she'll tell everyone. Keep sex talk between GUYS, don't share things about me with other girls". He's respected it ever since. You just need to tell him to buck up, be mature, and talk to you if he's upset. If you've never discussed boundaries like this before, he can't be too angry at you. You made a mistake and it's not your fault because you didn't know better, you're not a mind reader. If he has a problem with it, he should tell you and solve it instead of ignore you.

Yeah, I'm definitely not a fan of the silent treatment, but sometimes people need time to cool off, I guess. And thanks for sharing your story. It definitely made me feel better about things, especially because we haven't discussed any boundaries along these lines until now. You've made me feel so much better, so thanks a ton. :3