So anyone who remembers my board about my bullies on campus and other fun as hell roommates issues that I posted about on here almost a year ago (bad roommate problems that persisted and didn't stop to no end). Well now I have to rant again because it seems respect is nonexistent anymore..

I just moved into my current apartment just a week ago and lets just say this place is a complete dingy crap hole (I kid you not). But onto the house mate problem. Ok, I don't mind people using my stuff as long as you ask and clean it after your done using it. So my house mate had friends over yesterday, created mess in kitchen and haven't cleaned it YET. And on top of that they used my large cooking pot, didn't ask at all and now it's been sitting on the stove with noodles and encrusted sauce stains in it all today and for who knows how long yesterday -- (I was at work yesterday for most of the day and for today as well). Ok, fine, you used my pot it's the end of the world, but could you at least clean it up? They even used my Corelle dishes and my spatula without asking (I love my Corelle dishes and when I saw my bowls were missing I was irritated - surprisingly they washed those -- ). Fine, but could you at least ask first and as pitiful as this sounds, respect my property and clean up my poor pot please? I know I can't expect much from college apartments, but why no respect? :/ I work all day and come home to do school work, but coming home to this? Oh yay...

Sorry everyone, I've been having bad roommate problems over the past year and now as well ._. I just need some ranting, anyone else having bad roommate problems or want to rant?

Mods: Feel free to move this to issues/advice if it's more suiting over there.

WELL. first of all. i feel your pain. i've been living at my current place for almost three years now, and i can tell you i have had many people come and go. some worse than others. currently i have a great mixture of housemates because they are all my close friends. unfortunately, it makes it all a bit harder when they do something shitty and you want to get mad at them. i mean, friends are meant to share things and what not, right? like you, i have no problem with people using my belongigns as long as they ask. fair enough, right? it hasn't been until recently that not even asking makes the situation any better. why you might ask... because half of my things have been broken! yes, fair anrough you asked to borrow my darling beautiful tea cups (i have a weird love for my tea sets) but when you break them and then not tell me, ALL HELL WILL BREAK LOOSE. well, not really. because as a friend i tried my hardest to dismiss the situation although i was fuming inside. even worse i can say is the act of eating food that is not yours. food, as we all know, is not free. and being a full time student - i try my hardest to preserve my food until it's practically rotting. there is nothing worse than waking up in the morning thinking about the delicious food you are going to eat and then SURPRISE, there's nothing there. I AM SO MAD TODAY. because that is exactly what happened. i hope things get better for you. there's nothing worse than not enjoying your own living space.

Ouch I'm so sorry about your tea sets! I have a super gorgeous sky blue Staffordshire teacup and saucer (I found it in a antique store and I couldn't resist) which I want to use, but I keep it up here in my room so no one uses it (If someone broke this teacup, they will feel my wraith! - If anyone was to break this teacup, I would rather it be me anyways xD). That's bloody ridiculous they didn't tell you they broke them! I actually panicked when I saw those two Corelle bowls missing, I was in the kitchen all "Where are my pretties?!?!?!" My housemate was in the kitchen today, I didn't bring up the cooking pot thing. Just now, I had to re-wash them (there was like food residue or something caked on the bottom, horrendous) and they're now sitting in my closet for my usage only :P They haven't eaten any of my food yet (I checked the freezer and my ground beef is still there surprisingly). I'm the same way, I tend to preserve my food until I hardly have anything left. I work at a pizza place, so I have a good source of food, but one can't live off of pizza forever xD. I hope things get better for you as well :/. You seem to have it realllyyy bad, I'm so sorry T_T As weird as it sounds, I was so sad to see I didn't get the first use out of my aqua spatula T_T. Why oh why use MY aqua spatula? they have their own ugly ass black one, but nope they gotta use my kitchenaid one. I'm sorry I work for my money and everything I buy is with my own money, so when I don't get to use it for the first time etc, its irritating -_-

When I was in college I got tired of living on campus and moved into a house with 3 of my friends. We had a 4-tier shelf in the kitchen that allowed us to each have our own shelf where we kept things we didn't want anyone else to use, eat, drink, etc. Anything else was shared, but our individual shelves were off limits. That worked fairly well until one of the roommates started having his friends over ALL THE TIME and they pretty much ignored our system, ate our food, dirtied our dishes, and honestly came and went as they wanted without asking anyone if it was ok.

We talked to the roommate who was responsible for these "friends" and asked to fill them in on how we ran the household. He said he did, but nothing changed. After a while, the girl I shared a room with got fed up enough to write a note and post it on our door, basically listing the rules of the house and letting them know if they didn't adhere to the rules they weren't welcome in the house. A few of them seemed outraged that we would ask them to not eat our food or clean up after themselves if they spilled something. It was pretty ridiculous but after a while the ones who refused to be polite guests were told to get the hell out and not come back. The roommate they were friends with was a little pissed at first, but he knew we weren't backing down.

TLDR - Talk to the housemate. Set boundaries and don't be afraid to speak up when they cross the line. If you don't do this now, things could get out of control and you'll be miserable in your own house.

- I have some Corelleware from before I was born. My mom got it, and when I moved out, it became mine. 2 plates, bowls, saucers and teacups. They are safely put away and are only used on birthdays and Christmas, if that, because I want them to last. I would CRY FOREVER ALWAYS if they broke. I've treated them carefully since I was really little, my mom taught me how to take care of nice things. I may let kidlet have them when she gets older, I may not.

The best thing to do here would first be to talk to the roommates, set boundaries, and remind them that you are not the magical cleaning fairy, and they are in College for crying out loud, they can learn to take care of their own selves and their OWN THINGS. It may come ot the point where you will need to store your things in your room, just to keep their mitts off of them, though, which is very frustrating.

I have a friend who has a roommate that is driving him absolutely batty with how lazy she is ... and these are grownups ... so I've been hearing the horror stories.

I think you did the absolute best thing by removing dishes. Sometimes you have to be passive to avoid drama. If this lack of respect for you/household continues then maybe have a structured conversation in which you cover key points.

I have had a few roommates. One of my favorite roommates would leave every weekend and that is when me and my other roommate would clean. Naturally, she always missed the cleaning. Also, when we cleaned is when we would go shopping for the apartment for toilet paper and things. I loved Katie as a roommate, but it sucked that she never was there when we cleaned or contributed to toilet paper and things like that. Looking back it doesn't bother me as much as it did then, and she was also probably one of our better roommates. We never confronted her because we were only roommates with her for one semester then she graduated. We kinda went with it because we knew she was going to be gone soon.....and her dad died suddenly in the middle of the semester :( Cleaning isn't something you bring up to someone when they are just trying to get through the day :(

It seems like no matter who you room with there will always be something. Be passive to get by--but, if need be take a more direct route. I think you have a good handle on the situation :) Keep up the good work :)

Edit: And I agree with setting boundaries is extremely important in any relationship!