So, I had a boyfriend for about four months - not too long. I'll just give you guys the background.

He would compliment me all of the time, overuse the "I love you.", and take things super seriously. I felt like he really cared about me, and it felt good. He actually thought we would get married, which I thought was way over the top since we are young after all. But, me being clueless, I just went along with it.

A few days after our "official" fourth month, I got my phone taken away. We live about an hour away, so seeing him was not too easy. He would try to text me through my sister, continuously asking when I would get my phone back even though she told him like six times. Then, I decide to check my phone out of curiosity. He broke up with me because his "parents didn't want him with me" and he was "tearing up over this" and "I would always be his angel and first true love". Of course, I cried, but got over it and texted back saying it was okay.

I get my phone back a week later. I decide to text him since he wanted to still be friends. No response. So, I text our friend, Dakota, who happens to be his best friend and tell him "Got my phone back, yayyy" and all that. Dakota tells me that my former boyfriend and he argued over our break-up. It turned out that said ex hooked up with Dakota's sister before he "dumped" me. This shattered me, because all of the personal things we shared with each other seemed like B.S. now.

Two months go by, and I've gotten over everything. I was living life. My ex-boyfriend texts me. I find out he's been through two relationships already and was diagnosed with depression. Then two more months go by. He tries to text me constantly, so I have little conversations. He brings up our relationship multiple times with, "Oh, this would be our eighth month" and "That's a really long time." I really just wanted him to stop talking about it.

And now the text messages won't stop! I don't even answer them anymore! I've figured out he is desperate and clingy. He wants to get back together, and I do not want to! He says his life has little meaning without me. It creeps me out since he would always tell me I was the best thing that ever happened to him. He keeps texting me that he loves me so much. Ahhh.

How do I tell him that I want to drop all contact with him? I do not want to be too harsh... help? Everytime I pick up my phone it's him spamming my inbox. o___o

TL;DR - So, had a boyfriend. When my phone is taken away he starts going out with his best friend's sister. He dumps me after that. Our relationship was smooth. We shared a lot of personal thoughts and secrets. He lied about why he broke up with me, blaming it on his parents. Its now 4 months later and he's been through 2 more relationships and is diagnosed with depression. Won't stop texting me wanting me back and telling me he loves me even though I've begun to ignore them. He is clingy and desperate. He says he is nothing without me. How do I tell him I don't want contact with him? It's creepy.

Sometimes you can't do anything but be harsh. Have you mentioned to him at all how you feel or that you'd rather not talk about your old relationship anymore?

Yes. I've told him that we should just move on. He does not seem to get it. :S

Well, as I said, you may need to be harsh. It may seem very wrong at first, but it's what you need to do, then it's what you need to do. Right now, worry about yourself being comfortable. He's way past your comfort level, and you're not okay with this. Make it obvious, tell him he's creeping you out and he's getting bothersome. If he still wants to be close to you at all, he needs to learn to let go.

That's my opinion.

Thank you for the advice. ^_^ It does make sense to be harsh in this situation. I will try to tell him to back off and see if he does.

Since he obviously loves you, something to bring up is the whole "If you love me, you'll see you're making me uncomfortable." kind thing. :o

Yes, I will use that. He seems to understand all of the lovey dovey things like that. Hahaha, thanks~

It probably won't be very easy though. He'll try to pity-party you and what not. Just stand your ground. Good luck little lady.

Gahhh, that's what is hard for me to get past. Thank you for your help and support. :)

Oh gosh, I can definitely sympathize, I seem to be a magnet for overly dramatic, lovey-dovey guys that like to cling. There was one guy that got really creepy/clingy really fast, telling me things like "I had the most beautiful eyes he had ever seen" "I looked spectacular in that skirt" etc. and grabbing me, yet still insisted he was just trying to be "friends" with me. I basically told him, "I'm sorry, but I'm not interested at all. I think you should start focusing your energy on another girl who might like you back instead of wasting your time on me." I don't know, sometimes they just seem to have drama goggles on and see everything as much more significant than we do. I'd agree with 's suggestion of being harsh, or at least firm and unyielding, since that's always seemed to get me the best reaction. Just try to be careful with how you put it if he is dealing with depression. Try to be sure you don't get frustrated and insult him or anything, since it could be dangerous with his condition. Best of luck, I hope it all goes well for you! c:

Oh goodness. I totally understand. And thanks for the heads up about his depression, I forgot that little detail could be somewhat important in how I approach him.

If all else fails then you could try to tell him that you don't exactly trust him anymore. I mean, he practically cheated on you before dumping you when you had your phone taken away. That's not a sign of a very stable love for you.

Just tell him straight out what you feel. He might not get it the first time, but if you persist he will eventually leave you alone.

I agree with everyone to be a little more harsh/firm. If he can't catch the hint when you're being nice about it, then he surely should when you're being a little more...nasty. Sometimes, both boys and girls alike just needs to be straight up told something; they will not always catch onto hints.

If that doesn't work, maybe you could block his number? I dunno if you want to go that far though.