I need some advice on a stupid problem
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Well.. you see, I'm a little embarrassed for saying what I'm about to say, because I'm sure many people will think I'm stupid for obsessingly worrying over something stupid. But I really need to talk to somebody and get their opinion on what they think is going on, I know that my brother and mother(only people living in my house) will only laugh in my face if I ask them. You see, recently, my best friend has been avoiding/ignoring me. You have to know a little about her and me, so he's a little info of our relationship/each other. First, she's a online friend. I've never seen her with my own eyes since she lives thousands of miles away from me. I'll start from the beginning, a little over two years ago(Also, she is 12, I am 14.) I met her after I joined a Naruto Rp that she made. Long story short, we've gotten really close over the last two years, she's shown me pictures of her to prove she's not some 50 year old pervert.(No, it is not a common web picture.) So I showed her my picture to prove to her the same thing. I was the first person she truly trusted with that, she was the first person I truly trusted with that. We have always been much closer than any friend I've ever had, online or not, I believed I could trust her with anything. We'd always make each other drawings. She is basically the little sister I always wanted. Despite her age, she's much like my and is very mature for her age. Now to my point. Well, recently, things have gone really bad. A month ago, just before Valentines day, she got a boyfriend. About 4 or 5 days later, she left for two days(We used to rp daily, it helps us stay close and reliefs the stresses of life. Also, our rp is not a sex rp. It's a normal rp.) due to a bad sickness. She came back for one day before vanishing, yet again. About 5 days later she came back and said her computer broke(It's 5 years old and is always screwing up.) and her dad somehow managed to fix it. After that, for about a week, she only came on for a hour and thirty minutes since she had a lot of work to catch up on due to missing school days from snow blizzards. Usually we'd spend all our free time together, which is about 6-8 hours, depending the day. 17 days ago, two days before my birthday, she vanished. I haven't heard from her at all. At first I just thought her computer finally died. Then, 5 days ago, I went onto Deviantart(We've friended each other in just about every site we know.) and saw she was on, three hours ago. So I messaged her and asked what the hell is going on. I go onto another site and saw she had logged onto that site too recently. She's been coming on deviantart every two days, and is ignoring my messages. That's really unlike her. Usually she'd be doing anything to get back in touch with me, yet I find her online nearly every day on another site.(We are on a adoptable-pet site and rp through personal message. She hasn't been on it for 17 days.) I looked at my outbox, and she didn't even bother to open my messages! I miss her dearly, and it's painful for me to think that she'd willingly give up 2 years of working on a single rp, and building our friendship, without even telling my why. What I can figure out... is why she's literally on for a minute on dA. She doesn't comment/favorite/submit anything, and if she really didn't want me around anymore, wouldn't she have told me, deleted me as a friend, or at least hidden her being on? I've known her for two years, and this is really unlike her. I know in my heart from my experience with her that she would never do this to me, yet all the signs that she is doing that to me is adding up. But last time I talked to her, she showed absolutely no signs of her wanting/planning to leave. She said she was incredibly sorry for those two leavings, but it was out of her control since she can't exactly control how her body acts or if her computer will work. She said, 17 days ago, the very last message I got from her that she sent before she went to bed, that she would have to leave for about a hour to go to the pet shop to buy the fish she's been wanting for a while now. By now, I'm sure your thinking "Oh wow. It's a online friend you've never even seen in person! Get over it!" but it's much more than that, and I feel like nobody would understand this subject. But I really need somebody to talk to about this, I don't know if I'm being paranoid, or if I just don't want to accept the truth that she's quit our hard-worked-on rp, and quit on our friendship without even a word to me. This is the only site she didn't want to join, so I feel more comfortable posting this here than anywhere else. I don't think anybody will reply here, but it was worth a shot.
No problem is ever stupid, dear.
I'm really sorry your friend is treating you this way. I've had online friends like this, but I'm sure she'll come around. You two are clearly close, and I can't see why anything would change that. I would say be patient and see if she reads your messages.
Unfortunately, her having a boyfriend might be the brunt of the matter. Often when girls get boyfriends they are 100% consumed by them, so much that their friends don't seem to matter so much. But I think she'll get out of the funk and come back to you with a feeble excuse. And you can just take her apology and excuse for what it is and continue on with your lives.
I hope that helps, and I hope you feel better. ❤️
Well, she's had other boyfriends before, but this has been the first one she's had on Valentines Day. I told her before that I was afraid she'd leave because she'd be time consumed with her boyfriend, but she told me she wouldn't do that, mainly because she doesn't spend that much time with him. And I guess I'm just fretting because this is the very first time she's ever done this, I've always told her that it scares and worries me when she suddenly leaves. I just wouldn't understand why she'd want to do that, especially around my birthday. Thanks, that did help me feel better. I won't like it, but I'll wait.