So recently, my boyfriend of around 15 months broke up with me. We argued over stupid things and he told me that he didn't love me any longer. After that, we stlil remained extremely close and we still acted like we were in a relationship. While we were hanging out alone, we would still cuddle, kiss, and act like nothing happened. After around a week, we got back together and a couple days later; he broke up with me after a stupid fight. We haven't gotten back together since, but we still act like we're in a relationship we're just not in one. He tells me that he feels like he stlil has feelings for me but he hasn't told me that he still loved me. We haven't seen each other for nearly a week because he's been on vacation but we still chat and Skype. I honestly don't know what to do because I'm not sure if he still likes me or just misses that idea of being in a relationship with me and/or using me. What do y'all think?

I'm a big fan of keeping my distance in situations like these -- he seems very wishy washy about his own feelings and that's not something substantial that you can count on. If he's this bad now after only 15 months together,..

What d oyou think I should do then? There's no doub thtat I still have feelings for him and I feel like if I stay away from him I'll be really hurt because we're literally so close but at the same time I feel like if we stay friends then I'll be hurt as well.

If you're both acting the same way towards each other whether you're "in a relationship" or "just friends"-- then what's the difference? He probably still has lingering feelings for you and though I wouldn't necessarily say he's using you, it sounds more like he just doesn't know how to transition from being your boyfriend of 15 months to just being your friend.

How long did you two stay apart from each other after the break up? The physical intimacy may be lingering because there isn't enough of a wait to reform and rebuild that lower level relationship. It's only going to get more confusing for both of you if it continues that way while the relationship isn't defined clearly. If you want things to clear up between you two, I would suggest spending time apart before saying, "Hey, you look great! How've you been?"-- or you could do things the messy way and talk it out like it's necessary to decide on the spot where to go in your relationship (this honestly would make it sound like you're trying to control him, I suggest not to take that last route). He may have told you that he didn't love you anymore, but if he's willing to string you along: there's obviously something about you worth holding on to that he knows he'll miss and he's not ready to let go of... and there's something about him, or his life, that he needs to settle on the sidelines.

Since the breakup, we literally have not spent a single time apart. We still talk everyday and we see each other and hang out when we can. I feel like it would be so hard to spend so much time apart from him because I'm so used to talking to him everyday and seeing him at least twice a week. It would probably be healthier to stay away from him for a while before we talk to each other, right?

Yeah, definitely. I know it's going to be hard, but cutting back on time spent together would really help at this point. Just be sure to communicate how you feel about the situation so there's no misunderstandings and end things on a good note before taking a break from acting like a couple.

Personally, with exs I have that have ended on a good note-- I decided to treat them like acquaintances for a month or two before going up to them and inviting them to go out again (and when we'd "go out", I mean we'd take it easy with, "Hey, would you like to go to the movies with my friends and I?"). By restarting the relationship, you'll both have an easier transition of later choosing to try dating again or moving on to a new chapter in your lives.

My advice is force yourself to take at least two weeks off from him, take your space, figure out what you want. It seems that even though the label is gone, the feelings are far from it. If after 2 weeks you still want him back, tell him that you two either need to be a couple or be nothing. Friends with benefits never work out in my experience, and that's the road you're headed down. Don't become his bootycall, I've let myself become that for an ex. I kept telling myself he wanted to get back together and fall back in love, he didn't. If he wants to get back together, that's great, but there can't by any Taylor Swift "I hate you, we break up, you call me, I love you." If it's over it's over, which is terrible at first, but easier than throwing yourself through the breakup time and time again. The most important thing is to decide what you REALLY want and figure out what he's really after. And that requires you two both have a real breakup, which means no contact for a little while.

Thank you guys for giving me a better idea of what to do :)