ayyye so im 16 and I'm pretty sure I'm transgendered.. just wanted to chat with some other guys because I'm super bored

Hi there! I'm also a transgender, though not FTM. I think I truly realised it when I was about your age, or maybe a year older or so. How did you figure out you're a transgender, by the way? :)

well i always thought i was just an extreme tom boy. i was really sheltered until high school and this past year a friend of mine introduced the idea of genderqueer and transgender. after thinking about it for a long time i just started to identify with it. i feel so happy when people say "he" in stead of "she" although my parents don't seem to understand. hat about you?

Hey! I'm FTM, and I've "officially" known about it since I was 12 (currently 18), although I have always felt different from everyone else. I think the best way to describe it is like this:

As a kid in school, I didn't fit in with the girls because I was never interested in playing house and such. I wanted to run around and play army games with the boys. However, none of them would play with me due to being a female. It was as though I was not feminine enough to be female, but too feminine to be male.

Of course, now that I'm older, I have finally realized that I am a somewhat effeminate male, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. But I think that was the hardest part of my journey, but also the most important part. I learned to just accept myself for who I am, and it has made my whole situation much easier. Just remember that it's perfectly okay to be trans.

thats seriously how I've always felt!! Now that I'm coming out as trans, all my guy friends get weirded out and my girl friends don't want to spend time with me. its kind of a bummer just because they don't understand. i do think accepting yourself is the hardest but most important part of being trans or really anything. did you tell your parents? and if so, when?

I told my mom when I was about 14-15, and she was really great about it since she's just such an accepting person. I am really lucky to have her :) But she made an appointment to see the family doctor and see what steps there were to take. (I should mention I am from Canada though, so my process may be "simpler" than for someone from another country) Thankfully he had already dealt with a MtF woman, so he was familiar with the process and referred me to a mental health association for a psyche evaluation. So during 2 several-hour sessions, I had to tell some scary old lady with face resembling yellow leather every single detail of my life. Needless to say, it sucked major ass.

From there...Ah, do you mind if I just kind of tell my story? Sorry, I'm kind of just rambling here.

My story is somewhat similar :) I didn't have any friends to teach me about anything trans* related, though. So I just realised it after analyzing the discomfort I felt about my gender at some point, and then I started to search more info about my condition and how it's called, eventually finding out that it wasn't as rare as I originally thought. It was such a happy discovery! ^_^ I think it can be especially challenging for parents to accept that their child is a trans* person. There's this silly myth that parents are supposed to know their children better than anyone, regardless of how much they actually talk to each other about personal issues. So I guess it can really take them by surprise when their child comes out as a trans* person. I talked a lot with my parents about this after I came out, and eventually got my mom to call me by my chosen name. My dad, however, told me that he'll always see me as a person of my assigned gender, which kinda hurt, but meh. Parents are just parents anyway. I've always cared more about my friends than relatives, because I got to choose my friends based on who they are as people, while relatives just happened to be there.

My best friend since the 4th grade is FTM. I think I may have actually been the one who first told him about the term "transgender" back in sophomore year of high school (this was before it was as discussed as it is now; i had learned about it from the book Luna). It was hard for him at first with his family, but both of his parents accepted it, although it took his mom a few years. He's now almost fully legally transitioned, on hormones, and saving up for top surgery. I don't want to invade the thread or anything, I just wanted to let you know that even if people have trouble accepting it at first, your true friends will stick with you no matter what!

i would greatly enjoy hearing your story(: