[big]long story short[/big]: there's this boy that i met back in january that i fell for very, very quickly. he's gorgeous, in a (getting sort of famous) band, nice, funny, and just kajsdsajdf. everything i'm looking for.

but here's the thing: he lives in manhattan kansas, approximately three hours away from me (i live in kansas city). how did i meet him you might ask? well, my school has this thing every year called jamnesty where local bands come and play. i don't know how they knew about it, but they played. and i saw him, thought he was gorgeous, and started talking to him. we hit it off great and he asked if i wanted his number and yadda yadda.

well, we talked seriously every day and then one day he said, ''i'm going to be honest... i've been thinking about you a lot.'' and i said, ''me too. i think i'm starting to like you a bit.'' and he replied with, ''yeah, same here.'' and then he went into how he wanted to date me, and we kinda sorta did for about two weeks until we realized that the distance sucked and we would only get to see each other when his band came and played in my city/close to my town.

my mom realized how much i liked him and even drove me 45 minutes just to see him play. he ignored all of his fangirls that were like UR SO CUTE ANDY!1!! and came up and hugged me in front of all of them and even kissed me in front of his whole band (AND OMFG IS HE A GOOD KISSER). his band likes me and my mom really liked him.

but then he started saying that he couldn't like me anymore because for 1. the distance was too much and he couldn't ''fall for me 100%'' and 2. he doesn't want a relationship with someone he can't see. i totally understood because i felt the same way but it literally took me FOR FUCKING EVER to get over him because, well, i liked him so fucking much.

he asked me the other night if i still liked him, and i didn't want to sound desperate or clingy so i was just like, ''nah, i'm over you. but i still think you're cute,'' and he just responded with, ''lol ok :)''

we stopped talking for a couple of months but then i recently decided it was time to say hi. i texted him and we talk a little more frequently. he never texted me first so i only texted him every couple of days or so. but today i wake up to find a text from him saying, ''hey, we have a show on friday at the legends if you want to come.'' now mind you, i was excited since this was the first time he texted me first. i said, ''of course i'll go! i miss you.'' and he said, ''aww, i know. i miss you too!''

i'm gonna go to the show and i just wanted to know what i can do to win him back. he hasn't seen me since february (that was the show when he kissed me) and i want to look super good. is it possible that he could like me again?

of course i know there's a (high) possibility he won't like me again but i don't wanna give up just yet. what are ways to look ''sexy'' or ''cute'' without giving the signal that OMFG I WANT HIM BACK SO BADLY. ;_________; i don't wanna seem desperate at all and whatnot.

i don't exactly want to date him, but i just want him to still think i'm cute, and, well, hooking up with him would be just fine with me.

but i really need advice on what to do to get him to notice me.

and since i'm such a creep: [big]white shirt, far right[/big]

He invited you, so he probably will notice you without a great effort. I think there is a chance he still likes you, despite how far you are. And I would care about what to say when you get there; clothes and makeup are easy. In the other hand, if you ever get back, how will you deal with the distance thing again? /:

Awwn, he is kinda cute. :3

eww he's totally adorable that its disgusting.

Dude, just go. You so both like each other, and while the distance sucks, at least you can hook up and be great mates, right?

It could be worse, he could have called you a hooker, and hung up.

I think you should go, and at least try :) And distance things do suck (I know), but if you both want to, then there are lots of ways to keep in touch :)

he doesn't want to date. i just wish that he still, well, i don't know. was attracted to me? he never said that he wasn't but like, he doesn't flirt as much as he used to anymore. i don't know.

i just really want him to be all lovey again.

Omfg, he is really fucking cute. ): I hope I don't sound like a creep either haha. I'm a sucker for guys in bands.

I guess all you can really do is act like you used to. Be natural. If you act any different it'll just show that you're uncomfortable or overthinking things. Chances are then he'll act the same way he used to and if not... well I guess that kind of gives you the clue that he's not interested anymore /:

By the way you guys talk it sounds like he still likes you he just like... doesn't want to like you again, if that makes sense, because of the whole distance thing. Like I was dating a boy and we broke it off because he was going to college far away, but we still talk occasionally and hangout and flirt. He thinks I'm cute, I still think he's cute.

We still like each other a teeny bit but we're realistic about it and realize that there's really no point in getting back together if the same exact thing is gonna happen again, if that makes sense. That's kinda what your situation sounds like.

I say just go to his show, just act like you used to, hopefully you guys will flirt/hookup or something, but if not, I wouldn't be hurt about it. Shit gets in the way sometimes /:

Sorry if that wasn't helpful at all haha ):

shave your mustache. ^____^~

i'm a doofus when it comes to boys BUT UM good luck with this one he has a cute big smile

that was really helpful actually. thanks a bunch. i just don't really want to get my hopes up and be like, ''well yeah, i guess he might still like me!'' and then have it end up that he's not interested. it just sort of seems like he's not exactly interested anymore. adkjfks. i wanna cry, ha. x( i like him so damn much.

distance sucks and if he hadn't lived so far away then we would have dated, that much i do know. we talked about that, but it was awhile ago.

LOL stfu. :(