Personally I've learned to ignore....promiscuous girls constantly hitting up my boyfriend.

I know my boyfriend would never cheat on me. He loves me to death and I would never question that. But in the back of my head my past self has trust issues due to being cheated on by every guy before him. So I'll be sitting here knowing he wouldn't do anything but in the back of my head my mind keeps wondering.

There's one girl in particular that he works with that tends to constantly text him and post on his Facebook statuses. She's clearly not the most angelic of girls. She obviously flirts. I eventually confronted him and he apologized and was really upset and thought he would going to lose me over a silly co-worker girl he has no interests in.

How do I just ignore this girl? I'm trying my best but she just puts me off. I'm not a jealous person but...it's one of those people that you just want to...go away.

I'm also curious if you all have had similar situations and how you managed to just ignore it and move on.

I've only had a one-time situation like that. It didn't bother me at all since my boyfriend obviously wasn't interested in her. It was at a small party, and the girl was someone he'd flirted with a year before (when we hadn't yet met), and this time she just kept touching him and dancing with him (I didn't see this but I can imagine lol) and just rubbing herself all over him. I don't think I could deal with that if it just continued on a daily basis or something, though. I'd probably ask my boyfriend to ask the girl to stop. :/

You could perhaps write a respectful and tactful email (or converse face to face, whichever is more accessible) to this girl and politely ask her to layoff on the flirtatious behavior. She might respect you for it and actually comply, at least in an ideal situation haha. Either way, you will be the bigger woman. Also maybe ask your boyfriend to support you on this and not necessarily respond to all of her messaging and whatnot, to discourage the behavior. Usually in these situations I shrug off jealousy by remembering I'm smarter/prettier/more awesome or whatever than the competition and then I worry no more. Just do whatever works, good luck chica. ;)

I agree with the others. Seriously, she would probably stop if he made it absolutely obvious that he didn't want her. o-o Make him delete her number, block her and then unfriend her on FB or something. If she knows he won't ever give in she might just carry on and start doing that stuff to someone else.

Oh man I can relate to this.

My boyfriend goes to school 1700 miles away (he's from here, so I see him during school breaks, we're also the same year in school)... and there have been several occasions where a girl expresses interest in him and I want to tear their eyez out. Girl 1) We'll call her Sarah. I heard about her Sophomore year. My bf is in the film department at her school and I don't really know what major she was but she would do makeup on a lot of the sets. I first got irritated about her because I called my bf one day at like.. 1 AM and he answers and is like "Oh I'm at Starbucks with Sarah" and I Was like .................. ..Now, keep in mind this is the first time I had to deal with him hanging out with girls at all ever so I got kinda mad and he freaked out and felt terrible (he's the kind of guy that never even thinks any girls like him so he didn't realize how it could be seen as bad) and he also right then told me that he had seen movies with her and stuff and kept apologizing profusely and said he would tell me if he ever hung out with her again. I accepted his apology but I still didn't really like the idea of her, but he swore they were just friends, and even told me how she would tell him about her roommate liked him. Well when I came to visit I met her on a film set and her and I were sitting together guarding the supply truck, and she was really nice to me and we talked for a while. At one point she told me that "she could never be in a long distance relationship because at some point, someone's going to cheat. IT'S JUST TRUE, IT'S A FACT, PEOPLE NEED SEX!!!" and I remember thinking "huh that's weird why would she say that to me" ... well he told me that a few weeks after I left she texted him saying she wanted to date him to which he replied "Well that's not going to happen, I'm with Kayla" and never spoke to her again. Lol. Girl 2) This girl I had literally never heard of, she video calls him on skype randomly when he was waiting for me to get online and just talks to him and eventually was like I LOVE YOU WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME BACK and he was like wtf ?? and she told him she was a virgin and that "your girlfriend's so far away and I'm right here" and he was like "OMG BYE" and hung up, and for a weeks after she texted him pics of her.. eating food? idk. She eventually stopped since he never replied but then tried to call him a month or so later which he didn't reply to (but accidentally called her back when I asked him to tell me her area code since I got a weird phone call haha)... Even though he clearly hated her I still was so angry at her, but I never confronted her because he told me he really didn't want any weird drama to happen with her (his school is very small and everyone knows everyone) .. but one day we got in a big fight and I was like FUCK IT and fb messaged her (yes I added her as a friend so I could stalk her) and she claimed it was all a joke. I was like LOL HOW DUMB CAN YOU THINK I AM. but she kept saying it was a joke the whole time and I finally was like "Whatever I will never believe you BYE" and now I feel better ha. Girl 3) Last time I visited I was on a film set, and I always feel awkward cause I can't really do anything there. One of my bf's friends asked for the slate and I went to get it but this other girl was walking toward the room with it and I was like "Wait!! Can I have that so it looks like I'm actually doing something on set?" and she just rolled her eyes at me and really bitchy was like SUUURE. and I was like ... I feel awkward... and she kept like giving me weird looks and being kinda rude to me... and then I noticed every time my bf told a joke she laughed hysterically and she just kept staring at him... and magically when she found out I was his girlfriend, she started being really nice to me. Apparently now on film sets she still acts that way and awkwardly tries to touch him all the time, like touching his shoulders or arms and even actually tickling him. LOL.

I think what helps me is that my boyfriend has always pretty much stopped talking to these girls right away. It helps that they're crazy though. It might help if you visit your boyfriend some time when she's there and hang out with him and just kind of.. show her that you ARE his girlfriend so maybe she'll lay off a bit and you'll feel better just being like yeah f u. It's good your boyfriend got upset when you brought it up. It shows he really cares a lot if he was more scared of losing you than being a jerk about it or getting mad you don't trust him or something stupid. It's so hard to trust people after trust has been broken but it's good that you're trying because that's the only way it can get better. Good luckkk!

I don't know if this will help you any, but jealousy over people hitting on my guy is never something I've really understood. If you trust him, then try and take the fact that he's getting hit on as a "You snagged yourself someone who's desireable - people want him, but he wants you. WIN." It's a compliment to him and to your taste in men. At least that's how I've always looked at it.

I wouldn't tell him to cut the woman off (he works with her, for crying out loud - she's gonna be around whether you like it or not. And if he DOES delete her number/ignore her texts/unfriend her on FB/etc, it will just create a whole shittonne of work-drama he shouldn't have to deal with), nor do I think you should confront her about her actions. She has a simple crush, and he's not encouraging it in any way - she WILL lose interest and move on to someone who will give her the attention she's looking for.

Long story short? If you decide to take matters into your own hands, you'll just come off as controlling - or worse, you'll send him the message that you don't trust him.

As I see it - as long as you're confident your boyfriend won't do anything with this girl, just let it go. Yes, sure it's annoying, but remember that he's not branded with your name, if he's a likable person other people will pick up on it anyways. He will be attractive to other people, and some might try to flirt. As long as he's not encouraging her behavior and knows when to tell her she's gone too far then you're both safe. She's the one who in the end will just look kinda desperate for flirting with someone who's taken anyways.

Thanks for all your help guys ;-; It's just been an annoying situation.