I'm so upset.

My boyfriend just broke up with me. I wanted to break up with him, but he seemed like the voilent type of guy that would shoot the girlfriend or the family or the friends like you hear the stories in the newspaper. I told him how i felt, then got too scared and blamed it on my parents saying they wouldn't let me date him. He understood but I was terrified. I didn't have much affection for him, but now I find myself in tears. Can anyone cheer me up or relate to me?

Maybe you are just used to the thought of being with him. I think you should have confronted him if you were afraid that he was a violent type. I know I thought that of my boyfriend because he is extremely sensitive and emotional, and he has medication. He just held me and told me that he would never do anything to hurt me. Communication is so incredibly important!

Sorry you are in tears though, -hands you tissues- don't be with someone if they make you feel uncomfortable or unsafe :)

EDIT: Oh, I re-read how you did confront him, but backed out. I see now..

Did you come up with an excuse quickly because he was giving a sign of extreme anger or something?

There could be numerous reasons why you are crying, and some of them could have nothing to do with the fact that you and he are not dating anymore.

It could stem from the fact that you thought he was a violent person and are scared, perhaps it could be tears of relief, tears of confusion.

I could go on and on with the list, but the point is you just need to be glad that you and he are through. Things will get better.

thanks TONS guys. feeling a little better now

I think you're tearing because you're relieved you're not with him anymore and nothing happened violently. :) It's okay.