So long story short, Roomie and I had a friends with benefits thing going on for a while. Yeah, I know people's feelings about FWB is mixed, so please save me the speech. It worked for us because we realized we didn't care for each other romantically for years and rather than do random hook ups, why not hook up with someone who knows what we like, etc? Now with summer here, it was pretty much a nonverbal agreement to put an end to it for the mean time due to distance and outside circumstances that would be beyond our control. (I.e. crushing on someone, etc.) Being mature about the whole deal, ya know?

It's pretty common for Roomie and I to hit on each other just out of habit, or to make a reference to something when we want that specific thing/act/whatever. This typically carries on until either one of us is interested in someone else, which is when the FWB deal ends. However, rather than sticking to our usual rules, Roomie kept hitting on me while talking with this guy she met at the hospital clinic she volunteers at. I originally shrugged it off, since she didn't seem all to into this guy and whatnot. After asking me for my advice on what to do with him, I figured it'd be a while before I'd have to reinforce the "no flirting" rule. Boy, was I wrong.

After knowing this guy for less than a week, they're suddenly dating despite the fact she said it wouldn't happen for a while, she wanted to take her time getting to know him, etc. Should have known better, honestly. I ripped her a new asshole for essentially being two-faced about the whole deal and lying to me about details she wasn't entirely honest about. I'm not at all impressed, nor am I happy that she felt a little rushed into dating this guy.

However, since then I've kept my mouth shut. But guess what hasn't stopped? Yeah, the flirting. Once she told me about clinic guy and her dating, I cut it off but she somehow has seemed to miss the memo. It's getting increasingly frustrating because I told her "No, we can't do this anymore if you're with him". She hasn't quite gotten the hint yet. I just need to find a nice way to tell her she can't have us both, because it's not right at all.

sigh End of rant, I guess. Roomie is just...idk.

Curious to know if this is still going on or if you no longer need a second opinion :)

I don't know if you still need advice or not but here goes just in case. If your roomie is indeed with someone and you are following the no flirting rule then perhapse you need to sit her down and talk to her and tell her that since she is dating someone it makes you uncomfortable when she flirts with you. Also tell her that you don't think it's right for her to have both you and the guy from the clinic. Unless she and him have an open relationship (where they each see other people) then it is wrong of her to think she can have you both, it's not fair to you or to the guy. I do hope this has helped.

No longer need advice, but thank you for it and the opportunity to have it! Roomie and the guy broke up last weekend, but we did have a serious talk while I was there a few weeks ago about how a lot of things were not okay. So everything is fine for now. c:

:3 no problem! I'm glad things are doing good now :)