I recently told one of my college friends I liked him, but didn't know if I wanted to go out with him or not and I'd rather be friends and see what happens from there.

But now I'm too scared to talk to him again in case he thinks I'm seeming too needy or demanding just because he knows how I feel about him. I only want to have friendly conversations about stuff we talk about all the time, like music, but I'm a naturally shy person so I can't bring myself to. I'm like that with most people, I'm too shy to talk to them so I wait for them to talk to me, but I recently learned sometimes I'VE got to be the one who makes the first move.

So how can I start a conversation without making it seem stronger than just being friendly. Because right now, it IS just a friendly crush after all (Though my Mum said once I've got a boyfriend that might change). I'm not good at pushing myself in case something goes wrong or I don't do it right.

In college the one constant is classwork. It's a safe subject for almost any occasion. Mention in passing that calculus is really kicking your butt (or whatever tough class is giving you trouble), and that will open the door for him to talk about his course load. Listen to him more than you talk, and you won't come off as pushy or needy. It's tough when you're shy, but if you keep the subject on impersonal subjects like school, or the Olympics, or local news items, you should be able to talk to him.

I would do that but right now it's my week off. See, I'm from England and our education and how it is taught is different here. Don't even get me started on what "College" is in my country compared to the US.

But yes, I have a week off right now so I don't have much to say on the subject of work. Good idea, though.

I fear Education and College shouldn't be used in the same sentence here. Lately the so called students at our local college have come up with a game they call "Bear Spanking" Somehow they think that trying hit a wild black bear while it's eating out of a trash can, is fun rather than suicidal. How anyone expects to be able to teach idiots like that is a mystery to me. But seriously, right now the Olympics are another universally "safe" topic. Almost everyone has a favorite sport they are following. The key is always be ready to listen more than you talk, once you get the conversation started, and you won't seem needy or demanding.

I don't think my friends are really interested in that. See, we all do a music-related course, so we're more into music than sports. But I dn't know any music current events going on.

I feel like you might be shooting down topics because of fear, and excuse, rather than valid reasoning. Even though you don't have classes, why /not/ send him a message and ask how his are? You can playfully joke that you have the week off.

If you're in a music program, why not send him a link to something. "Heard this today, what do you think? youtube-link-here". Ask if he's thought about going to "x music festival" this year. You can do this! Don't worry about what he thinks because chances are, you're really overthinking this.

's been off as well, but hopefully we'll be back on Monday.

And yes, I think you're right. I am making things bad for myself just because I'm afraid.

you could try hanging out with him with a group of people all as friends. I can't stand when I have to always make the first move, so I generally don't. I usually feel if he thinks I'm worth it, he'll put in the work!

I have tried that lately. It seems to work. We're back at college now anyway, so...