Before I made a half hour trip to the courthouse, I need some input. I am terrified of my son's father trying to do something to us, whether it be him taking off with my son again, or him physically hurting my boyfriend or I. I was informed he's hanging around town when he lives three towns over, and it's been very close to where I live. I'm even nervous to go into my own kitchen, because the window faces an alley, and he does own a rifle. =/

Would this fear alone be enough for a PFA or restraining order? He has no custody of my son whatsoever, but he's telling people I'm keeping him from him. I do not have a cell phone anymore, and the only mean of communication I have with anyone is through the computer. He has my email addresses.

I don't know. I'm getting scared. I know he's gonna try something.

Wow. I'm sorry no one has commented on this yet. I read what you wrote and from the sounds of it you have every right to WANT a restraining order set against him. I am no expert, but from what I've heard you need some kind of evidence (physical, or substantial enough to prove what your ex is doing) in order to legally get a restraining order set in place.

Your absolute best bet would be to talk to legal aide, someone in the profession that can help you, give advice, and explain where to go from there. I wish you luck. In the mean time please stay safe. ^_^

I would definitely recommend that you talk to legal aid or something like that. It sort of depends on where you live, but from what I understand most places require that you have some sort of evidence. In a lot of places though, testimony from other people as to the character of the person is good enough. Some places are iffy on restraining orders if you aren't related to or involved with the person, but since he's the father of your child that shouldn't be an issue. You can also always call the court house and ask them what they think. They can't really give you legal advice, but they can at least tell you what they require.

Thanks for your help, and . Everyone around me has seen how he is and what he's done to my son and I. And it's absolutely ridiculous he's still going around running his mouth, considering I haven't even spoken to him in over a month.

Definitely make some phone calls and talk to some legal officials. Good luck. :)

Collect as much evidence as you can. Start consulting people to help protect you. If you can't get a RO right now, I'm sure once you seek help you can learn how to build enough evidence to get one.

My ex was harassing and stalking me. He followed me around school (principals and hall monitors witnessed it). He sent me threatening texts and pictures of him cutting himself. I saved those and showed them to the police and to my school. After writing some statements and gathering enough evidence, I got a restraining order.