So I've made 'Friends' with this girl that I went to school with. We've gotten along great but there are some things that bother me just a bit.

In a small list, these are the things that happened.

1. Last year, I had an important question to ask her and wanted her input on it, so I text her saying ''Is there gonna be...'' and so, and then she replies saying ''kool.'' It was as if she didn't even bother reading my questions, she even tells me she can't be bothered to answer most texts, but what I was asking was urgent.

2. Her and I are both in the same youth club, and with stress from the other members and school exams, I wanted to transfer to another club and told her not to tell anyone. Now here's the thing. she DID tell EVERYONE. Half of the members showed me a broadcast saying ''Don't let ... leave!'' I even got asked by loads of people.

3. Lastly, When she came over to my house, she 'apparently' stole a few things from my father. (£2 in change, and a pack of ciggs.)

4(edit): My sister and I are always trying to cheer her up when she's down, but when it comes to us, she says she doesn't care!

So should I at least try talking to her about why she's doing these? I tolerate being friends with her, but even my parents say she's no good. What do you guys think?

to be honest with you, you need to confront her about the things shes done and simply ask why? It seems the things she has done to you are extremely personal, and should not be taken lightly. it would be best for you to not persue a friendship with her any longer. :)

I agree with what Purrr has said already. She doen't seem like a very trustworthy person or someone I'd want for a friend were I in the same situation.

You are only giving one side to the story, so no way to answer your question. You've mentioned some bad things she's done, but you haven't said anything about what good things she contributes to the friendship. No one is perfect. Since your first bad thing was a year ago, it looks like you've been friends for over a year and there's only 4 annoying things she's done? Its possible she isn't a good friend, but you need to talk to her.

Item 1 - if it was so important for her to answer the question why didn't you call her instead of just texting? You know she doesn't pay much attention to texts, she's told you this, so how was she supposed to know you felt it was urgent or important? Item 2 - why did she tell your secret? Was she just being a gossip, currying favour for herself in the club? Or did she really want you to stay with the club and told the others so they work on reducing the stress and make it easier for you to stay? Item 3 - this sounds bad. Friends don't steal, but are you sure it was her? My brother was an ass and every time I had a friend over, things in the house would go missing. At first I thought it was my friends, but I eventually figured out it was my brother stealing stuff when there was someone else to blame. Not saying this is what happened, but appearances can be deceiving. You need to make sure it was her. Item 4 - This doesn't sound good either, if she isn't a friend to you, then you shouldn't consider her a friend. However, again, you need to talk to her. Does she really not care, or is it that she doesn't know how and is embarrassed to admit that? Is there some other reason? If she really doesn't care, then that isn't a friendly way to behave.

You need to look at the ways she makes you feel bad, contrast that to the ways she makes you feel good. If there's more bad than good, then you need to consider dumping her friendship. On the other hand if the good is better than, or equal to the bad, you need to find ways to try to make the bad better.

If you need to ask others whether someone is a real friend or not, they probably aren't. There could be a side to this you and/or we don't know about, but she doesn't sound like a very good friend to me. You should really talk to her though, it's (in most cases) the best thing to do. If it turns out she really doesn't care about you, it's best to let her go.

I really can't say you guys are really friends. More like acquaintances... Bad acquaintances at that. A friend would have been someone you can rely on, not someone that would slap on right on the face (figuratively speaking)

if you even have to consider, what do you think? her stealing from your home is all by itself a reason to ditch her; it's like she was invited into your home and just spit in it.

talk to her about not seeing her again. not resolving things, not what rhyme or reason she had for acting the way she did. just flat out tell her to leave you alone.

lypsyl makes good points, however. subeta can't tell her whole life from a few things she's done to annoy you. but if these are all things that really bothered you, do what you feel best. does she skip school, drink or do drugs? or make trouble on purpose? is this youth group a religious gathering?