Oh man that's so rude wow. My parents would've given me a beating if I asked questions like that at that age. I've noticed even younger kids cussing than before, like age 7+. That boggles my mind omfg. Kids are really shitty about pointing out personal stuff. One kid asked me what happened to my face and he was asking about my acne. You want to be nice because they don't know better but sometimes I feel like they know exactly what they are doing. Anyways I'm sorry that happened and kudos to you for not coming back with a snarky comment (which is what I'd of done).

- That's not nice at all. No one has the right to be so rude to you because of your identity.

Me and my friend were goofing around at a store one time looking at toys and games for the fun of it. There were some girls around 8 who were laughing at us because we were "acting like babies". There was also a time where me and my boyfriend were trying to find a stuffed animal for a 3 year old family friend. We got some weird stares from parents and their kids.

I don't like people being judgmental. Parents teach their kids to discriminate against people and behaviors they see as being "socially unacceptable". Kids grow up and have these ideas reinforced by their peers. It's a vicious cycle that can never be broken unless the kid makes the decision to not discriminate and learn to respect other ways of life.

Are you sure they weren't asking because they were curious? Outing someone is shitty, but at ten years old they aren't really aware of that. They might just be curious. I don't think they're uneducated at all if they know what a trans person is. At 10 I didn't know what a transgender person was (never having heard the term before).

Obviously I can't tell the tones they were using from your post, but it might be a possibility. I've had kids ask me questions like that before. Sure, it's uncomfortable and you can correct how they're saying it if you want, but kids ask questions that are inappropriate because they're curious and that's how they learn about the world.

oh man i know right!! when i was 7 i would only ever cuss when my parents were farrrrrrrr away and just because BOY I FELT VERY BADASS. but then again i knew like... one swearword. maybe two. 7 year olds nowadays already talk about sex and drugs i mean wtf. i just think, woah, buddy, slow down, you're kinda young for this.

lmao, afterwards i did think about making some comeback but then i was like... nah, not worth it. i doubt i'll ever see them again anyway, tbh.

now i wonder what people think of me when i buy pokemon cards, heh... too bad i don't really care. let people think what they want~ n____n i just don't really get why people can't mind their own business? i mean, someone is in a store to buy something. they should just buy the fucking something and then get out and move on with their day. i don't see a point in rudely pointing out at everything that they deem "out of place".

i get it that they're curious, really, hence why i'm not furious about this. i'm just amazed at how rude they were about it. it's one thing to ask a question because someone is curious and wants to honestly learn more, it's another to try and figure out who is trans and who isn't. or at least, if someone really does enjoy trying to figure out random people's gender identities, they should just keep their guesses and doubts to themselves for fuck's sake. and they weren't exactly curious really, they were just trying to be all "grown-up" and "mature" and prove how smart they were.

I'm sorry you have to answer for children knowing you probably have to answer yourself for grown adults, too. It's a shame how 'taboo' our society has made opening up about sexuality and gender.

My sister had a child out of wedlock, and she was constantly being bugged by my youngest cousin who would ask questions about it. Why didn't she get married to the daddy? Aren't you supposed to be married BEFORE you have kids (re: sex)?! It's none of his business and it only makes you feel as though our aunt and uncle had been talking about the situation behind my sister's back. Very upsetting!

Wait, you're upset that two children didn't understand that what they were saying was insensitive, and instead of taking the opportunity to teach them that these questions are insensitive, and that they shouldn't say 'a trans', (whether you wanted to say you were trans or not), you came on subeta to rant?

About CHILDREN being INSENSITIVE and using words incorrectly like all children do???

Uh... yeah, kids generally want to appear grown up. Also, a lot of people do like to figure out if someone's trans or not. It's just human nature. The kids didn't have much of a filter about it, because they're kids.

I get that you don't want to be reminded about your physical body, but you're being a bit sensitive about it. They were just being kids. If you didn't want them to continue, you could've gently corrected how they were talking to you. You could've said, "Trans people do not like to be reminded of their physical sex," "I'm x gender identity," or something else.

Really, to call them ignorant is ridiculous. They're kids. They're trying to learn. They're also kids who already know about trans people. That's awesome, honestly. It doesn't seem like they were mocking you for it, it seems like they were asking questions because they were curious and wanting to seem grown-up.

I get being uncomfortable. Really, I do. But they weren't ignorant and you're just being overly sensitive about it.

I'm sorry you had to experience that, kids can really dumb sometimes. I don't think you're being too sensitive like some people have said, but I do think that they were probably just trying to dig and likely act grown up/superior (speaking as a female, I've had my fair share of "Hey, guess what, so-and-so is such-and-such!" whispered in a not-so-subtle fashion). People shouldn't have to put up with things like that, but as long as tweens exist, this kind of behavior will persist. With any luck--a.k.a. a healthy wallop and/or scolding from an adult--they'll grow out of it, and you hopefully won't have to deal with these situations in the future.

Hey, here's an idea - teach them differently by setting an example. If they start asking, explain to them rather simply: "This is not the kind of question you ask someone."

When it comes to kids, a lot of the time they don't care if they're being rude or not. Regardless of whether or not their parents encourage them to be polite. They're just idiot kids... I can only speak for myself, but even as a really shy youngster I've said some (intentionally and unintentionally) offensive things to strangers. At least they acknowledged you as trans, rather than outright saying you were a woman. I mean, in the eyes of children who don't know about the existence of transgenders, you would essentially be a transvestite to them if you didn't pass 100%.

wooww. I understand kids being curious, but they definitely could have gone about asking you in more polite way.

I have a like (i really don't know. i'm a terrible family member) 10 year old cousin, who can be very rude. She just takes things out of people's hands if she wants them, never even asking. and she has a wonderfully rude way with words. She told me I was "being hard" one day, and when I ask her what she meant by it she responds with "Are you STUPID?! how do you not know what hard means?! you're STUPID!" Like okay. i'm sorry for being stupid when you used a word in a strange context? The best part is that she comes from a "wealthy, well to-do" family. One that associates with former presidents, and should probably teach their kids to not be rude.

Sorry you had to deal with that. I swear, kids have no concept of politeness. shakes head I wonder what their parents are teaching them, if anything...

that sounds like a horror story, i'm really sorry you had to go through that. i get 'IS THAT A BOY OR A GIRL' a lot, which isn't a big deal, but kind of awkward when i'm with relatives who want nothing to do with the matter. kids usually just flat out ask me but they don't really get rude, just 'are you sure' at best. i'm trying really hard to think of a horror story to tell you but i guess kids here are just chill, haha.

bruh im sorry

you know whats weird is that kids/old people aka the people most likely to ask rude/insensitive questions never think im a girl its always college students or people in that age-range. O_O kids always know im a boy o_O

It's really unfortunate that you ran into someone like that though to be honest I'm starting to think children are becoming more and more nasty world wide. They have never put me in a situation like that but they have made me feel rather uncomfortable countless times. I was really creeped out once when a little girl passed by me and continued walking towards a building while keeping her head turned like an owl just so she can stare at me. I had big earphones on and I understand that she was maybe curious about that but she could have at least looked away when I noticed her staring... I think parents have a lot to do with how these kids behave though. A cousin of mine who is 9 wears more make up and beauty products than I do now in high school and has no manners. It is very obvious that she is copying her mother though and the woman only encourages her.

Also, I really don't know how it is in Italy but I live in one of the... less advanced parts of Europe and it's hell for anyone even the slightest bit different from the majority here. There were many conflicts over religion going on in the country up to maybe 15 years ago and many people are still hostile towards anything that doesn't fit their "group". So, i don't know if it helps but at least I can assure you that there are places much worse than Italy.

Kids are curious about things. Kids stare, kids ask awkward questions and kids don't know any better than to be rude at times. They can be gently corrected. It isn't hard to explain, "x question is uncomfortable for some people," to kids. Some kids will respect that, some won't. It depends on the individual.

Kids asking awkward questions usually aren't do so to be spiteful. Yes, sometimes they are being spiteful. Don't react to it. If you're uncomfortable you can either explain why or just let it go because it's probably not a big deal at all.

If some kids were asking me if I'm a girl or a boy I'd answer. I wouldn't get upset about it, because I know what kids are like. If they chose to be assholes, well, there's nothing I can do about it. They're just kids anyway. If a kid knows what "transgender" is, good for them! So they don't tip-toe around the questions. Big deal. They're usually not going to because they don't know any better. Again, gently correcting does wonders while quivering in fear or getting upset over a kid staring or asking a question is... weird.

Some people are just too sensitive. Some topics are uncomfortable, sure, but people need to act like adults and be aware that the only way people are going to understand you is by explaining it to them. If a kid's asking questions about being transgender that's a good thing. Knowing what transgender means at a young age? That's awesome! Not being dicks about it and just asking questions? Awesome!

I'm transgender myself and if kids want to ask me questions, that's fine. Sometimes it's uncomfortable but oh well. It's going to be. It doesn't make it less uncomfortable by hiding away and getting upset when someone asks a question, even if they don't (or can't) use tact.