(please ignore my other post here think of this as something completely new)

ok so basically you are in a relationship and your partner has latterly done nothing to misguide your trust in a painful way (can't text much since your partner has very very bad signal were they are) They live in an area that in notoriously known for being a slut town and most of their friends are the gender they are attracted to (if that makes sense) You yourself are the same way with your friends, but you don't live in a slut town.

...was trying to be broad with this but it's difficult... ok well I have had reason to question my partner, but I feel as tho I'm being overly jealous about him becoming friends with girls in a slut town. Granted I am happy he is making friends after transferring high schools so soon (better than I could have done) , but it worries me.

I do think that meeting his female friends and seeing how they act around him may help a lot if it is to my approval that is.... but idk if I will get the chance to ever meet them and I don't want to add them of face book like a stalker.

Do you guys know of anything that can help build trust (my base trust towards relationships is naturally kinda middle line) All i can think up are ways to lower...

I don't want to write down the goods and bads now at least cause my brain has been telling me things I don't want to hear so basically right now even if I wrote goods and bads for my good friends it would be mostly bad at this point :c (hunting for a psychiatrist so no worries about that)

I think you just need to meet these friends and see how they act around him and how he acts around them. Only then might you have reason to worry - and believe me, it's easy to see if there's something there. I definitely see your reasons not to trust this person entirely, but don't get too worked up about it if there's really nothing there.

Thanks I'll see what he says :/ I'll probably try to make it like a large movie night or something... he has only been friends with these girls for id'd say two weeks, but still their facebook pics didn't portray them as "non sluts" if that makes sense... being prejudice but hard not to be... should I tell him the truth about why I want to meet them if he keeps saying 'i dont know'?

What worries me is your thinking about the towns you guys live in. Slut town or not a slut town. Is that where this insecurity of yours stems from? Because you claim to have friends of the gender you are attracted to yet you aren't worried you will cheat on him with any of them? I mean that should be the exact position he is in. A town may be notorious for something, but it doesn't mean all individuals follow that stereotype or are more inclined to follow it.

Meeting his friends sounds like a good idea, but if you're being paranoid about it, you'll analyze something for what it isn't. I disagree with about being able to easily see if something is there. A lot of people don't realize that their significant other is cheating on them. It might be easy for some people, but it isn't necessarily easy for all situations and for everyone. If you were to meet his friends, I wouldn't get your hopes up about overcoming this situation.

I think the easiest way to build trust is not to think about it. Yes, it sounds hard, but you don't have any actual evidence of cheating besides a town's stereotype, which isn't any proof at all. Relationships are all about vulnerability and the possibility of getting hurt and I think until you actually start seeing things, you shouldn't dwell about it too much. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Like they say, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." Trust is about having faith. I would have recommended talking to him, but well, there actually isn't a problem that you know of, so I think it wouldn't be the wisest thing to talk about it directly. If anything, you can always allude to his guy friends (or lack of) in casual conversation, and see how he reacts about his guy friends. Granted, I find it a little weird that a guy has mostly girl friends, but you're in the same boat he is, so it doesn't seem fair to judge him for it.

yeh I was fine with it in his old town ... I am being very prejudice of this one tho... we did accidentally run into one of his friends at a mall before and one day the same friend wanted to meet up with us. My partner was reluctant since he says that his guy friend get touchy feely around girls and he doesn't want him coming on to me. I did say I'll joke around with it at first but if he gets serious i will push him away and we an leave if he persists no biggy and he can't be all over me if you don't give him room to be. but he still was reluctant to let him see me again.

I don't think it's right to judge by clothing whether someone's a "slut." Skimpy or tight clothes don't automatically equal sexual promiscuity. ;l I see you guys already talked about your guy friend. In that case, your boyfriend should realize the same thing applies to him as well. In that case, you should bring up your feelings about the girls too. A certain amount of jealousy is okay, but obviously not a lot. ;D As I said, have faith in your boyfriend. c: Hope it pans out for you guys.

thank you and i just shot him a message saying that I would like to get to know his friends since I'm used to relationships were "my friends are your friends and vice versa" He was ok with it so that made me feel better :) and I know not to judge some one off of their make up, hair, body, or clothing since I like goth cloths, skimpyish cloths, and baggy comfy clothes haha.
I need to work on my prejudices since I know I'm terrible a reading people XP I have saw people as nice who were real bitched and thought some were bitches but ended up being my friends XB

It's good that you are cognizant of your own prejudices! No one's perfect. :) Haha, all the more to not try and judge anyone and just get to know his friends. :D

I'll do my best I'll imagine them in what I normally wear if they look stereotypical I'll still be as friendly as I can regardless haha

First of all, don't call it a slut town, that is so rude lol. Second, Sound is right. If you can meet these girls it will help you see how he is with them and if you should be worried. My boyfriend goes to school out of state and when he started making friends who were girls and hung out with them I got jealous. When I came to visit I met them and all of my fears were washed away because I realized they really were just friends.