Okay so I am very not grammatically coherent right now so I'm really really sorry and this is gonna seem rambley.

But. Basically. It's been a couple months since the really brutal and insanely painful ending of my 5-year relationship and I am sort of getting back on my feet and moving on. I really just want to kind of do things for myself for awhile, and whether that means I'm in a sort of-pointless relationship or not Idrk.

But ever since the breakup every guy that I have ever been friends with or become friends with is suddenly extremely interested in basically marrying me. And it's really frustrating, but, this is gonna sound really ego-maniacal, I was expecting it to happen. But what I was expecting to happen was someone from eons and eons ago and I getting back in contact and him suddenly being VERY interested in everything and talking to me constantly uvu

I won't lie. It was nice at first. We were flirting, whatever, we talked about how he was and what he's been up to for the last few years (he lives in the UK, we met online and have never met in person, but prior to our sort of slipping apart he was already pretty pursuant of me? But I figured by now it would've passed? Idrk?). But since then it's gotten intense and incredibly just like, "Whooooooa take like five hundred steps back, actually, just turn around, find a horse, and keep running."

Like this guy is a great friend. He's a wonderful dude. He's great. We have a lot in common, he's incredibly attractive, etc. He hits all the buttons, but dude just. I don't even know. He keeps asking where I'm going when I take my year off, saying things like, "I would love to join you and actually touch you." (Not just meet but touch even.) I've given him a few cold shoulders and I keep trying to make it obvious that no I'm not super comfortable with that and heyman can't we just be friends because I'm sort of still in a deep trough of "All men can fuck off at the moment."

I don't know. I'm just not in a place to deal with all of these people trying to get their freakin' claws in me. Like. Yeah. Maybe I want another boyfriend. But not one that's interested in marriage, cars, houses, kids, moving me around with them. I have my own goddamn life and for the past 5 years I've been kind of repressing it and I need to actually be me for awhile. Like. Come on. Little flingy boyfriend. Not, "Hey I'm going to travel halfway across the world to come visit you and by the way my mom would love you and are you into being tied up?"

ARGH. Okay done ranting. No idea what to do about this. Fallin' apart over here.

I'm going to assume since you say he's attractive, you've video chatted with this guy? Or is this just exchanging messages via chat..? See, the problem with the internet is quite obvious. It gives people the guts to do and say things that either they wouldn't say irl or wouldn't say right off the bat irl. ;s This guy, from the way it sounds like, is moving at light speed. |D That's not healthy. He sounds clingy, desperate, and frankly quite selfish if you've told him to back off and he still keeps on clinging to you. Gosh, all the stuff you've said about him makes him sound like a total creeper. Either tell him to calm the fuck down or stop talking to him. Clingy people like that are prone to stalking and furthermore lashing out if they don't get their way. They'll guilt-trip you and manipulate you to get what they want. So, let him go. Sure, letting go of a friend sucks, but if it means getting rid of that incessant weird creepiness, then so be it. It'll be better for you if you don't have to worry about getting stalked and you can finally focus on yourself. And even if he's not a total creeper, his priorities are just not your priorities. Best of luck to you! c:

Nah, we only talked on FB. He mentioned wanting to Skype at one point and I very quickly shut that down. I managed to finally put him off, I think. I got a little snarky and we haven't talked in a few days and I am fine with that. u___u now to make sure I don't put myself in another one of those awkward situations.

Nothing like snark to shut dudes down haha. ;p I'm glad you were able to navigate the situation and I hope you don't have to deal with another creeper. ;O;