Sorry for the long story.

I feel like an idiot in everything i do. I always play back the event or conversation and think 'you idiot!'. It can be with anything I do. The way i spoke to a class mate sounded creepy, the way i answered the phone made me sound dumb, the way i forgot my instructions from work, the way i cant learn stuff in class.

Any and everything, i feel like im constantly putting myself down. But i wouldnt care if it qasnt for the strange looks and remarks. Im better than i was, people tell me to ignore others or dont care what they think. Its just hard for me not to care, i try....and tell myself i dont care...but i still do. In a way i dont care,but im tired of the world thinking im a dumby. So most of the time i dont talk at all cUse i dont wanna make a fool out of myself. Sigh...

Does anyone have this problem? Any advise?

I try to keep just chugging along with life. Feels like a drag often though knowing im going to wake up feeling so down each day.

I felt like this for most of my teenage years. Have you considered that you might be depressed? When I've been depressed I get ridiculously self critical and it destroys my self confidence. My advice would be to speak to a doctor about it.

I'm 23! Yeah, I was a worse my teenage years. Thank God I got out of those. It was such a dark time for me...

I never though I might be depressed, but maybe. i haven't seen a doctor, because I feel a bit foolish. I'm on my parent's insurance still (Which they would laugh) if I went to the doctor for that. Though, I wanna. But thank you! I'll see what I can do

My teenage years were pretty dark too, looking back I have no idea how I'm still sane!

I think you should go for it. Even if they laugh at you, if it ends up helping you out then it's got to be worth it. Try this test: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/interactive/interactivetests/goldberg.php It's only an online test, like, but I'd say it's fairly accurate.

I have this problem, too. Idk if there's a way to solve it, but like you I'm better than I was in my teenage years so maybe it's just something to do with time and growing up. Sometimes days are particularly awful and tedious, like living in a public campus environment leads to a lot of embarrassing and awkward situations for me that drive me nuts. Like accidentally not holding a door open for someone behind me or awkwardly thanking a cashier wrong; it's silly how much I think about those little things. But, I just try to remind myself of all the things I'm doing right, too; and how far I've come since high school. I'm a lot bolder than I used to be and I'm not really sure why; but it makes me think if I can have any sort of growth at all with this then maybe I can overcome it.

Oh goodness, I rated a 39. 36 - 53 Moderate to severe depression Maybe I should think about seeing a doctor. Even if thats an online test, Geeze. What type of doctor would I look for? Would i just ask my primary doctor?

I thought that theses feelings would of been finished. I'm thankful that I'm not suicidal like I was, The though repulses me now days. Oh wow, you sound just like me. Its little things that upset me and I feel awkward and stupid all throughout the day. I keep telling myself that it shouldn't be a big deal, and the person would forget by tomorrow. But yes, it must just be another growing hump to overcome. I know ni life people are always growing and I'm thankful how far i've come from highschool. (Leaps and bounds) I love the person I am (mostly), used to not.

Its not easy, but try changing your thought pattern. When you think "I'm an idiot" or other derogatory things, literately shake your head no, and think "okay, I made a mistake, I will learn from it."

Then examine what you did. If you said something that sounds wrong, imagine someone else saying it - does it still sound wrong? If not, you are judging yourself more harshly than you judge others and probably also judging others' reactions to you. You see someone frown and feel like its directed at you, maybe they're just frowning at something inside their own head that has nothing to do with you. If, on the other hand, is still sounds wrong coming from someone else, then think about why you said it and how you should say it in the future.

Do the same thing in other situations. You mentioned forgetting instructions at work - well what are solutions for that? Maybe carry around a small notebook you can jot down instructions in. Having problems in classes? People learn things in different ways, some people need "hands-on", some people need lectures, some people need to write things out, some need one-on-one instruction. Try working out how you learn best and see what resources your school has to help you learn that way. Its not that you can't learn, its that schools tend to have a "one-size" fits all approach, its their problem not yours.

And as said you may also be dealing with depression and you should talk to a doctor about that.

Yeah, just pop in to your normal doctor and tell them how you've been feeling. If it helps any, I went to the doctor two days ago with depression. I was really nervous, but she was super nice and prescribed me some anti-depressants. I used to be anti-drugs like that, but they're non-addictive and I believe they'll do me a lot of good.

Everything is worse when you're depressed. I think if you can combat your depression your head will be clearer, things will fall into place and your problems wont seem nearly as bad.

Thank you, I'll try thinking like that next time I get the thoughts in my mind.
And thankyou

I first noticed I had this problem when I was sick on a painkiller. Upon taking it (I wasnt addicted), It was like I saw the world in a different light. I started doing things I've been wanting to do, i was cheerful, wasn't negative..I was over all happy. Granted, that might of been like the drug...but I saw what I was missing out in life. Like someone took the wool off my eyes.

I'll see if i can speak to my doctor, thankyou. I know this is a bit strange, but would you know where to find an online psyc i could talk to?

I have been through the same situation as you. I finally consulted with my family doctor and she was able to give me some resources that helped me change my way of thinking. The main thing solution is to realize that these are negative thoughts and that we are exaggerating them. As soon as I catch myself thinking something negative I say to myself, "this is not healthy thinking," and I look at the situation that is bothering in a different way. For example, maybe I saw a friend while I was out that day and waved at them, but they didn't wave back. I used to automatically think, "they obviously saw me and didn't wave back because they dislike me." This is both negative and likely false. So I instead come up with some more likely alternatives like, they were probably busy and in a hurry, maybe they didn't recognize me, maybe she didn't see me. It's Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, and I'm glad that I discovered this skill by going to my doctor. I also take an antidepressant, but CBT and that together have significantly improved my mood.

I'm 18 and I have the same problem. I think what helps me is that I try not to see it as that big of a deal. I just try to say, well there's nothing I can do about it now. All you really can do is look ahead and just keep walking forward. Yes, I feel stupid, but that means that person I was talking to will just underestimate my true intelligence in the future. And if I don't ever see them again, then who cares? They don't know me. Also, say things with confidence. Even if you're not making any sense. Others will see your confidence and think that they are the stupid ones for not understanding what you are talking about.