My boyfriend and I play online games together all the time. Most often, we're also playing with a handful of our mutual friends. But sometimes he and I want to join a server by ourselves, to get away from the drama that sometimes happens when too many of our friends are in the same server. Every time I ask my sister not to join us (because her presence tends to attract some of her super-competitive friends that make the game not enjoyable), she gets upset at me and says stuff like "you can't tell me what to do" and "it's not fair that you're having fun without me". How do I explain to her that I would like some time alone with my boyfriend, without her getting angry?

Seems like she's always going to get upset over it. How much age differences is there between you and her?

Also can you and the BF play at times when she might be busy or does she get notifications when you guys are in game? if so can you turn on hidden mode like you can here?

She's only 1 year younger than me and we're both in college, so we may as well be the same age. She and I share housing so she's always gonna notice me playing anyway, and we both have part time jobs with similar schedules so we're at home around the same time. I was thinking more like a solution where I can talk to her up front, since avoiding her is not easy.

Ok that does make it difficult. I was thinking that like she got a message when you, or anyone on her friend list, started the game. So there goes the idea of making new accounts or hiding your online game status XD

Well depending on the type of person she is it might be tough for her to understand you want time with the BF. Now I assume the BF either comes over or is online waiting to play?

I'd start off by asking for her to not play on x day with you guys or maybe for the first hour of the game and then join you guys? Tell her it does get tougher in life to do things with everyone all the time and that having the one on one time with people is important be it her, the BF, your family or even friends you'll make at work or class. Be sure to let her know while you enjoy the bonds of being siblings that even time to one's own self can be good.

Or maybe compromise that if you get to play with the BF for one session alone you'll spend that much time with her doing something else like a craft or shopping or checking out something fun in and around town?

Lately I've gotten into that stupid rubberband bracelet making, scrapbooking, crochet and making my own hair accessories as the hobby/craft stuff. And then me and my BFF and hubby have discovered that we're going to spend as much as we can this summer discovering local bands. So far we've come to enjoy 3 from our city and one from the state and with more of summer to go who knows how many more we may see? Most local band shows are cheap/free too and can be from 2-4hours long depending on how many bands and the number of songs they do.

Thanks for the suggestions. It's really hard for her to understand that, even though we grew up doing everything together, we can't keep being stuck together like glue for eternity lol

I hope making some sort of schedule, like you said, works for her.

yeah I know it's tough but while it's nice to be close to your siblings, no matter how old you are, it's still good to know you can have your own time and maybe she may enjoy one of the things you guys try and it becomes something she does on her own time too.

Maybe she just feels left out.id just talk to her and see whats bugging her.she might just feel like you would choose your Bf over her.Well anyway I know some people think this way.

Sounds like she's feeling left out. I can image it's pretty hard for her to be reasonable because if she's aware that you're playing then she's essentially sitting on the sidelines watching people play but being told she's not invited. Not that your request is unreasonable by any means, just that it's difficult to see reason when the emotional things are right there. I would explain things to her as kindly as possible, just tell her that sometimes in the game, just like in real life, you like to do things with just your boyfriend. Essentially that it's an "online date" and just like you wouldn't bring her along for a real date you'd like a little privacy. Another thing you can do is either try to work out a semi-schedule where this "date" time takes place when she's not home/around, or if that's not really possible maybe set aside some game time for just you and her. That way she's having some special in-game time with you just like he is, which hopefully would make her feel a bit better. Good luck!! :)

Thanks for your help, guys. Your comments made it easier to understand what she might be thinking.

No problem! I have an older sister and we've had our share of disagreements and misunderstandings. Open communication is always a good idea, because you never know what someone may be feeling/reacting to. :)