So, I'm a femmy gay male that has posted on craigslist looking to get off. Am I completely stupid for doing this..? I've done it several times in the past with no problem. However, one time I was raped. Am I an idiot for giving the internet a second chance looking for a hookup? It's not like I was eternally traumatized by the negative experience, though, it's made me more careful.

I'm a horny individual who needs sexual satisfying.. I recently put a sex ad on CL and found someone I find quite attractive. They have proposed a threesome in the woods. (total tun-on btw) How can I make sure this doesn't go awry? Any advice for safety is greatly appreciated, thanks! :)

No offense, but your crazy for putting yourself in that situation after what you've been through, and i mean, 3 some, yeah thats cool but what if its 2 to 1 and they do some crazy crap to you?

Craigslist is not the site to be doing that stuff on IMO

But then again, i dont get horny, i could probably go the rest of my life without sex and wouldnt care hahaha

I would say make sure to meet them, get coffees something before you just meet up with them? Im not really sure, but i hope you stay safe!!!

I'm a lunatic! I know. :/ But I what happened didn't shut my horny switch off, unfortunately. I know.. My worries exactly. I do have a tazor, but that only secures me so much..

And yes I know, CL is pretty crappy. D: I don't have the highest libido normally, but damn I get horny and get the need to get off with another guy. The suggestion about meeting first for coffee is a good one. and I think I'll do that, if I do wind up meeting.

I would feel safer if it was 1 on 1, at least you know you have a fighting chance, but 2 on 1 and i mean :/

but i just wouldnt rush into anything, not until you feel comfortable, maybe you could find somebody and be bena friends? that way at least you can get off, but its with the same person instead of random people

Yeah, that certainly is true. I guess I should look at this with serious doubt and concern.. The ad was technically for FWBs, but CL is merely a sex ad, no matter what is said..

I may not even have to worry bout this person, as they stopped responding after I said I was only into oral sex.

Oh, well, i hope it works out for you whatever you want it to come to!

Like said, going out to coffee or arranging a public meeting ahead of time is an excellent idea. Or even something like a phone call or a skype chat. It gives you a general idea of who that person is instead of just jumping right into things without a second thought. Considering your past, you should be very careful. Perhaps it's a good idea to bring a small bag with you to these meet-ups with some pepper spray in case things go badly? That way you at least stand a better chance of defending yourself. Also make sure to let an understanding friend or family member know the general location of where you will be beforehand so if you don't return on time they know where to look?

Random meetups seem really risky so whatever you do just be safe! Online hookups are not bad if they're consensual and safe but not meeting them beforehand puts you at serious risk.

why don't you keep the contact info of the people you've already found that you're attracted to/have slept with? isn't that so much easier? not saying get into a relationship with them but if you're both on the same page and just want to hook up then why keep looking elsewhere if you have satisfaction for the time being?

jesus christ dude. if you're hooking up with dudes on the internet you have to 100% check them out first. if you've been raped before you should know that.

craiglist casual encounters is fine if you're a dude wanting to fuck women but its a whole different game when youre meeting up with random dudes.