I am in currently in pseudo polyamorous relationship, and have been for the last 5 years come July. I like discussing experiences in these kinds of relationships- what you've found works, what doesn't, good times, bad... etc. Am I alone? Feel free to pm me for chatting instead. I am involved in a group that meets once a month where I live most of the year, but I haven't met anyone yet where I'm working for the summer. Lookin for some chat buddies : ) Just throwin it out there : )

I'm in an open relationship. Used to be poly but we broke up with her. I'd love to talk :)

Cool beans! Hey! ^.^ Mind if I ask what drew you to an open relationship? Feel free to chat over messages instead, if you prefer. :D

I'm also in an open (formerly poly, but we've parted ways with the couple we were seeing) relationship. Fortunately, ours was this way from the start -- I know a few people who are trying to open up their relationships now after the fact, and it seems as though it must be a difficult process. I wish there was more media representation of this kind of relationship style -- I feel as though if it had been included and normalized more, I would have had so many fewer issues growing up. XD

Nice to meet you guys! I think there are a few other poly threads drifting around the forums, but I forget where I've seen them. Herp.

I've just always felt it was best. Since I was little I never understood the concept of restricting love.

Nice to meet you! And it does seem that starting that way is the easiest... my current partner and I started open, and while it was a rocky road to start we found what made it work for us. A few of my friends have experimented with opening a relationship and it seems to be very difficult... I think it has to do with changing expectations. It's hard knowing where you stand with a person and what feelings mean, and then facing the possibility that something may change (Whether or not it does....).

Interesting. My partner had some friends that were casually open for a while, so when we started dating we decided to try it for ourselves. It hadn't really occurred to me before that. shrug ^.^

It sure does seem that way! I mean, I think regardless there's always a lot of negotiating and re-negotiating that has to happen in poly relationships, but with relationships that start off monogamous there can definitely be the sense that things are going to change rapidly. Plus, depending on who brings it up and how respectful it is, it can often feel, I think, like people think "oh, I'm not enough for you" and other sorts of things like that.

It's been really weird since I've come out as poly, because I often get folks who want to breach the topic of poly with their SO asking for my advice on making this stuff work, and I'm like, "Lord, I dunno. You guys have it way worse than I did." XD

Yeah... I usually just tell people to keep an open mind and communicate... because even in monogamous relationships it will be different couple to couple. : P

My steady and I are both poly but it's just the two of us for now. I was previously in a second relationship but that has recently ended amicably. I think my partner and I would both like to have another person involved in our relationship but we're finally going to be living together for the first time after being long distance for about 6 years so we might take some time to ourselves before anything else becomes a priority.

I'm currently a piece of an open relationship, so I suppose that kind of counts =o I haven't really figured out what term would suit my role the best, but things are working out like this:

D and N are boyfriends, but have an open relationship. They just have to ask the other permission and stuff. However, they both have very different feelings towards sex, which is where I come into the picture. N has no interest in having sex with others and has a fairly low sex drive. On the other hand, D is comfortable having multiple partners and has a wicked sex drive. So, D often goes to other people so that they're both satisfied with what they get, so to speak.

This is where I come in. D and I are very close (we basically act like we're dating o3o), and we fuck like bunnies on crack. I have no idea what to refer to myself as though, since we're much closer than friends who occasionally knock boots, but I'm not his "other" boyfriend either.

...What...did...I...Just...read.

I do not mean that to be disrespectful, but this is an absolutely fascinating part of modern/new age culture I have yet to genuinely see that people actually practice and not get hurt.

I'm in a 100% monogamous marriage, waited to have sex until I was married...the whole gambit.

So seeing THIS is like "I want to learn." Not because I WANT to, but because I have taken psych classes on relationships and the professor only ever glosses over this sort of subject very quickly because they are either uncomfortable, do not support, or do not understand it.

I think if you guys are happy, do it. Just be careful...which you probably are. But...why? I know why I stay with only one person, but why would you want/or possibly want more than one? I want to understand this very diverse mindset. Your practices are very interesting and I wish happiness to all of you, and hope I have not offended you at all.

Why? Because it's how I've imagined developing relationships before I even knew polyamory was a thing. When I was 4 years old and had only been exposed to monogamy I was dreaming up my 'perfect life' and it included multiple, simultaneous life partnerships interspersed with temporary casual relationships. Those desires never changed, although as I grew up I tried to change them because they were taboo and I never thought I'd be able to actually have it. I feel more secure in a relationship when I know I have a partner in nurturing and caring for another partner. It feels like family to me. Moreso than monogamy ever has.

Very interesting viewpoint and stance on relationships. I guess in my area there are more activists for LBQT communities and not really a whole lot for poly's.

Which in either case, I don't think there needs to be activism because what you do in the sheets and in your private lives...is just that...PRIVATE. I just wish we did not live in a world where wrong and right is decided in the hands of man. That's God's job, y'know? I believe in Free Will.

But joyousness to you, and I hope your choices in love bring you fruitful memories and moments for all your lives. Blessings to all of your families and those you hold dear. Care for one another and do good to those you treasure-no matter what your style of love, life, or leisure may be.

I'd be really interested in a poly relationship. I don't get jealous/possessive and I have a tendency to get a bit overwhelmed with "dating obligations" (constant intimacy, spending time with someone, being physically affectionate, etc.) so it would probably be ideal for me to "share" a significant other with someone else who can contribute to the relationship in ways I can't. From what I heard, most people have trouble with poly relationships because they're always only open to it if they're at the center of the relationship (assuming the 3+ people aren't equally involved with each other) and get jealous otherwise.