RIP dear brother
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Dear all,
I just decided to open a topic because i need all the support i can get. My brother died last tuesday.
Do NOT open the spoiler if you are sensitive, the content is harsh and sad
He hanged himself last tuesday and my parents found him. my dad was sitting in the room next to him but since my brother just got a new room he thought he was rearranging furniture when he heard some small noises out of my brothers room. He found him about an hour later hanging and together with my mom they got him down. There was nothing more they could do, and my dad called me. That was for me the end of my normal life. I called my boyfriend to get here ASAP but that took 2.5 hours and that was the quickest he ever managed to get to me, since he lives far away. we get loads of support from friends and family, but i still feel so empty. It was so impulsive, he arranged for his drivers license that morning, he send away his contract for his new job and then he hanged himself. waht does help me is the fact that there was nothing we could have done to stop it, and that the last thing i remember doing with him was givving him a hug. for my parents its also comforting that their last dinner with him was really nice and there were no fights when he left for upstairs.. the reasons for his acts will never be clear to us. but we can try to go on and keep him allive in our memory.. im still crying every day.. but not the entire day anymore.. it feels weird since he just died a week ago but i already start to feel at peace.. that will probably change again, and thats why i alredy made an appointment with a psychologist. She will help me, and our first session is in about 6 hours..
Dear Janneke, I,m so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how you feel. Especially when life had so much going for your brother. Something like this must be so hard to understand. But as i read your story i think your really really strong. I also think it's really good that you made an appointment with a psychologist. Don't be emberrased about your emotions, it's very normal seeing what you went through.
I am so sorry. :( My sister and I are so close, if something like this happened I don't know how I'd ever handle it. Again, my deepest sympathies are sent to you and your parents.
I'm so, so sorry. I don't know what I can say, I guess you have heard it all by now, so you'll know I wish you and your parents only the best. Did the session go well? I hope so.
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I'm really sorry to hear about that. A loss is a loss, but when it's by their own hand...it's harder to deal with, because you'll never know WHY they killed themselves, or why they were feeling so bad that they went through with it. I have lost someone to suicide - my girlfriend, Robin - she shot herself (she was doing drugs and was being sexually abused by both parents) while under the influence. Yeah, she wasn't related to me, but ... What I'm trying to say is that I know what you're going through right now, I guess. It's a rough road to be traveling down, believe me. I still haven't gotten over her and it's been 4 1/2 years since she passed away. It still gets to me sometimes, I gotta admit. Robin wouldn't want me to be crying over her all of the time, though. She would want me to move on with my life, even though she's not in it and won't be in it ever again. It will hurt. A lot. But you'll heal and soon look back on his memory and smile. Like with every person, though, the healing process is kinda weird and sometimes out of order (5 Steps of Grieving or whatever, idk). That's okay, though! Individuals mourn and grieve at different paces and with different emotions. So if you feel at peace this week and start crying at every little thing the next, don't worry. It's just your body's way of mourning his loss. Just remember that. <3
But keep moving, keep strong and keep his memory alive. I think that's what he would of wanted out of this whole situation - for him to be remembered as someone you loved and who loved you back. Stay strong, and remember that he'll always be with you. c: Tell me how your session goes, too! xxx
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I am so very sorry for you loss. My heart goes to you and your family. I can't imagine how hard it is. If you need anything, feel free to message me. Even if it's just a chat to distract you hugs
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts. hugs
You have my sincerest and deepest sympathies. I'm so sorry, I can only imagine how you must feel right now. I'm glad your friends and family are there to comfort you. This is really saddening, it truly is, and I wish there was more I could do for you, but I can at least say this: you must stay strong. ❤️ It is not a sign of weakness to cry; cry as much as you need. Never be ashamed of your tears, you cry because you love. That's perfectly okay. If you need someone to talk to, my inbox is always open. I really hope that seeing a psychologist helps you cope, I know it saved my life before. Good luck dear. Lots and lots of virtual hugs coming your way.
Dear all.. Thank you so much for your support, it really does help to know that there are still people all over the world that love and care.. We feel the love in our surroundings and i can feel the love from all of my online friends.. And it helps. My psychologist was really nice and made me open up. That was good. My friends really support me and that also helps. Even though i know my friends have trouble 2. The fact that they are still there for me even through their own pain tells me how lucky i am that i found them. For now i also started laughing when i saw all the gifts that were sendnto me... Its so sweet :)