For most of the time I feel very content with who I am. And then I see couples walking past me. I look at the girl and she's skinny. I feel like crap at the moment. I guess you can tell by now I'm single. D: But that's not my problem (for now? o.o) My problem is the fact that when the time comes and I want to step into the dating scene no one will want me. I'm not that skinny chick all guys want. It makes it kind of worse when I see my crush hanging out with skinny girls.

How can I build a bridge and get over this? D:

First, not every girl is a twig. Big can and is beautiful. The wonderful thing about woman, is they come in all shapes and sizes. Skinny might be his type though. To be honest, I love fat men. My fiance is 6' 3" 140 lbs. He's tall, but body wise he's small. I'm 5' 6" -not displaying weight- but I'm bigger than he is, and he's fine with it.

With all that aside.....

I'm guessing from your post your either in middle school, or high school, and honestly, there will be plenty of crushes, and plenty of guys who like you as you are.

I think the best way to gain self confidence, which to me, sounds like your lacking. May not be alot, but it seems to be enough that you came here for advice. Anyway, every day look in the mirror, and tell yourself out loud one thing you like about yourself. It sounds silly, but do it anyway. Do NOT think about or focus on the negative. You can also leave little notes with compliments for yourself where you'll be seem often.

Buy a sticky pad, and stick them on the edge of your tv if you have one in your bedroom. On your mirror, your bedroom door so you see it on the way out. On your favorite book or movie so when you pick it up you've got that message there.

Above all though, when the time is right, you will find someone who loves you for you, not for what your body may or may not look like.

It took me like 4 years to realize my fiance loved me big ass an all, and he wouldn't change a thing about me.

Everything said is pretty much perfect.

Being skinny or not shouldn't affect your confidence. Being skinny does NOT mean that you have no problems or struggles in life or you get whatever you want, or that looking that way is effortless. I'm blessed with a naturally petite figure, but even though I'm tiny, I work so hard at the gym or eating healthy, etc. to maintain what I have. A lot of people mistake being skinny for being healthy too, which is NOT always true. I know many super, stick-thin girls that are way more frail and unhealthy than some of the bigger girls I know.

Your confidence shouldn't be connected to your weight. It's not realistic for everyone to expect themselves to be stick thin. I think you have either of two choices: change your mindset, or make a strong-willed effort to change yourself. Don't like your weight? Start doing some food research, if you're in college, take a course on nutrition/dietetics, get a gym pass, start jogging around your neighborhood. There are loads of ways to improve your weight and your overall health- but you shouldn't do it to make other people notice you, you should do it to make YOU feel better about yourself.

I've had a gym pass for only about 2 weeks now, but I can honestly say that I feel so much better than I did before I had one. I haven't seen any significant change in weight personally, but just knowing that I'm taking an hour or less almost every single day to work out and be active and healthy makes me feel really, really good. Even before I got a gym pass, I started jogging around my neighborhood and I always feel a million times better after I jog than when I sit on the couch watching TV wishing I was thinner.

I think you just have to realize that being 'bigger' doesn't mean you are unattractive or undesirable. Confidence is the most attractive thing to me, and I know many, many others feel the same way. My boyfriend was around 180 when I first met him, he was never 'fat' persay but he had some chub here and there. But his attitude and overall confidence made me completely overlook that. He's hit the gym and shaped up a LOT too since I've met, and in under a year he's lost over 30ish pounds and now he's super slim at 150 pounds for a guy his height. It's amazing what working out and eating healthy can do.

Just love who you are as a person, and set goals to make yourself feel better, not to make other people look at you. It's easier to motivate yourself and feel comfortable and confident if you're working towards goals that make you happy.

Personality > Looks.

Truth that at your age (I'm assuming you're in your early/mid-teens here), boys might be a little more physique-focused. But they'll grow out of that. Trust me. When you're comfortable with who you are, it shows... and confidence is attractive.

I agree with Lamb that leaving notes for yourself can help remind you of that. It sounds dorky, but it really does help. :3

- I'm not skinny and I have a boyfriend. I'm not really fat either, you can just call me 'average' (it's all in my legs xD). I didn't feel very comfortable with myself either, but a year ago I started to work on being more confident about my body. I went on a small diet to get rid of those extra few kilograms (I like to stay 10 kilograms under (my height minus 100) - I'm 178 so that would be 68) and due to the compliments my boyfriend gave me, I started to see that not all guys are attracted to twigs.

If you really want to get skinnier, I suggest taking a HEALTHY diet and doing sports. I wouldn't do both if you're not really 'fat' since sporting helps you turn the fat into muscle tissue. I took a weight watchers diet, and I lost 1-2 kilograms a week. It's not much, but all little bits help and it's not healthy to lose a lot of weight in only one week. You can go biking and/or swimming a few days a week in order to make yourself look healthier and skinnier, since the diet only makes you lose fat, it doesn't tighten up the muscles at all (and biking/swimming are rather fun and not as tiring as running/cardio).

If you don't want to work on your body, I suggest taking the advice of Lamb and Blir, since I can only agree with them. Nobody is born perfectly and everyone has issues. You should just go with what feels right and don't look at anyone else. And if your crush likes skinny girls, so be it, you'll meet plenty of other guys who like a more round figure.