so yeah my girlfriend broke up with me then made me feel guilty for wanting to leave i'm at a loss i feel very alone and very heartbroken and i don't know how to pick up the pieces? she said something about not loving me anymore this can't be real

i'm sorry that that happened to you :( my girlfriend just broke up with me too saying basically the same thing and, of course, i'm blaming myself for it

i want/need to have an ice cream night with my best friend but he's out of town right now =/

aww :c hugs

yeah i need ice cream and a buddy stat we got this though!!

i need some of this right now

she says she still wants to be friends but we won't be near as close as we were ever and i don't know about this whole friendship thing with your ex you know

__ yes.

yeah mine does too?? and i'm kind of like you ripped my heart out do you really think i'm capable of friendship

i haven't talked to her since we broke up because i don't know what to say? like i still love you and have feelings for you and you just told me that you're not attracted to me anymore like that hurts? i don't know how to properly construct a friendship out of this situation

- I'm sorry to hear that. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago, and it was so painful. I also blamed myself for it. The best thing to do is hang out with friends. That made me feel better.

As for the friendship with your ex thing, it can work. If the break up is mutual, it has a better chance of working. But, it seems like you two still have feelings for them. That'll make things trickier. I would try it. Just give yourself a few weeks to heal first before seeing them again.

In my case, the boyfriend who broke up with me is my boyfriend again. We first texted each other casually. We then hung out a few weeks as friends after the break up. We got intimate, but it was strictly casual. Soon after that, he started treating me like the break up never happened at all. I ended up confessing I loved him, and he was so happy to hear that. Now, we're closer than ever!

There's no guarantee your ex will return to you, but you never know what will happen. They might turn out to your best friend. They may become someone you want nothing to do with. It's a gamble that only you can decide if you want to take.

Friendships with exes can certainly happen, but you both should probably take some time off and stay away from them for a little while while you heal. Hanging out with them now will just hurt more because you're still pining after them. I would suggest trying new things, a new wardrobe or new hobbies, hanging out with good friends and treating yourself to things. Do something fun for yourself. It will be hard to do right now, and that's okay too. It's okay to be sad for a little while. But healing is the first step for you and for your friendship with your ex.

I feel you. My ex girlfriend (this dates back 2+ years) starting dating a guy after we decided to take a break (I was going through an emotional thing, didn't think it was good for her to be around that) and I spent a looot of time trying to 'win' her heart again. Never did. It was exhausting because I loved her so much and she didn't love me. She'd changed a lot. "she said something about not loving me anymore," speaks too true to me, yo. Still kinda saddened over this two years later but it's because I haven't 'moved on' yet (just haven't found anybody I can get close enough to, plus I'm too damn shy to try!!!). ANYWAY. Yeah, it gets better.

I personally could never be 'friends' with her (we are no longer in contact, and haven't been for a good year) and many people can't do that with the exes. You have no obligation to be friends with her. If you're never comfortable with it, you're never comfortable with it. Simple as that. You don't owe her your friendship.