I'm debating weather or not to add my ex girlfriend on facebook. Or at least asking her why she's spreading these rumors about me. She said that I beat her. I have bi-polor disorder and sometimes I black out and don't know what's happening. We were play slapping eachother and the next thing I know is her crying and a res mark on her face. I was told that I did it. To this day I still feel bad about it and that happened in like Novemeber of 2008. We we're together for 22 months and we talked about marriage and what we would name our kids. She also looked kinda fat when she broke up with me and I didn't see her for a while after that. Like two week later I saw her and she started to slim down alot! So I want to know. Do you think her ego was prego? What should I do if I do talk to her. We haven't spoken in 2 and a half years.

Oh and Please, when you talk to me, PINGme

Maybe you guys can help.

If I were you, I would honestly just leave her alone. I couldn't imagine wanting to talk to someone again if they'd left a red slap mark across my face. Granted, she was probably slapping and hitting you too, but I still just don't think it's acceptable at ALL to take things to that level and actually hurt her enough to leave a mark on her face. If she was playing too rough you should have asked her to stop, not hit her back harder. Even if you "blacked out" this still makes you incredibly dangerous, you did hurt her after all! Which is never, ever okay.

I think she has every right to say that you hit her, to be honest. You obviously see the situation very differently and your disorder could have attributed to it, but still there's no denying that you did well... hit her. She may be leaving out some details, but honestly, I would just let her go and not try and bring up the situation or contact her again. I would want to avoid a person that hurt me like that at all costs.

I'm not sure what the whole part about her being fat is about but uh... wanting to see her again just because she's thinner or more attractive now is NOT okay at all, that would be such an incredibly shallow reason to want to see her. Personally I wouldn't talk to her, and if I did, it would only be to apologize to give both of you some more closure. But idk, if I were her I probably wouldn't want to hear from you, sorry to say.

She was saying that it was a daily thing. And the part about her getting fat was. I think she was pregnant. I have no desire to see her again. Just talk to her on facebook or atleast her sister. And when I black out, I have no control over anything. It runs in my family. My cousin has it and so does my uncle.

I've given it some thought and I just think I'll let her talk. I really don't care what people think of me anyways.

Ohhh, I see. Well it's definitely not okay for her to be spreading rumors that it was daily or routine when it was just 1 accidental time. If you want to talk to her I would just mention that you don't appreciate the rumors and that you both know it was only 1 mistake, which you're incredibly sorry for. Hopefully a short but sweet message like that could give her some closure and perhaps it'll get her to stop exaggerating the story. If she doesn't reply I wouldn't press it though- like I said before even though it DOES mean something that you are sorry, I would be hesitant about someone who hit me, no matter the context.

The blacking out sounds pretty scary though, and it's not a reason for justifying that you hit her. If you knew you had episodes of aggression or where you don't remember things like that then idk... perhaps you should try and get help if you haven't already so this doesn't happen in a future relationship? Not trying to be condescending, I just want what's best for both of you. But if it seriously doesn't bother you, then I suppose just let it go.

She sounds like complete trouble, stay far, far away and don't associate with the same people.

And the black outs sound like something you should get treatment for.

If she's claiming that you beat her. I agree with Dandelina and Blir. Stay away from her, she has trouble written all over her words and actions. Her claiming that you "beat her" is saying that you were willingly physically abusing her, which isn't true at all.