I feel really bad right now. I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over 9 months now, and from the beginning we agreed that even though I was going off to college 3 and a half hours away, and he was staying where we're from for school, we would still try to make the most of our relationship. So I left to college a month ago, and ever since it's been a topsy turvy situation. Everything was going pretty well for the first 2 weeks, and then I got to meet him halfway at a football game he was marching in the school band for (yes, he is in high school). I was emotional upon seeing him again, and he was just excited.

We made it through about 3 weeks, and since about the end of the third week he started getting depressed. The "I miss you"'s came in about 3 times a day, and he keeps going on about how much he wants to see me again. We both know (and have discussed it plenty of times before) that I won't be coming home until November. That makes his daily "I miss you"'s so much more aggravating and nerve-wracking, because I know he misses me. He knows I miss him. But he won't stop making it seem like I can do something about seeing him. Did I mention we Skype for at least an hour every other night, sometimes every night in a week? It's getting unbearable when he gets upset if I say I would rather call him than video chat. Not to mention if I say the name of another boy. I knew from the start he was a jealous person, and I have no problem with it. What I do have a problem with, however, is the fact that he implies, with his sadness upon hearing the name of another boy, that it's not okay for me to have guy friends right now. If I say that the guy is gay, though, he's all happy and dandy.

Added to all of that, I have developed a small crush on a guy here. I don't think I'll take action with it, but I know that I love seeing him, and that he's very charming. Knowing how I tend to be, though, maybe this crush will pass.

I know what most people are thinking... If I have even thought about another guy, I should end the relationship. But I love my boyfriend, and I sometimes feel like a complete idiot for thinking about another guy. All of the hardships we've been facing and how upset he gets at the drop of a hat have been wearing away our relationship. I don't know if I should wait a little while longer and see if things brighten up, but I guess I will. I've been staying positive for the sake of our mutual happiness, but it seems like he's been somewhat selfish and only wants to see me, regardless of our circumstances. I understand that he really misses me, I miss him too. But it gets to the point where I feel like I have to choose my words wisely for fear of upsetting him.

Can anyone please give me some personal advice on this? I know it's complicated and kind of hard to think about, but I'm feeling really mixed up about all of it. I don't know what to do.

Alrighty! I have been in a LDR for 2 1/2 years, known him for five. Might I mention he's on the east coast Im on the west? But I can help, I think.

Does he drive? I'm assuming hes a senior? 3 hours isnt that far, I'd drive 3 hours to see my boyfriend. Maybe you should explain, or tell him, that you know you and him miss each other you dont need to be expressing it all the time. It will possibly hurt his feelings, but I know how annoying that can be, maybe he runs out of things to say? But really talk to him about it.

I have had a lot of crushes on guys, even cheated..., but being jealous is kind of natural when you dont know whats going on. You have to have a lot of trust in the relationship. And it really has to go both ways. And I am almost the same way with my boyfriend, I havent told him about this guy friend I made because I know he'll not want me hanging out with him. I told him that I was in a hallway mostly of guys because I didnt want him to find out when he visits and get pissed because I didnt tell him, and he ended up getting mad cause he thinks I like being around guys. I understand the having to pick the right words thing.

In the end, I would have a really serious talk with him about the "I miss you"s, you video chat and call a lot it sounds like, more than my boyfriend and I, but we text a lot of the day. But tell him you love him a lot, and you know that he misses you, and stress that you miss him, and that it puts you off that he keeps saying "I miss you". But really try to stick it out, at least until the end of October, and maybe go on a break, and see him when you go home for Thanksgiving or something. Or really try to stick it out until Thanksgiving. Its nice to have eye candy, but think about what your heart wants.

I hope I have helped :)

Thanks, you did! I talked to him about the "miss you's" and he tried to understand. And I also talked to him about depending on me less for emotional cling-to. Like how he clings to me when he wants to see me and that kind of thing. It's complicated, but he said he'll start working on making himself more stable and able to function without me. XD And I'm kinda getting over the crush, which goes to show how quick my crushes come and go. Lol I'll stick it out with my boyfriend. Hopefully we can stay positive until we see each other again.

Edit as of October 6th, 2013

So things got worse after a while. Now we're on the verge of breaking up. I'm taking time to think about everything, which is causing me emotional distress. I hate that things have to be this way. :(