I've know him for about 6 years and we've been through A lot together. We like one another, but it hasnt went past that.

I really wanna go and see him. Ive dated guys (even yesterday) andnall i think about is how much id rather be with the online guy. I didnt think it was possible to have someone that was so compatible, until i met him. Now i date guys and i'm like...meh. the online guy seems so perfect and compatible. All my online buddies keep telling us how much we fit together and how we should date...some even thought we were married.

So, i mentioned wanting to see him and he got scared. Imo its because he had a rl friend who was crazy dating strangers...and he didnt wanna end up like that. But come on, his friend would date someone after 1month of knowing them!! Ive know this guy for years...know tons about him, his friends, brothers...talked to them all. Also, hes afraid of what his family would think.

Idk what to do. Help.

i haven't had a successful online relationship, but seeing as how long you've known him, i'd say you have a pretty good chance. i'd maybe suggest actually meeting him first before deciding to go any further. no point trying to make something work if you're not actually as compatible as you think when you're together irl, right? keep talking to him on the phone, over skype etc, too. i'm not sure what exactly he's afraid of? you can always meet in a public place initially and go from there depending on how comfortable the two of you are; just reiterate that you want to meet as friends and not as a couple. if you do that and you meet his family in person then i don't see what they'd have against him dating someone online if you've already met and talked for so long.

Well thankyou. Yeah, I wasn't wanting to just fly over to him and LIVE there...like some people do. That seems a bit odd to me, though I've had a few RL friends do that. That seems too rushed to me. I just wanted to spend the weekend with him going to a theme park, museum or beach.

Honestly, I think its his mother. Like I said, his brothers know me (or of me) and so does a few of his friends, one said he's very fond of me and another said he speaks of the fun things we do all the time. The strange thing is, he never told his mother about me. I've sent him things (Stuffed Zombie) and apparently he really treasures it. For a man, he's sending me very mixed signals. (We're in our mid 20s btw, we arn't teens xD)

I think it's great that you've met someone you feel this way with :) That being said, something about this irks me. I don't mind meeting people online, far from it, but when people seem scared to meet after so many years.. then I get worried. Why is he so afraid of what his family will think? As you said, you're in your mid-20's, you're legal, consenting adults and your families have no business judging any of you of where you guys met. Try talking him through his fears. You have after all known each other for many years, why hasn't he already asked to meet up? I have an online buddy who has been terrified of meeting me (we've met once in person) and his reason was that things would just feel different when we saw each other in person, and he didn't want to experience that "change". Maybe your guy has an issue with that, maybe he's afraid you won't like each other if you meet in person?

I know, lots of questions. But if you like this guy and he knows it, then it's not fair that he strings you along because he's scared.

Its a real headache.

Once when dating a guy, he became jealous and playfully insulted the man. (To me) A lot of times it seems like we're a couple. I was having a really personal problem, and the way he comforted me and talked me through things was amazing, to me levels a friend couldnt really reach.

Ive spoke to him about meeting up on neutral grounds, just a weekend (and not saying its a date). Where the weekend events (Friday-sunday) would only cost like 300 max on his part. Which isnt a crazy amount for a plane ticket, theme park and hotel. He seems happy taking about visiting me, things we'd do and costumes we could make to match...but when we get to litterally planning he FREEZES up. Its like he likes daydreaming, but scared of taking the first step. I think he might be scared i'm not gonna be the same as online. Like his friend (who got up to live with someone he meet) imo we both think is strange. He thinks the idea of dating online is strange...he told me before. I guess its strange for people who havnt done it.

I do get annoyed by this 'stringing'. Sometimes i just become busy (not talk to him much)...so i date other guys, do other things...and my mind keeps going back to him. This terrible pain of missing him. I truly feel like we're meant to be, ive never felt this way before. We complete each other in so many ways, never get tried of talking to one another. I feel like he brings out the best in me too. I one time opened up to him, basically saying that i wanted to see him and that i cared a great deal for him. He lightly admited to liking me, but replied something along the lines of 'yeah i guess sometime in my life time id like to see you'. Hes in the mind set that he wont ever see me. He too also is single...for a while now.

We can skype for hours, not get bored. I'm alwYs the one to hang up...he never rarley does. When i hand up hes always like 'noo please dont go!! Will you be able to talk to me tommorow? Please!"

Talking about this makes me wanna puke from a nervous stomach. I wish hed stop being so difficult. Maybe its that hes afraid of losing what we have? It is something o be cherished... though i wish it was more. Idk thinking about it makes my heart hurt.

The thing to do is meet him so that you know whether you actually get on in real life or not and then if you do, ask him about dating!

I met my boyfriend online and we met up in person after only about 2 weeks and decided that we were going to go out with each other. That may be really quick but we knew we were going to get on and we got on even better in person than we did online. It's been a year and a half and we forget we even met online now, it just feels like we've always known each other.

1 in 5 couples apparently meet online nowadays so it's not strange at all. If he's worried about what his family will think, lie about how you met. My boyfriend doesn't want his family to know we met online so we just say a friend introduced us.

hm, sounds like you're in a pickle :c my advice is to you, just try to talk to him seriously about to come see him. how far away does he lives from you? and how old are you guys, if you don't mind me asking. just reassure him that you're not crazy or a stalker, so maybe he'll feel a little more comfortable, hahaha. just make a plan of how you'd get out there, where you would stay, what would you drive type of deal, and then come to him with it, so he knows you're serious about seeing him.

We live about 1,700 miles away. We both live in usa, im 23 and he is 25.

The other day i was speaking to him about going to a fair. He was all excited by what things there were to do there. Until... i s,tarted talking abojt tickets of him to come here. I was like 'the total tickets for plane, fair and hotel would only be 300 for the weekend." And he FROZE up and stopped talking, getting very nervous Its not like he doesnt have the money! He does. So i forcefully asked him. "Maybe next year? Think youd have money then?" And he was like doing everything but answering. -_-

oh boy. well maybe ask him why he gets all different when you try talking about seeing him?

i'm kinda scared to hear the answer. But yes, i'll have to do that. Thank you for the advise.

I'm on the "I'm with a guy I met online". We only knew one another four months before I made the decision to fly out to meet him, but I'm glad I did. We talked on Skype, video chatted and everything. He lives with his parents - which was a comfort to me. He was 22, I was 20 when we first physically met one another but a year and a bit later we're living together!

If he has reservations about it...does that mean he doesn't really want a relationship? Online relationships seem so much easier because there is a barrier there. A computer screen and multiple miles between, that's a great comfort to most people. If you think that you would like to meet him, you'd have to seriously discuss it with him. I've experienced the online people wanting to date me too, but there's a point when inside I knew I had to meet my current boyfriend. I know my boyfriend's "thee one" for me because of the instant spark I felt for him. I hadn't felt that with other online guys or IRL guys.

But good luck! Take my words as just words of...whatever xD

There are people who are uncomfortable showing themselves-- let alone going out with online buddies. For you who feels confident and willing to show yourself, and for those who are not so willing have their standards. I think it's better to take into consideration that not everyone are comfortable showing themselves. You might wanna try initiating conversation with him about going out when he's feeling okay about it again, tell him that you're willing to wait if it's what it is.

It might be because of his friend, or maybe he's just being insecure. Maybe he had relationship problems in the past and have caused him much distress that he would not risk to feel abandoned so soon right after. If both of your feelings are sincere, I'm sure you guys could work it out one way or another-- Respect his opinion and his feelings, and give him some time. It's not about the time scale, but when he is actually ready. Until then, he would show his best side to you, and welcome you into his life with his arms open, take care ;')