So my guy friend (we'll call him J) is dating this other guy (we'll call him G) and they've been together for going on eight months now, and I can see that J is starting to get a bit more annoyed with G.

It's not that he's absolutely annoyed with G, but I'm starting to get worried. Some of the things that J has told me is making not only me mad, but also him.

G has said that if you're not in Honors classes, you're automatically stupid. I'm in all CP classes, not even one Honors class, and I'm in no way not intellectual; I just do not apply myself as much as I should in school. G has also yelled at J multiple times to just shut up, and is still keeping secrets from J, which makes J worried.

This is actually J's first boyfriend, so I feel like he doesn't really know what to do. I'm worried for J, because I can see this going down a very dangerous path.

I know this isn't really my place to be bothered about or anything, but I don't want J getting hurt since he's one of my closest friends right now. I also don't want J getting mad at me if I stick my nosy butt into their relationship...

So here's basically what I'm asking; talk to J about my concerns or just leave the two be and see how things unfold?

Did G say that to your face, or just out in the open? I think it's good that you're reacting; J's your friend and you want the best for your friends, and by telling you all that he has kind of let you in on their situation anyway. If you give him your opinions, be sure that he knows that you're only doing it because you care, and as long as you only give advice he has a choice to take it or not. Has J tried to talk to G about these things?

J has tried to talk, but G always keeps him in the dark, so I guess J just let's it go. And no, he hasn't ever said it to my face, but still, if that's what he thinks, then my opinion of him has dropped. I'll try speaking with J tomorrow during class to see if things are really as okay as he makes them out to be.

One thing I want to say is that people say really stupid things and often don't mean them directly as they're said. And if he hasn't said it to your face or been swinging his opinion all over the place, you can't totally believe it. Give him the benefit of the doubt, but talk to your friend and say you're just trying to support him, and suggest maybe he talks over his issues if there are. Just be there!

G not wanting to share at all, and not giving a reason to why he's keeping it to himself, that signals a red flag to me. J should really step up and figure out what's the matter, otherwise it'll just ruin their relationship further, but all you can do right now is give advice if he asks for it and otherwise be there for him as a friend.