So how do you turn away a family member I feel awful saying this but like seriously I have my own self to worry about well anyways she has 3 kids and she had to leave her house because it was unacceptable to live in so cps said she can't live there until its cleaned and fixed up well now she coming over and I already let her stay a week before but like my place is small as it is and her kids are wild and she cant control them and its so stressful man I am like already going crazy...

How long do you think her house getting cleaned up so it is livable again will take? If it's not very long, then I would say just accept that sometimes family has to help family out, because if you were in the position you would probably want the help. That doesn't mean you can't talk to her about getting the kids to calm down, though. Just be careful about how you approach it.

On the other hand, if you think she's not going to get it fixed unless she's absolutely forced to, then I can understand being hesitant.

By the way, how is this person related to you?

She is my cousin and like this is kind of embarrassing, but she had roachies and her mother in law was drunk and called the police while she was drunk. Well anyways the police end up coming out and discovered the roachies and also that the place was dirty so they had to call cps well anyways she is waiting for her section 8 voucher so she can move since they been having problems with their in-laws and I understand that and such but the lady said they can go back into the home if they bomb it. It doesn't really seem like she cares because she isn't even doing anything she got payed and I don't know why she hasn't taken care of this. Especially because I have a down syndrome aunt I have to take care of and when she hears noise she doesn't want to sleep and stuff and like I don't know but we have many family so I don't get why it falls on me only lol I am doing stuff all day and on the weekend all I want is to be able to just throw my hair down and just lounge and rest ya its so stressful. Oh and also my brother is p.o and taking it out on me he lives with me and ya our place is SMALL like studio small well its a 1 bedroom but like there is no breathing space for 3 people and now another 4 people and also that doesn't count her boyfriend who randomly shows up in the night which i don't get because he can stay at his house but instead needs to cling. wooo anyways feel better venting this all out! ;D

ps sorry for my extremely terrible grammar haha

Have you tried calling other relatives about it and explaining the cramped conditions you're living in? I can certainly understand why bringing more people into a one bedroom place would be stressful and i imagine your family members would understand, too.

Ya I talked to my aunt made me feel better thanks for helping me :P didn't know where to turn to! My cousin end up going back to the house to clean and shes going to stay with a friend.

Well, that's good. Hopefully she can move back into her place soon.

Well its always hard to turn family down, but you got to look at it that she should of had a back up plan if that happens, and if she owns the home. She needs to be fixing it up like it needs to be for her to move back in , if its not her home she needs to find a place to rent. And staying with you she needs to control her kids and keep quite and help a lot, just let her know its time for her to figure something out that your not trying to be mean but you need your life back the way it was.

-gazer ty for that I really need to stop being so nice and also learn to say no but its hard to do.