I ended the relationship. Thanks for the advice.

Ok, so you "love to mess with him, and screw around with his head," and you have both shown signs of physical abuse (for lack of a better term) toward each other? No. This is not a healthy relationship at all.

Even looking past the above mentioned things going on, if you aren't happy being with him, don't waste your time. It will be much easier on him to break things off now than if you string him along for months and then decide that you just can't be truly happy with him. THAT would break his heart more than doing so after a week of official dating.

And please don't take this as an insult, because it's not meant to be, but I really think you need to reevaluate if you're mature enough for a relationship. To be in a stable relationship you CANNOT "screw around" with your partner. You have to be up front, honest, and open with each other for things to truly work. I just have to question why you feel the need to do such a horrible thing to someone you say you care about.

When I said "screw around" I meant joking around with him, teasing him, and playing tricks. But I understand where you're coming from, and that is a lot of the same advice I've been getting, but I just don't know how to go about telling him, again that I just like him as a friend, when we've already kissed, and messed around a bit with each other (as in butt touching, and chest feeling) :| so yeah. It'll only confuse him more I'm afraid, and he will not understand why, and I'll have to find a valid excuse, besides "Oh I'm just not feeling it really. and all those things we did I was just curious and experimenting with you." :/ thats kind of bitchy. But thanks for your advice.

Well putting it that way would indeed sound bitchy, but you have to ask yourself, is that the way you feel? Did you only do those things out of curiosity and wanting to experiment? If you've never been in a serious relationship that had a physical aspect before, it's perfectly natural. If you think you only want to be friends with him, maybe tell him that in the week you've been an official couple you feel things have progressed a bit too fast and it's making you feel a little awkward. Ask if it would be ok with him to just go back to the friends stage, at least until you can both agree on how to proceed. If you feel strained in the relationship, he may have picked up on that. It sounds like you want to remain friends with him, so being direct and explaining how you feel is probably the best way to go about that. He may be hurt at first, but if your friendship is strong enough, he'll understand.

And so you know, I've gone through something similar in the past. I was best friends with a guy for months. We decided to officially date, things got a little physical, and I immediately regretted it. It made things very awkward for me. For a week or two I agonized over how to tell him. I finally just sat him down and came clean telling him that I just really felt we were better off as friends. Turns out he felt the same way, and we were able to remain friends.

I really do wish you luck with however you choose to proceed. I know it's difficult.

Don't keep leading him around. it sounds like you like the attention in a way, but not him. Seriously, don't fuck with his emotions. Break it off now.

Thank you, that helps a lot. (:

Thank you, that helps a lot. (:

I agree with .

Also, him asking, "are you okay? You having a good time? What's wrong?" doesn't make him insecure at all. It makes him perceptive to the way you're obviously feeling and showing he wants you to express your feelings to him. That's a good quality, not a bad one :/

Oh, and I don't think the biting and hair pulling are at all abuse. However, you need to talk to him and set clear limits about what is okay and what is not and have a safe word, everybody has different limits :] Personally, my fiance and I have very few limits, but that doesn't make it an unhealthy or abusive relationship, because we both are consenting fully. In fact, many people are stuck in unhealthy relationships because they're afraid that being honest about their desires (they like it rough, they like biting, even they like rape roleplay) and ened up being miserable and getting their desires fulfilled elsewhere.

If you don't like him romantically- tell him. I know it's not a simple thing to actually do, but it really is a simple concept. Just because you've kissed this guy doesn't mean you're committed to him for X amount of time or anything like that. You're free to leave whenever you want. It's too bad things didn't work out, but if you're unhappy with him, there's no use dragging it out and not being honest about your feelings.

If he's asking if you're okay, etc. then it's not really insecurity. Perhaps you aren't giving him feedback so he doesn't know if you're enjoying yourself? It doesn't mean he's insecure, it means he obviously cares about your feelings and whether or not you're having fun with him. Try giving him better feedback- if you're happy, show it. If you're not, then it's time to suck up your fears and be honest with him.

As for the hair pulling- was it done in a sexual heat-of-the-moment manner or in a different context? Like said, if it was done in a more sexual manner, then next time just set clear boundaries and perhaps a safe word so you know when things have gone too far. But if it was just done in a joking way then... idk, personally I'd be a bit worried if my boyfriend yanked on my hair outside of having sex. If it really hurt you- then it's not okay. I'm not going to say what he did was acceptable, but perhaps pulling your hair was just a knee-jerk reaction to trying to get you away since you were obviously hurting him. If you plan on staying with him then you have to set careful boundaries so neither of you harm the other again.

But I agree with the others- you don't really sound to into this guy. It's best to leave him if you don't like him. He may be heartbroken for a while, but he'll heal in time and he should appreciate your honesty over being lied to or used.

I broke it off with him yesterday night, he kept talking about killing himself because he kept thinking he was just a mistake. I talked him out of it finally, and now he's calling me the sister he never had. So I suppose this is alright for now.

No the hair pulling was him trying to make me stop biting him. It was a misunderstanding of how hard I was biting, and I didn't hear him say stop. It hurt. :/

I'm glad to hear you were able to make your decision. It sounds like he's taking it well by calling you his sister. Perhaps he agrees that you two would just be better off as friends.

As for suicide, that's a totally different issue, but hopefully he can get the help he needs :c never ignore someone who's talking about suicide, especially in-depth like that. Just be there for him as a friend if you possibly can.

The hair-pull is definitely a huge red flag, it sounds like it's definitely for the better that you broke it off.

Yes, I am very happy with my decision, and he does seem to be taking it well, he apologized for him over reacting, and thanked me for breaking it off before he got too attached, so I believe it was for the best. And I am going to be a good friend, and treat him right. Just hopefully he doesn't try to get back with me, that would make our friendship a bit awkward. So yeah, thank you for the advice, and hopefully I can add this to my chapters in life, and leave it behind. ^^

I'm glad you were able to voice to him that perhaps you two are better off friends. I don't see why the two of you still can't hang out and such as you did before just nothing romantic like. I agree that i don't think the hair pulling was quite abuse however like others have said limits must be set.

How about from here on out you learn to NOT bite people on random body parts? You claim he hurt you by pulling your hair but how about you hurting him by biting his hand first? Did we not learn this lesson as a kid? Or are you still a kid? I mean seriously just biting him and trying to mess with his head? You have so much wrong with you to even begin to handle a relationship...

Excuse me? I bit his hand for starters. (thats all I bit too ) :/ secondly you don't even know the full story or this guy so I can't even expect you to understand my situation, and stop accusing me of being wrong. I am 20 years old, so I am apparently not a child, and heck no I am not ready for a relationship, especially with someone who becomes obsessive, and attached very easily. (He admitted this) so again please don't try to down grade me off of the little details of my story. That's not really what the forum is for, thanks.

if you want people to have the full story then post it, but to put you enjoy messing with his head and were biting him first when he had pulled your hair and only reply happily/thankfully to those who felt sorry at the hair pulling indicated to me you're seeking sympathy for your actions that led to it. No I don't know him or everything involved and yeah having someone clingy can suck but to enjoy messing with people's heads and crying when they react to you biting them... you just need to learn to stop that lest karma go your way and give you someone who will do WORSE than just bite you or pull your hair to get you to stop biting them

and here I quote myself "but how about you hurting him by biting his hand first?" So I already read you did the actions first thank you grow up stop biting people and messing with their heads lest someone else comes along in your life and does 10x over what you did to him

Dude, quit trying to pick a fight with me. What I did wasn't wrong. And I am not trying to get sympathy. I was trying to get advice for making the right decision. And I did, and I'm happy. So leave it be.