So, I am sure at least a few of you remember my rant from a few months back about how my mom was forcing me to give up my room while my Uncle stayed, and how it made me uncomfortable, and yada yada.

Well, shortly after, my mom decided that she would let my uncle and cousin stay in her room, and she would just sleep on my bed and I could take the floor (because, honestly, sleeping on the floor isn't all that bad, and at least my personal space isn't invaded.) I was SO happy, and I thanked her profusely, because that took a lot of stress off of my shoulders, especially right before the beginning of my Senior (last) year of high school.

There are new developments as of last week.

My mom called me, and told me I was getting a new bed - a Queen sized bed. I was excited because I was tired of being cramped up on my tiny twin bed, and was more than ready to have some room to spread out. But, guess what? Surprise! I am getting the bed mainly so my Uncle and Cousin can sleep in my room for the whole week or two that they are going to be staying next month! Fuck.

Now before you jump to the conclusion that I am being a brat or anything, there are some reasons this bothers me so much.

1. I hardly know them. They may be family, but I've only met them twice and have talked to them a few times online. And a lot of those times, I didn't get along with them very well.

2. My uncle tends to be immature, meaning he purposely does stuff to annoy people. What's most frustrating, is that he doesn't know when to stop.

3. They make themselves far too at home in my room, and aren't very careful about moving my stuff, so stuff gets ruined. Last time they visited, multiple books got ruined, among other things, and my carpet got burned. Had I not gone in there to grab clothes, and noticed that my cousin (not the one who is visiting this time) had left her hair straightener resting on my cheap and highly flammable rug, a fire could have been started.

4. Having people in my room, moving my stuff, touching my stuff, stresses me out. I can handle having friends in my room, but only because they are like me, and are fairly thoughtful when it comes to being around other people's items. They get it. I can hardly handle having my parents in my room, cause they hastily move stuff about and mess things up. I hardly know my relatives, but I know them enough to know that they aren't very careful about stuff. Those two things stress me out a lot.

5. My cousin is a 13 year old boy. According to my friends with little brothers, and based on what I remember from high school, 13 year old boys aren't very pleasant. Maybe I am wrong and he is quiet and respectful, and won't be a problem. But I get the feeling that that's not the case.

6. This isn't as big as the rest of the things I guess, but my pet rat is getting displaced. There is NO way I am letting her stay in that room with them, so this means she will have to stay in my mom's cold, air conditioned room, which isn't very good for her. And did I mention, that the whole reason my mom is making me do this is because she couldn't possibly sleep without her air conditioner for a week. Air Conditioning > My feelings

Anyways, if you read all that, you are a brave warrior. Pretty much, I am really uncomfortable with the situation. I get stressed out easily in situations like this, and it doesn't help that I won't have my room.

Going back to my feelings, my mom tends to brush off my feelings as me being a bratty teenager, and doesn't understand anxiety at all. She never had a problem with anxiety, so she has a hard time understanding why I can't just "get over it" or "rationalize it". I have that shit rationalized completely in my head mom, but yet I am still anxious as fuck. Stop yelling at me. I can understand not getting why someone feels a certain way, but shut up and listen to me for once god damn.

ALRIGHT, that is it. Completely. It felt nice to type that out, though I sure hope that none of my relatives who would recognize this go on Subeta.

Thank you and goodnight.

Anxious or not, I'd be pretty fucking pissed at being forced out of my room for some immature uncle and cousin to stay in instead. Especially if they're so damn incapable of not breaking things or moving stuff. Can't exactly offer any advice, since it sounds like your mom is dead set on prioritizing her brother and nephew, you'd think she'd come up with a better living arrangement that doesn't rob you of your room for a couple weeks.

Oh God, this upsets me and it isn't even happening to me. I would throw the shit fit of all shit fits if someone tried that with me. I feel just like you do about people being in my room and moving my stuff around. I have an anxiety disorder, so this would not work well for my health. At all. There would probably be blood over it, honestly. Maybe it'd be worth it to pack up all your stuff and lock it up or hide it somewhere for the time they're there? Might seem like a lot to some people, but I think that's what I'd do. Ugh. I had a similar situation when my cousins were visiting - they didn't stay overnight thank God - but my mom wanted me to let them use my 360 and my computer. Umm fuck no. So I took the power cord from my 360 and hid it and password locked my computer and that was the end of that argument. Mom was mad, but oh well.

You don't sound spoiled or anything. I'm the same way about my room and it's upsetting to read about someone else going through it.

It's like... no touchie my Assassin's Creed stuff, laptop or Xbox.

I struggle a lot when my personal space is invaded and suffer with anxiety too. Considering your similar feelings regarding people moving your stuff and your mother's attitude about it, I actually feel a little better, as I have parents who don't understand my anxiety at all and underestimate the problem. As unpleasant and troublesome as it sounds, knowing in advance that they're not careful, I'd move my valuable stuff.

That's exactly what I feel like is the case. I almost feel like she forgets that just because she obviously knows her brother very well, I don't! And regardless of whether he is family or not, he is a strange man to me and not a very respectful one at that. Also, I did try to convince her of other sleeping options, AKA the living room. "They are guests! They need their privacy!" I don't expect privacy when I am a guest, it's not my house!

We have a storage room out in our shop, so I am going to be hoarding all of my important stuff in that room while they are here. And you freaking bet my Xbox is going to be out there with all that stuff. The laptop is going to be staying in my mom's room, along with some other things I'll need. Funny, I have to pack for my relatives to visit. It's almost like I am on a vacation.

Yeah, for real. They better not be planning on playing any of my xbox games, or my laptop. I'm definitely not going to let them hold my rat. She is an angel, but for the time they are here, she "bites".

I, too, feel so much better that I am not the only one whose parents treat their anxiety in such a way. I wish my mom would just be a little more understanding, and realize that I don't enjoy being nervous and stressed about everything. She seems to think that I choose to be miserable in situations that, rationally, aren't that bad.

But, a response for everyone: It makes me feel better to know that I'm not the only one who would feel this way in this situation. My mom was making me feel like I was just being a brat and all that :/ Also, turns out, two cousins are coming. Yay >.> I don't know what's going to happen, considering there is no way my tiny room is going to fit 3 people.

She "bites"? Sounds just like she doesn't like these strange people holding her to me.

Precisely. Which actually isn't all that far from true. I'm the only one that really holds her, and even then she is a bit nervous. For all I know, she could bite strange, careless uncles and cousins if they were to hold her.

Speaking of: I asked my mom not to talk about my rat while they are here, unless they ask about her, and if they do, she doesn't like being held by strange people. And my mom got annoyed and was like "Why can't they hold her?" and that sparked a mini argument.

A few weeks ago, I had to clear out my office space so my parents could convert it into a temporary bedroom for some house guests and that seriously annoyed me. Even though it was just for a week, I packed almost everything in that room out because I just didn't know the people well enough to respect my things. I can't imagine having to give up my bedroom for such a long time. Ugh. I'm sorry you're going through that :(

That's absurd. There's sharing then there's ridiculous, this is verging on the latter. x.x; Best of luck.

Oh gosh, that's awful :X I feel like I am going to be packing up a lot of my stuff also.

I agree. And thank you. I am hoping either something will happen where things work out and I get to keep my room, or that things will go smoothly and won't be as bad as I am expecting.

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This is so reminiscent of my neopets days: eats double post

crosses fingers for

I started with the essentials...but then the more I packed the more I imagined crazy scenarios in my head lol so I ended up taking everything as a precaution :p Good luck with it. I hope that obnoxious uncle doesn't bother you too much!

I guess that sucks in a way, but it's really not a big deal. Your rat will be perfectly fine in an air-conditioned room. If you're worried they'll get too cold, just give them some warm stuff to cuddle up in like a little blanket or stuffing from a plushie.

It's only for a week or two. Just pack up your stuff that you are most worried about and find a place to store it. Make it clear that there are boundaries. So long as you don't get all upset or be rude about it I'm sure you can get them to respect your stuff. Play nice and they'll probably respond in kind. Most people would be at least uncomfortable doing anything to someone's stuff if the person is friendly towards them.

It's uncomfortable for the time being, but it's not for long.