Alright, so my best friend that I met online has been recently the past few months dating his ex. She has hurt him in the past, and if I remember correctly, used to harass him to no end after the relationship ended.

So what happened? Suddenly they're friends again, and without telling anyone, just giving small hints, his friend and I figured out that he was dating her again.

And we absolutely hate her. I know thats a strong word to use, but we do. And recently he just starting to make us feel useless more and more.

Finally I told him my opinion, how his reason for dating, just so he wouldnt be alone, was just as bad as how I used to date my online friends just to make them happy. How it means it truly doesnt mean you love that person and you're not happy with them.

And after everything I said, I panicked, I was afraid he was going to hate me forever. So my friend I was texting at the same time thought I should just log off and give him some time to let what I said sink in. And I did, however yesterday I got an email about how upset he was, and how people like me are what make him upset, the kind that just makes you feel hurt and abandon.

I understand leaving him like that was wrong, and I will take whatever he says to me.

But I still need to hear from someone who isnt my friend this, do you think what I did was right? My friends keep saying I did the right thing.. but I'm starting to wonder if I was better off saying what he wanted to hear.

If he's really your friend, he should understand that you only have his best interests in mind and that you were only trying to tell him your honest opinion. Sometimes the truth it hard to hear, and when someone's already down and confused about something, it only makes it worse to get more bad news.

I think signing off was a bad move on your part, because he probably felt like you attacked him with your opinion and then just left him without even hearing him out. I understand why he'd feel hurt by that, you didn't really give him a chance to reply, which is of course frustrating. You should definitely send him an email response and offer to get online so you can tell him why you did what you did and you can give him his chance to talk.

I think you voicing your opinion was definitely the right thing to do. I think it takes a real friend to be able to stand up to another friend and tell them the honest truth, being honest isn't always easy. I think the way you handled it after you gave him your opinion is where you messed up. It sounds like he's just being sensitive, but by emailing you, at least he wants to make an effort to talk to you, so this definitely sounds like it can be repaired.

Dude, you were obviously saving his ass from his ex. The best thing to do, honestly.

I would've done the same.

I understand I messed up when it came to waiting for his reply. And that is because I am not used to building up such courage to tell a friend this sort of thing. I've always said what people wanted to hear, not what they needed. So this was a huge scary jump for me. I'll try to be strong when that time comes. However... My worst weakness is probably my friends sadness, I fall apart as soon as I know their sad. I'm glad to know I did the right thing. thank you.

It's glad you're a good friend, telling the truth is ALWAYS better than lying, even though sometimes they don't react favorably towards the truth. But in enough time he'll realize that you're not the bad guy and you have his best interests at heart. Just explain that to him and I'm sure all will be well soon enough.

Good luck !

He and I are talking again. however he thinks why I reacted that way was out of jealousy. I tried to explain that isnt true, but he doesnt agree. At this point its out of my control, if I say anything more he'll just get pissed off. i'm glad that I finally got it out though. I've been wanting to say that for two months now. And I think I'm just going to stay out of his relationship problems. He really hurt me when he wouldnt trust in the reason why I said those things. Now he's lost my trust. At least now everything is better. And you help a little a long the way, so I would like to say thank you.

Well, it all takes time.Just give it a bit of time, and everything will work out.He'll understand.You are just trying to protect him.He may not see it now, but he will.

Ah, I don't blame you. I'm not one to have guts when it comes to situations like that, like with my ex-friend, but only because she was messing around with my boyfriend, I ended our friendship. c:

Like said, give it time. c:

I agree completely with both of you. Sadly though from the way things are looking either one of the following will happen by the time he realizes, there's a possibility that he and I may no longer be friends then or she'll just hurt him again. Or even both. And thats not just me saying this, his friend is agreeing with that.

I probably would have done the same if I was in that situation. I wish I could have handle this one a tad better in my opinion. I'm still somewhat recovering. For awhile I actually thought he was right, that it was out of jealously. But then I just remembered all those times I was there for him after the first time he broke up with her. I do hope he realizes this soon or later. If not.. well you gain some and you lose some in life. I'm not going to bother sitting around worrying if he's okay. I'm in college now as of a couple weeks ago and seriously need to start living life. if he has a problem he knows he can text me. After all. life isn't as fun when you're smile is upside down. ^_^

Hmm...I wish you all the best of luck Hiruma.All you can do is be his friend, and try to help him.

Thank you. I really do appreciate you and everyones messages, It really makes me feel like it wasnt a mistake to post this on here.

Your welcome.It'll take time, but everything will be alright.

I think that it was an okay thing to do. Especially because you did it to try to help him, not to be spiteful or rude. I'd say, just give it some time, and then once he's ready, talk to him about it in person. c:

He'll come around, and if not, then his lost, am I right? c: I wouldn't worry about him, but you should worry about your own self since you are in college and have a life unlike him, especially if he gets an attitude when you're saving your friendship between the both of you.

Sorry if this post is confusing, I'm sleepy. x3