I apologize in advance because this might be a little confusing.

For some quick background information: I am 18 years old, never been in any relationship, and Ive been working at McDonalds for about a year.

Ok, so there is this guy at work, lets call him M. He has been working at McDonalds for a few months now, and I have never talked to him before in my life. Well, last Friday, while he was waiting to clock on for work, he was telling one of my best friends (he didnt even know we were friends, and it was her second day on the job), how much he liked me and how he thought I was the prettiest girl that worked there, and he wanted her to do some snooping to figure out what I felt about him. Later that day, we happened to be on break at the same time, and he came up to me. He told me he really liked me and wanted my number. I panicked and didn't know what to do, so I gave him my number. I didn't want to be rude and say no right there at work. Also, I want to add that during the break, he ended up getting the same meal as me (and started complaining about the food he got, so I was thinking why did you get it then) and then he was telling me about how he wants to be a firefighter, where I mentioned I was going to school to study biology, and then he started telling me how he wants to be a scientist? IDK if that was just a coincidence, or if he did/said those things on purpose.

Flash forward to where he started to text me.

His first text to me was "U know, I been thinking about you" I completely ignored that text because I had no idea how to respond to it, and I was hanging out with my friends. He continued to text me even though I did not respond. And I did not want to text him back, because I was still creeped out by the first text. Well, that night, my friend was driving me home, but there was a storm going on to the point where you could not even see the road, so we were trapped at my friend's friend's house for 2 hours. I used that as an excuse to why I never responded to M, and he responded "I'm glad you got home safely, kinda makes me worry about u a little more." I dont know if that is a normal response or what because I do not text guys very often, but I was freaking out because this guy knows nothing about me, as again we have never talked before.

Yesterday at work, I was talking to two of my coworkers about this situation because they brought his name up, and I found out that he was bragging to a bunch of people that he got my number, and I also found out that he is a crappy worker who gets really angry when people try to show him how to do something right. Once time he got so mad that he started calling one of my coworkers some really nasty names (she didnt go into detail as to what names those were) and some other guy had to step in and tell him to shut the fuck up. Oh and I also found out he treats one of my favorite coworkers like crap because she is a lesbian. Oh and he may or may not have slept with this other coworker of mine who is my age.

Now this guy keeps texting me about hanging out sometime, and I just dont know what to do. I usually have a good judge of character, and red flags are going all over the place. Maybe this is normal behavior, as I lack experience in the relationship department, but all I know is the texts makes me very uncomfortable. I dont know how what to say to make it clear that I am not interested. I mean we work together, so I dont want to make it even more awkward, and after hearing about his anger issues, I am afraid he will try to make a scene or something.

I should also add that this guy is 20 or 21

And for those who do not want to read the entire thing: One of my coworkers is basically obsessing over me and creeping me out, and IDK how to make it clear to him that we will never have a relationship without making it even more awkward at work.

If anything makes you uncomfortable, you have to make it stop. The relationship department is no different from the real world in that aspect. You should involve your superior and explain, tell them that you don't feel comfortable with the situation, so they know that if he makes a scene, it won't be you. Having worked there a year, they will know how you behave/work by now. Then you should probably reply to his texting straight out that you're not interested in anything romantic or sexual with him and that you would like that he deletes your number. If he gets nasty IRL or on text, report his ass to higher powers for harassment. The way you say it, it sounds like multiple coworkers can back you up on that accusation.

Number 1 - trust your gut.. He sounds like the type of guy who will take anything, sometimes even an outright "no" as a maybe. When/if you tell him to back off, he'll ask you "why" - this isn't because he wants to know, its because he wants to engage you in conversation so he can trap you in a contradiction. Keep your answers short and to the point. You don't owe him answers, kindness or even politeness.

I understand that you don't want to make things more awkward at work, but they are already awkward because of his unwelcome attention, so its hard to make it worse. Be truthful, even if you think it sounds rude. For example, you could say "I'm not interested in becoming involved with someone at work" - but only if its true. If you tell him that, then become involved with someone at work, he's going to get pissed off. Its hard, but usually best to say that you aren't interested in him, neither romantically, nor as a friend because you find his texts uncomfortable. He may saw something like "well other people don't mind my texts" - or otherwise imply you're too sensitive or that you're wrong. Don't believe him, you are not wrong, you are not weird. Yes you're inexperienced, but that doesn't mean you are wrong.

Those red flags you mention - like him changing his own behaviour to make it seem like you two have more in common than you do is total manipulation. This is no coincidence, it was deliberate. He's coming on very strong, which not a good sign, and coupled with his anger issues, seems like pure intimidation. He doesn't want to give you a chance to come right out and say "no," he wants you to placate him so he can keep up the intimidation.

You may be right to worry that he'll cause a scene, but there's not much you can do about that. As said, talk to your manager/supervisor about it to make sure that if a scene does get made, he gets the blame and not you.

This guy has anger issues for one it'd seem if he gets upset being shown or told something is wrong and how to fix it. Right there is a big red flag to me. while it's normal to get angry at times, work is not the best place. Nor should he get that upset over tasks at work, if he's that angry over being told he idk cleaned the grill the wrong way, then how is he gonna handle bigger things in life like being stranded with family on a road at night?

Two his "bragging" of obtaining your number. While I know some people do get genuinely excited to have gotten their crushes number most have had a few convos with said person and know more if they may like them as friend or more than friend by the time they get the number. I've found those truly excited will seem over the moon and while happy won't brag at work unless asked what's making them happy. The bragging tends to be done more at home with parents, siblings and friends rather than people who you hardly know or might be gone soon. His bragging is more of a declaration at work your "his" now so to speak.

Three if your gut is screaming at you loudly and most of the time then something somewhere is off with him even if it's something you can't see right away. Listen to your instincts it's trying to help you out.

I'd also suggest approaching the may or may not have been slept with coworker and talk to her about it. It could be a vicious rumor he started to also make her appear undesirable to date with men at work. It might be true and maybe she learned more of who he is and shut him out of anything to do with her besides work otherwise I'm sure with that they would still possibly be in or continuing something. Also keep an ear open regarding anything of your friend. It could be this guy is trying to seem "macho" and making "declarations" of the girls at work to seem like they were/ are "his" so the other guys at work won't want them or to seem admirable to those other guys at "how many girls he can get".

Get all your info in a hurry cuz who knows what this guys angle is. And if he's proving that bothersome to you and others at work you do have rights to speak with management of the concerns and behavior. In the end if there's 5 of you good workers with same concerns of this guy they'd rather let him go than risk the group of you with concerns. Also if his texts are bothering you say you're having your cell taken away by your parents and then block his number or get a number change. If he asks why he can't get through just tell him since you're on your parents plan you have to listen to what they want done with it or lose it altogether and he's not worth losing your communication to family over.

He sounds like a (insert expletive here). I'd avoid him. He probably has no respect for girls and you do not want him to be your first relationship. I would pull him aside, privately or publicly (your choice) and tell him you're not interested. You can be as frank as you want. You're in charge Just make sure you make it clear and get this guy off your radar.

The biggest red flag is that you feel uncomfortable. You should not feel any obligation to text him or have any contact with him at all. It is okay to tell him straight up that you aren't interested in dating.

- as I read your post, I was like "story of every guy who has ever shown interest in me", oh boy, lol! No really I have had this problem with like 3-4 guys, 2 going as far as declaring their love for me over text or IM. eye roll It's so hard sometimes, I don't want to hurt feelings, I want to be friends in some cases, yet I learned I have to stand my ground when I know they are manipulating me and/or asking me to go some where or do something with them when I don't want to. I played the game of trying to come up with excuses when the asked "why", but I ran out of answers! So no is no. Let them know where they stand with you either with actions (or inactions) or words. In my cases one realized we are only friends and everything is bridge under the water. Another I decided it was the final straw and completely blocked them off (over the internet was the only interactions we were having at the end because he went out of state) after I tried to tell him off and was still being disrespectful to me. I would say NEVER get romantically involved with someone you work with. It can cause tension among your peers and if the relationship goes downhill, you will be miserable having to work with that person, and they may turn on you. The work place is a competitive environment, even if it's McDonald's, still watch your back. and ALWAYS listen to your instincts and those red flags.

If he makes you uncomfortable, then that is all you need to know. Whether it's a relationship or just life, you should feel zero obligation to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, especially if it involves another person. I think honesty is the best policy, and being straightforward about it is the best thing to do. Talk/text him and say, "Look I'm just going to be honest, I am not interested in you at all, so you can stop texting me. Please delete my number." If he can't respect that, then those are even more red flags for you. And I agree 100% with about involving a superior in case he tries to make a scene at work.

Trust your gut! This guy sounds like trouble with a capital T to me. Talk to your shift leader and explain the situation, then tell M to please delete you number and that you are not interested in a relationship with him of any kind. If he continues to send texts change your cell number, then he can't send texts that bother you. Keep your manager in the loop about what's going on, if you do end up changing your number let your manager know why you had to do so. Obsession like this can become dangerous and no one wants that.

if it were me i'd tell him i am a lesbian, since it seems like he's the type of person that'd take "fuck off" as i am enjoying his shit like someone i know.

I like Lypsyl's advice. if only i joined Subeta earlier and saw that, I wouldn't have suffered those days of high blood pressure, and yes the backstab that the people here say does happen. It happens with ridiculous losers like that. He lies outright, and funny how he accuses people of the things he commits himself and when i pointed that out to him on one of the occasions when he was slamming my friend while he wasn't there; he said things and turned the tables with an attitude as if im the one in the wrong. I honestly hope someone takes away his ability to think. That way he won't be able to make up lies and say things to stab people, especially when they don't even have the chance to clear up the slandering rumors he makes.

guy seems like the usual tool. it's easy: next time he attempts to talk to you, directly state that he is irritating and you do not want any sort of relationship outside of having to work with him, lol.

He obviously likes you and is interested in you, but if he has anger issues and treats other people badly then I would stay away from him. Simple as that.

haha he sounds EXACTLY like this guy who i regretted giving my number to, way clingy and basically all the same. i texted him and said "how about if i decide i want to hang out then i will let you know :) ". it got rid of him pretty easily, and it lets both of you save face since you have to work together