So here's my issue. I'm in a 1 year lease in a 2 bedroom apartment with both my fiance and an old friend of his. This old friend is getting on our last nerve. First he lectures us about our living conditions in the previous apartment, then he gives us peramiters for the new place. Having to be a certain distance from his school (college) and all this. He drives a whole 5-10 minutes to classes, while I myself drive almost 30 minutes to work everyday to help pay my share of the rent.

Now it was fine at first, but now its turned into him not talking to us for nearly a month and a half now, all he pays is rent. He doesn't pay electric or internet bills. He keeps to himself in his room, which is fine I understand it. But he also keeps his TV on high volume all hours, keeps his fan on even when not home, as well as his TV and playstation. I'm constantly going in and shutting it off when he's left it on.

He's made comments about how cluttered the apartment is now with our stuff in it (my fiance's and mine) and the thing is we moved from having a much bigger place, and we don't have storage here for a good amount of the stuff, plus we are slow to unpack. So I admit he's probably in the right there.

However, the big issue for me is whenever I try to tell him to stop doing something because it makes me angry he just laughs and then goes "oh your funny." and walks away. Never takes anything seriously, then when my fiance or I yell at him because we have gotten that angry at him he calls his mother and has her yell at my fiance (thank goodness she doesn't know my cell phone number).

I've tried talking to him, I've tried just ignoring the little things that bother me, but its gotten to the point where its beyond anything I can stand anymore. There is 8 months left on the lease and neither my fiance or I can afford to mvoe out at the moment, plus with our 2 cats finding a new apartment for us is much more difficult than for our room mate.

Any advice on what I can do now?

If this guy is an old friend of your fiance, maybe try and rekindle this friendship and mention casually to him about the things that bug you? Do some group bonding etc? If you are on better terms he may be more open to your feedback. Maybe ask your fiance to deal with giving your roommate feedback, he may know your roommate better.

I had some terrible problems moving in with my bf, a friend, and her friend, they were very messy, noisy, bringing strangers over most nights etc, and we argued too much. Bf and I eventually moved out and I am so glad we did.

The cats do make it difficult for you to move though, if things are really that terrible maybe you could approach this guy and say that this isnt working and explain your situation, and suggest he moves out? Otherwise I guess you can only grin and bare it really :(

- Thats the thing, the fiance has tried a few times, and the guy just thinks he's joking too.

We've pretty much made it clear now to him that he needs to stop or leave, so we'll see how it goes.

Thank you for the response though. :)

Are you on good terms with your landlord/lady? Maybe you could get them involved. Tell them that the guy is only helping to pay rent and not helping with other bills and maybe since his tv is so loud, maybe your neighbors have had problems with the noise? I don't know if it'd be a good idea to involve your landlord/lady or not, but it might be a thought. Did you guys sign a roommate contract when you all moved in together? As in, a document stating what each person would be required to pay and what chores would be done by each person, what household items each person would buy and when, etc.? Judging by friends' experiences, those kinds of documents are a must. A thought for your next roommate if you didn't with this one, anyways.