I'm probably a bit young to talk about things like these since I'm still in secondary school but I think I can relate to the problem or should I rather say I fear that I might end up in a similar situation in the future. Through primary school I had only four close friends and at this point I'm in contact with only one of them. I've become close to two more people in the last two years but they both live outside of town and I spend very little time with them. There is only one college in this area so we will all be travelling and moving once we finish secondary school and I doubt I will be able to meet new people in another city because I don't go out much. I've even considered going to whatever college my best friend chooses just so I don't end up alone.

I haven't had boyfriends so I can't really say anything about that still I always assumed that people are close with at least some of their co-workers.

Of course I don't know much about your situation but, If I could have done anything different about mine, it would be not staying so close to my "friends". I'm sure if I moved to college alone or at least tried to hang out with different people (going out of my comfort zone) I'd have some friends by now, because I'd know new people. That said, if I were you, I'd choose college depending on whatever is best for you.

Thank you for the advice =)

I suppose I wasn't any help to you so sorry about that. I hope you will be able to solve all your problems.

You're welcome. And honestly, any kind of feedback is helpful!

- I'm sorry to hear all of that. I know what's it's like to be abandoned by people you cared for. It hurts a lot.

From what you described, your friends don't seem to care about you anymore. As hard as this sounds, you need to move on. There are many people out there that will love hanging out with you. It may seem like finding these people are impossible, but it's definitely not! You will find some duds, but you'll eventually find the right people to be friends with.

If you're in college, meeting new people is easy! Go to school events and join a club that sounds interesting. Being around people that have similar interests as you will help you feel welcomed and less nervous. Also, talk to people in class. I've found my friends and boyfriend from talking in class and joining a club.

As for your boyfriend, I'm suspicious of any relationship where the age difference is over 5 years. I'm not saying having a big age difference is a bad thing. I just feel like those types of relationships have a greater chance of failing based on what I've witnessed. Anyway, ask yourself if you really love your boyfriend. Talk to him about how you feel. If he really cares about you, he'll listen. This might be tough for you. Trust me, I haven't had the courage to to confront my boyfriend about certain things yet.

I had a similar situation. One of my close friends from high school wanted us to go to school together so she would have someone to room that she knew. It quickly spiraled downwards, for several of the reasons you described actually.

As for meeting new people,try spending more time on campus. Go to events, especially if they interest you or don't cost anything to attend. See if you can't find a club to join. Having a group of people with some similar interests can go a long way.

In regards to your boyfriend, it's reasonable for him to want to spend time alone with his friends. He should communicate that better though and not lead you on about picking you up at a later time. Not only are you going to feel hurt when he doesn't show up, it also causes you both stress. Try talking to him about how it makes you feel and let him know he's able to have time to himself. Whenever he's out with his friends, you can do things that you like to do and just relax. Eventually there will be a time when you'll have your own group of friends to hang out with and won't feel so bad about hanging out with his friends all the time.

You're absolutely right and I definitely need to stop thinking about the situation all the time and just move on. Half of my class is going on Erasmus next year so I'll invest in approaching the new people who'll come to "replace them". Regarding my boyfriend, he is someone I'm quite sure I want to be with. We both have major flaws that lead to huge discussions: I'm very emotional and that is probably aggravated by my age, the situation I just described, taking the pill and my anxiety issues. Even though he is quite the opposite, I think we have more things in common than diversion points.

Sorry to hear about that; I honestly don't wish it upon anyone. We've discussed the issue several times but it keeps happening. I've asked for "better treatment" and he pointed out that me asking is pretty annoying and leads to the opposite. But I also feel that when I get anxious I approach the issue the wrong way. I'll try my best to be more laid back and to explore my old interests.

- That's the spirit! Good luck talking to the people going to Erasmus!

I have the same problem with anxiety and being on an anti-anxiety pill. It makes talking difficult. Talk to him, but tackle small issues first. Maybe he'll be more responsive if things are taken slowly.