I admit I am a jealous person. A very jealous person. My boyfriend's group of friends mostly consist of girls, and even though they're his friends, I don't trust other girls. I've told my boyfriend this, and he understands how I feel. But that's not why I started this topic. My question is, is it normal for a guy to not get jealous? My boyfriend never seems to be jealous when I tell him I'm talking to my guy friends or if I'm going to hang out with my guy friends. I ask him sometimes if he does ever get jealous, and he says he does a little bit, but not very often. My mom thinks it's really weird that he never gets jealous, and hurt my feelings over it one night by saying, "If a man doesn't get jealous, then he doesn't care about you," so naturally I was really upset. TL;DR is it normal for a man to not get jealous?

Its normal for some people (not genders exclusive) to not feel jealousy. I don't feel jealousy, but my fiance does. At the end of the day, jealousy is unhealthy anyway, you have nothing to worry about. As long as he tries to make you happy, he cares about you.

He does make me happy, so that is what matters. Thanks for responding :) Do you have any advice on how to not be so jealous?

A little jealousy is both normal and healthy, but I think what you described for your boyfriend is perfectly normal.

He isn't jealous because trusts both you and your male friends when you're together. You say you trust him, but that you don't trust his female friends? You should really work on that. If left unchecked, it can cause some serious damage to your relationship in the future. Is it possible for you to get to know these female friends of his a little better? Sometimes that's all it takes - spend some time with them, and you'll probably find that you have absolutely nothing to be worried about.

That being said, your trust in him should ultimately trump your distrust of other women. Their intentions could be questionable, but so long as you believe your boyfriend would put a stop to anything they might try to pull, that's really all that should matter.

Sure, it seems to me that the root of your jealousy is a lack of trust in people. Perhaps try to imagine yourself in their shoes; you said yourself that you have male friends, who are just friends and nothing more. That's what your boyfriend is to those girls. Trying to get to know them and hang out with them together and see them as people rather than threats is a good idea as well. Another reason many people get jealous is because they have low self-confidence and thus are worried that the other girls will be better than them and that their SO will realize it. Do you think this could be part of it for you? I have lots of information on self-confidence boosters.

Thanks for responding. My boyfriend and I actually talked about it yesterday, and decided that I should meet his friends. One of them actually wants to meet me, so now it's just a matter of finding a time to meet them. I actually do have a few self-confidence issues, so I know that's one of the reasons I get jealous. Since my boyfriend and I started dating though, over time, my confidence has grown quite a bit. I still have some work to do though XD

That's really good. I recommend writing out a list of things that are good about you and reciting them before you go to bed or after you wake up; it seems silly but it causes a cool psychological effect that basically leads you to have improved self-confidence. :)

Both my partner and I are extremely jealous, although I'm a bit worse than him :/ (I have good reasons for being jealous though) I hate most of his female friends, not just because I'm jealous, but most of them are assholes and try to get him to leave me, thankfully he's gotten rid of those friends, but I'm still suspicious about the ones he does still talk to. My ex on the other hand... he wouldn't get jealous no matter what, even when someone told him I had sex with another guy, he just didn't care, which is probably part of why I left him. I guess it just differs depending on the person :/

I'm quite a jealous person but I've got better at managing it as time goes on. The main reason I get jealous is because I'm insecure and not confident but I'm now realising my boyfriend does love me and is unlikely to want to go off with someone else so I'm worrying less about it. My boyfriend doesn't really get jealous at all because he's a more confident person.

I think it's fine when people aren't jealous, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. It just means that he's secure in your relationship and trusts you.

i have had boyfriends in the past who would never get jealous, but cared about me deeply. but my current boyfriend is a very jealous guy. sometimes it's really cute, and sometimes it's just ridiculous, but i love him regardless. sometimes guys don't like to show their feelings, like there weak side of being jealous. a lot of guys try to hide it, because if their friends are around sometimes they give each other crap. i only know this because i use to have a lot of guy friends and that's what would happen.

if he didn't care about you, then he wouldn't be dating you, sweetie. just ask him one day, and be like, "do you ever get jealous?" and maybe he does, and just doesn't like to tell you, or show you. i wish you the best.

I actually met one of his friends on Saturday, and she actually is someone I already knew, and I like her a lot, and we're friends now XD

I think I might try that just to help my confidence :) Thank you!

That's why I don't like a lot of them because I don't know what they're telling him, they could be telling him to leave me, but I wouldn't know. He doesn't see them very often anyway, so I don't have much to worry about. I hope things get better for you -hugs-

That's what he told me =) I've felt a lot better about everything now

You're right, I know he does care about me, more than a lot of things. I asked him if he does get jealous, and he said sometimes, but not really because he trusts me and knows I love him and that he has no reason to be jealous knowing those things, so that made me feel a lot more confident about us. =)

oh wow, well that's awesome! i'm glad that it worked out.