I have five siblings, but they're all half siblings. It sucks, cuz I feel like none of them really care. I have two siblings in the US and three in Germany. My brother and sister in the US spend all their time together, but they never ask me to join them. They're 30 and 25. I'm 18, and I know I'm the youngest, but they don't even call me and last year they didn't even bother to call me for my birthday... They get mad though if I don't remember theirs and act like I'm a terrible sister. >< It sucks... And my sister in the US is just so mean. When ever she comes over all she does is complain and judge my dreams and my plans. Then there's the German ones... I haven't talked to one of my brothers from there in years... He wont call and supposedly my other brother from Germany doesn't have his number... My sister from there never talks to me... She never responds to my messages, and my other brother there will text me back if I text him, but only for a bit. But out of all of them, none of them try to reach me first... I never thought of them as just my half siblings, always just my siblings... But I've been feeling for a long time now that none of them really consider me to be family... It really sucks and makes me feel really bad... ><

Wow, sounds hectic :(. They aren't acting like a family should. Family to me are people who we love, care for and support, and they love care for and support us too. Just because they're blood relatives (yeah half siblings count haha) doesn't mean they're always family. I have 'blood relatives' who I won't mention who have treated me bad, had no time for me etc etc and just because they're blood related, I wouldn't call them family. Honestly I may sound shallow to some, but until you've been there, you don't know. And from what you've said Demmi, you definitely know what I'm talking about.

At least at 18 you are at an age where you can go out into the world and begin to make a start to your independent life journey. You are basically classified an adult now. My point is, you are at an age where you can say to them "You are either in my life, making an effort, or you aren't in my life. It is your decision, I am putting in a real effort here and I won't let you hold me back in life". And it hurts. I know that. But sometimes it's best to just stop trying and get on with your own life (Again, don't wanna go into detail but I've been there).

Sorry if I'm ranting, I hope I'm even on topic here xD. hugs.

Hugs Thanks. And you are on topic. lol I really see what you mean. You saying that kinda helps, actually. ^^ So thank you.

Well, what did your parents do that these kids are spread out so much, age-wise and geography-wise?

What do you mean? lol The ones in Germany are my father's kids when he was in the army there, and the ones in the US are my mom's kids before my mom and dad met eachother.

I don't understand the "lol" comment. I guess it means you're not really interested in my help so I'll take my leave.

^^ignore her. She's an idiot anyways.

We can't choose our family. And it sucks because some of us get awesome family and others, not so much. I've basically written off my mother. Complete waste of space and my time. And I'm ok with that. I have an "adopted" mom now, which is basically a long time family friend. She is more of a mom to me that my own ever was. My point is, at some time in our lives, we CAN choose our family too. We can choose to stick with the ones who treat us like shit, or we can choose to go out there and find "adoptives". It sucks, I know. Everyone wants to be loved and accepted and be a part of the family they were born into, but it's just not always possible. Don't let it get you down too much. I know it's hard but like said, sometimes you gotta lay down the law and say this is how it is, or gtfo.

That's not what I meant at all. I thought if I didn't say lol or something light hearted like that you might take it more as "Well wtf do you mean by that?" or something. lol That's all. ^^ I wasn't trying to be rude, I promise.

That's really good advice, thank you. ^^ Yesterday for mothers day I made it a point to go to my friends moms place and wish her a happy mothers day. They're family is like family to me. Much more than my blood family has ever been.

Okay. Have your parents fostered relationships between all of the kids? Are there family get togethers a lot? I'm asking because I would assume no. My husband has 3 siblings and they mostly all hate each other because their parents didn't give a shit about becoming a cohesive family unit. Divorce destroys families.

If you've tried talking to these people on an adult level and they want nothing to do with you, just forget about it. You may related by blood/law but that doesn't mean you have anything in common or that any sort of relationship is worth pursuing.

I can't stand my half-sister because she's as loopy as my dad's ex-wife. I don't lose sleep over this.

Completely agree with