Background information is I've had a crush on this guy(Spyke) since I first saw him in June. I just never had the nerves to speak to him, because I'm extremely shy until I know someone really well. Fast forward to about a month ago when I was at a convention. One of our mutual friends who knew I liked Spyke, invited me out to dinner/drinks with him and Spyke. We hit it off pretty well and spent pretty much the entire con together, talking, drinking, partying, etc. Anyway! We've been hanging out every weekend since the con, despite him being extremely busy with buying his welding business and getting that set up. Recently, due to my friends' urging, I finally worked up the guts to tell him I was crushing on him hard. It was over email, which I'll admit wasn't the best method, but at the time I wasn't exactly sure when we'd be able to actually talk in private again.

That's not the problem. The problem I'm having is how to take his response. I tend to seriously over think things and just want to have a few opinions of people who don't really know me personally. Or him for that matter.

Email in question(part of it at least, the important part): "Not that I am any better at sending email than texts, but I still try. I do like you a lot as well. Like you to me, I also think that you are pretty awesome/cool yourself. As it stands I am kind of in a relationship with someone, but am looking to not have it as a serious thing. I do want to keep in touch and stay friends, and as time progresses, who knows what might happen? Right now though, I am slowly isolating myself in the business deal. I am trying to put all of my focus on getting this thing finished, than the business up and running. I don't have time for a relationship, or even for myself for that matter. I still want to spend time with you though. It will just be sporadic and with long periods of non-availability. (Is that even a word?)"

I appreciate any input, really. And I apologize for anything I've worded poorly. Thanks guys.

This is definitely a 'let's just be friends' message. But, to me it didn't come out like he was repulsed at the idea, just not overly interested, and with perseverance his opinion could change. Just don't make yourself too available, I'm not liking the whole 'I am kind of in a relationship with someone' thing, it seems as though he could mess you around.

I find it odd that all the while you guys have hung out he's never once mentioned before that he's 'sorta seeing someone.' I'd ask your mutual friend if he knew cause I dunno that just seems odd.

But like , I'm reading that as a 'lets just be friends' message. Don't make yourself overly eager but don't play hard to get either, just... be friends for a while. Like he said, you never know where it might lead. :)

That's how I was reading it too. Which I'm fine with. He's a fun guy to hang out with, and even if it doesn't go anywhere I'll be fine as long as we can still hang out.

I actually did ask our mutual friend about it and he was as surprised as I was. Since before I even started remotely chasing Spyke, I asked him if he was sure Spyke was single. Because I'm not the type to go after anyone in a relationship. But I'm glad so far I'm getting the same general answers I had gotten from it. I stepped back a bit, and instead of actively trying to get him interested, I'm not just enjoying the time spent with him as friends. If it happens, great, if not, oh well.

Id say keep hanging out with him. While he pretty much says 'lets just be friends' he does kinda leave it that it could over time develop into something more. My advice: dont be over pushy. Just let things go where they go and dont try to push the friendship one way or another.

I see this as a "Let's just be friends" message. continue to hang out with him since he hasn't said "Uh..leave me alone." he said he would be up to hanging out still. As for the kinda seeing someone thing...I have no idea what to say if your mutual friend was just as surprised.