Wasn't sure if I should post here or Internet, but has anyone had any success with the app Tinder? I've met one person on there and we met up in real life, he was who I saw in the pics and who I've talked to and I thought we would have really hit it off. He's 34 and I'm 23 and I thought he would be a bit more mature than I am but he's not. He can't be serious and I'm not sure what it is he even wants. I don't want to look at all older guys the way I look at him. He's a nice guy, but can be an ass. Then there's other guys on there that I think are just looking for a hookup and I don't want that. I want something real. So has anyone had any luck? I hear it's a success, but maybe it just isn't for me.

I haven't used it, but my friends who do usually do it if they want casual sex. I know one decent guy who is using it to meet a nice girl for something a bit more serious, but I don't know how that is going for him. It seems to be something people usually use for hookups etc.

- I've never used Tinder or any dating site before. But, based on what you and Vanilla say about this site, it seems to be more about hookups than serious relationships.

About the 34 year old guy, he doesn't seem to be interested in a real relationship. Stay away from him... he might be trouble.

Yea there's too many people on there trying to hookup and it's so annoying yea I'm beginning to distance myself from him

- I'm glad you've decided to distance yourself from him. It's the safest thing to do.

Yea plus my feelings were getting too involved in someone who prob doesn't feel the same back. I hate how fast I start to like someone. It's a curse.

- I have the same problem too. I fell for my bf within a week of meeting him. I've been in a relationship with him for almost a year, but I've finally realized he doesn't have the same feelings as I do. I'm breaking up with him once I see him in person.

It's good you recognized he probably doesn't feel the same way quickly. This way, you won't be in a miserable relationship like I was.

yea something a bit similar happened with my ex we instantly clicked but after that honeymoon faze I wasn't attracted to him anymore but he was in love with me and we both had lost our jobs and I couldn't break up with him during that time, so once he finally got a new job I broke it off I felt bad but he was an awful boyfriend so I didn't feel too bad. And I figured this older guy would have been more mature and relationship ready, but I was totally wrong he acts like a teenager and I'm not attracted to that.

- Yeah, there's no need to feel bad for breaking up with someone who isn't treating you well.

Age doesn't make a difference with maturity levels. I'm 23 also, and been interested in guys aged 21-28. But, I'm instantly suspicious of guys over age 30 that are interested in me. There was one guy who was in his 40s that was really immature. He just wanted to hook up while his girlfriend was out of town. My bf is 25 and responsible, but not ready for a serious relationship because he needs to find himself first. A friend I'm interested in is 28, and he's been saying how he's looking for a serious relationship. He's also responsible.

I would say look for someone in their 20s. If they're in their early 20s, keep in mind they may be responsible and relationship ready.

Yea you're right, my mom says the same thing how I should date someone in their 20s but idk I like older guys. I shouldn't even be looking for a relationship I need to find myself too and I need to just focus on school and what I have to do.

- Finding yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself. I think you won't be able to have a healthy relationship unless you and your partner know yourselves. It's a journey that you can't schedule. It just happens.

so very true

I don't have a Tinder myself, but I've seen enough to know how it works. It's definitely structured for more fun and casual relationships. I wouldn't use it if you're looking for a serious relationship right off the bat.

Tinder terrifies me. So does any other "find single people X miles away" app. If I were involved in religion, the Christian Dating website seems the safest. The traditional "meeting new people through extracurriculars" seems the most effective for now.

You would have much more luck on OkCupid or Plenty of Fish for finding a serious relationship. Pretty sure Tindr was made for the purpose of finding people to hook up with.

I use it but not seriously. I haven't met anyone in person and I'm really hesitant about it in general after a bad date courtesy of okcupid.

I guess it works for people though.

I've used Tinder successfully for casual relationships that lasted several months, but in general, I haven't found anything serious on there.

I would say, if you want to find something that could really lead to something more, try an app/site with a slightly more in-depth profile. My roommate is using Plenty of Fish successfully and has had two great dates/relationships from it with people she really enjoyed (first one only ended because he moved back to England).

I've actually had a pretty good experience with Tinder. I got it after a bad breakup; I was distancing myself from everyone and realized I needed to move on. I made it clear in my profile I wasn't interested in hookups or one night stands, but I think the reasons for my success (besides my own photos) are that 1. I'm a woman 2. I generally don't go for guys who I find too attractive 3. I live in a major city with a large college population and 4. I'm a self proclaimed nerd

A friend of mine is dating a girl she met on Tinder and it's been going pretty well for her. I didn't have any luck with it when I tried but the app just wasn't as appealing to me as something like okcupid.

I would recommend OkCupid for seeking long-term relationships ... I know a few couples from there who eventually married :)