So I went out with a guy named Matt for about 2 1/2 weeks. I'm 19, and I've never been in a relationship before. Two days ago, he told me we haven't been connecting yet, so we kinda broke it off. I'm a shy and nervous-natured person, so it takes me a while to be comfortable and myself around people. I feel like we haven't had enough time to get acquainted with each other, and we both agreed that we pushed things too quickly in the relationship. He said right now we're just good friends and that we should build our friendship more and see how it goes from there. Is this a good idea? I still really like him, and I've been told we should've stayed together but take things slowly and not give the friend status since we're both kinda trying to work things out. I'm not sure what to do really. As you can tell, I'm clearly not experienced at this. lol

did you guys know one another beforehand? it doesn't seem like you guys were.. friends before jumping into a relationship, which for me is a big no no.

imo two people should always do the "oh i'm talking to this guy" thing, where you aren't IN the relationship yet, but the both of you are edging towards that and getting to know one another. y'know like just hanging out, whether it be a lunch date or going somewhere fun, talking to them, etc. you can't expect a relationship to work if you don't know one another.

you guys are older (or i'm guessing he's around your age at aleast), this isn't 6th grade where it's just 'he's my boyfriend/she's my girlfriend'. communication is key in a worthwhile lasting relationship and that starts with getting to know one another, going through your qualifiers/disqualifiers, and then pulling him in and getting that boyfriend lol

i think it was a good idea to break it off and to investigate whether or not you are compatible as friends. i got the impression that you didn't know this guy before dating and you both probably jumped in to the dating thing either due to outside pressure (ie peers) or personal pressure (ie lust) and clearly that wasn't a good idea.

also, however, i question whether or not this guy wants to try to have a relationship with you in the future. maybe? i dunno. it just seems that if a guy gave that kind of reply, he didn't sense a connection right away and probably doesn't want to invest any more time in it. nothing wrong with that. however maybe i'm wrong. maybe you can hang out together and he can change his mind.

at any rate, don't beat yourself up over this. EVERYONE puts on airs when they date someone for the first time. every first few dates you have with someone is complete nonsense in the sense that you aren't being 100% yourself. you have plenty of time to get your feet wet with dating and getting to know someone else. i wouldn't lose too much sleep over this.