I have been wanting to break up with my boyfriend for a while now. I love him, but just as a friend. The catch is: I live with him. And leases are just...--not break-up friendly. We live together in a 2 bedroom/2 bathroom (VERY NICE Apartment), but it's just us. He wanted to get a place this big because he likes his space. He also doesn't like people. Seriously. There are very few people he feels comfortable around. So, it's not like I can break-up, move out and everything is roses. I feel guilty since we have this place until next July, but I don't know if I want to hold out that long to end things. He can't afford it by himself, but I'm positive if we break up ONE of us has to leave.

I've talked to him about the possibility of ending things and he is extremely against that. He wants us to go to Couple's Counselling or for us to just go on a break for a while (I move out for a couple days/weeks and then come back) and see how things are fairing. I would totally jump up on that move out idea, except that I moved HERE for him a year ago and I haven't found any friends that I could stay with or anything like that. It's a college town and if you're not in a sorority or fraternity then you don't fit in.

That sounds like a tough situation. :/ I think you need to be honest with him. That's what a relationship is about right? I don't think it's fair on you or him if you just continued to hang onto this relationship until next July though.

It sounds like you've been thinking about this for a while yourself. You need to sit down with him and be honest and open about your feelings. If you don't want to be with him, and you're sure that you don't want to give couple's counseling a try, then that is completely up to you. You're right that you won't be able to continue living together if you break up, and leases are an issue there. So choices will have to be made. You can either tough it out for the next few months, or find out from your landlord if someone can take over part of the lease agreement. You said he doesn't really like anyone, but maybe you can find someone to move in with you and he could move out?

Whatever you decide to do, just remember to remain as calm as possible when you're having your discussions to try to keep the peace. Yelling will get you nowhere. And good luck. Ending a relationship is a very hard thing to do, especially if you have a significant other who is resistant to the idea. Just be strong. hugs