Every time I meet someone that I could potentially have a friendship with (male or female) it always seems like there's a sexual undertone in our relationship. For example, I just recently I met this really nice guy at work that had a lot in common with me. I told him I had a boyfriend and he was okay with just being friends at first. I had him over and he ended up being extremely pushy, and getting a bit too physical for my liking. I told him I didn't want to be with him sexually and he got upset with me and won't talk to me anymore. It's not always the other person either. One of my managers and I are very friendly (probably too much so) and I want he and I to be friends outside of work. Unfortunately there's a strong sexual connection between us and it's definitely mutual this time. It's almost like I have trouble making strictly FRIENDS and it always develops into something more.
It just seems like all of my relationships have to be based off of sex and I can't have a platonic friendship. At this point in my life, I'm working 2 jobs 7 days a week and when I meet someone who shows interest in me I get overzealous because I don't really have any friends and maybe they take it as affection. Right now the only person I hang out with consistently is my boyfriend of 2 years. He's really my only emotional support and I know that isn't healthy. I just have a really hard time meeting people, and when I do it just never seems to work out the way I wanted it to. :/
At this point I've almost given up on finding someone that lives near me to hang out with. All of my high school friends went off to college (I dropped out :( ) and I only see/talk to them in the summer, so I am desperately trying to find friendship closer to home. I just don't know what to do at this point because I'm almost afraid to get involved with someone else seeing as it always seems to turn out the same way.

Aw, this is so much me. Though, I don't have a problem making friends anymore, and I could tell you why :) The trick is to stop living by the rules set up by people who have lower libido than you. For them, sexual attraction might mean a lot, yes. But if you have a higher libido, you basically can afford to treat sex more casually, like it's no big deal. And adjusting your mindset like that will eventually give you a better control over your sexual desires. It's like your thinking changes from "oh no I want to fuck my friend what do I do" to something more like "jeez you're such an awesome friend I got a boner haha". I think this might help you just like it helped me ^_^ I have a bunch of friends now — not too many, but they're all good, trustworthy people. I flirt with them often, and sometimes I do a bit more, but only if I'm sure it won't hurt our friendship.

, I agree with what you're saying. Naturally I am a HUGE flirt and I think I might unintentionally lead people on. I don't really mean to be, it's just how I am. It's just hard when you already have a significant other and are strictly looking for friends right now. :c My boyfriend is always hesitant when I meet a new friend who's a guy for this reason. ;/

Yeah, that's a problem... I think it helps to sometimes remind people that you're not being overly serious with your flirting, just to make sure they don't develop any romantic feelings. And of course it's better to surround yourself with people who have zero interest in you sexually/romantically; in your case it would be heterosexual women, asexuals, people who are already in a happy relationship, etc. As for your boyfriend, err... I am in an open relationship personally, so I don't really know. How much do you trust each other? Do you have any secrets/activities that you only share with each other and no one else? Things like that create a very strong bond between partners usually.

, I trust him VERY much. And I think he trusted me up until this crazy guy started stalking me. We do some things together, but we could really use a new activity just for us, heh. I'll have to try it. He and I are both very much home bodies, so it can't be toooo exciting haha. I wish our relationship was open but he is strictly monogamous. ;/ Being bisexual there are some needs I have he just can't satisfy.

Did you talk to your boyfriend about your sexual needs before the relationship? I mean, if someone I love would be truthful with me in that case, and would say "I am very casual about sex and need something else sometimes" I most probably would accept it - actually this all depends on how much they emotionally love me, and how much I love them. But if the person tells me all this and THEN I start a relationship I just have to deal with their "casual sex". :)

I would even be more tolerant with a bisexual partner who needs some other needs I can't satisfy, sooo~ :)

, I wish it could be like that. He is EXTREMELY monogamous. I mean what straight guy turns down a three-some with 2 cute girls? d: But in all seriousness, he would never go for it. He's very protective and possessive of me. He's almost too lovey-dovey sometimes and it makes me feel smothered.

Actually if I'd be a guy, I'd most probably never say no to a threesome. XD Buuut, did he know about your opinion on casual sex before your relationship started? I mean, a relationship is not "re-education" if both know beforehand what the partner needs and wants. :)

At least tolerating your bisexuality and allowing you to have a woman sometimes should be a topic for you both to talk about. It is not that you love him less then, but if you see sex as something more casual like drinking cocoa with friends or going shopping- you can also have sex alone from time to time. At least in my opinion. :)

I know I'd live strictly monogamous as well, but if my partner wants something else every once in a while, I'd be okay with it. :D