(idk like there isn't a spoon text symbol don't ask me why also I'm sorry this is so long wow i suck)

soooo back in the day issues/advice was the forum i kinda hung out in, lol. i'm a complainer, but i also like to reassure people, it's perfect.

anyway, i know loads of us on here struggle with mental and/or chronic illness, but as amazing as subeta and it's general user base is, there are still loads of people out there who are not cool about depression, triggers, being too sick to work, etc (all stuff i personally deal with) and in general i think it can be really scary to put yourself out there on a public forum about that kind of thing even if other people are commiserating, because anyone could come in there? idk if that stresses anyone else out but like I have horrible social anxiety and it extends to the internet so I worry about that a lot. For all of subeta's awesome users, I've seen a lot of people be shitty about this kind of thing.

i thought it would be cool if us spoonies (here is a link about "spoons" and spoon theory- i'll add a brief summary at the end - spoonies are basically just us sick people) had a lil group for ourselves so that if we have questions about our issues, meds, symptoms, etc, if we're stuck in bed all day and just bored/lonely, and in general for us to whine and comfort each other since being sick totally blows

i was just thinking about this because i made another thread about my relationship w/ my mom and the issues she and I are having center a lot around my health. I'm worried that people are just going to come in and start yelling at me about that instead :V also i thought it would be fun to have a ping group, and friends, idk, i live on the internet

spoon theory in a nutshell

"Spoons" are a shorthand way of referring to how much energy you have to devote to everyday tasks, whether it be emotional or physical energy. (I.E. you might have the physical energy to go to the grocery store, but not the emotional energy to deal with your best friend whining about their sex life. Or you might be totally fine with sitting and listening to someone cry, but your fibromiyalgia is making it impossible to leave bed today. I highly suggest you read the link I posted above, it's not very long and it's really good, I promise!!)

It seems generally agreed upon that spoons are a good analogy to use for mental illness in addition to chronic, physical illness. (Worth mentioning: mental illness often has physical ramifications, and your brain is an organ, too!) So, as far as I'm concerned, you're a spoonie whether your only issue is anxiety, or you need a whole table of contents for them, like yours truly ᕙ(`▽´)ᕗ

Anyway, subeta is my thing, it's my go-to site and the thing i've been spending a majority of my time on since my health seems to just get worse by the day. i haven't really felt like i fit in on the health support forums i've been on in the past, so i thought it would be better to make friends that way via another commonality, and then we all know we have a safe space to talk about our problems that is also slightly easier than talking to someone IRL. (I always prefer to type than to talk out loud about whats going on, I'm too much of a space case for that)

I actually am having horrible anxiety about even posting this which is why I'm rambling L O L so here goes nothin. tell me about yourself and your spoons, friends ~

a blurb about me

((you don't have to put your post in a spoiler i just feel like I'm talking too much))

as for me, i'm chelsea, i'm 22, I'm currently too sick to work and we won't even know with what! originally we thought lyme disease but now nobody is sure. the only thing we've ruled out is ulcers/h. pylori for the puking and nausea. crohn's would explain some of my other symptoms but not all of them. depression/PTSD are my other biggies and i just started fluoextine, i've been on it for about 30 days i think and it's making me have feelings again, its super weird.

friendly pings

I hope you all don't mind if i ping you? I know some of you don't really use the forums so feel free to pass if you're not interested in chatting with people, but i also don't know many people on here. if i'm pinging you it's probably because I remember that we talked about this stuff at some point and you were really helpful/cool about it ^^

let me know if any of you like this idea, we could have a group like [hashtag]spoonies or something, or maybe a cult if that's something ppl are into (I really want to be in a cult but how do you people :< ) (sorta related: Im p sure "stoners" isn't taken and if thats rly the case i want to be in that ping group so bad haha)

[for my roomies, I'm pinging you bc i still haven't been able to eat all day except some of those GF cookies and i just feel like absolute ass so i really don't want to get up/be socializing but i can handle the computer for a while unless my headache gets worse. and I'm rly sorry i couldn't go get kahle from work ): I've been sleeping most of the day. so has pantoufle. he's so cute omg]

- I'd love too. ^-^

eee yay! i wonder if anyone else saw this tho because for some reason I'm not getting pings?? I just realized that /:

- Well , you got me. ^_^

well I guess it can just be us then and we'll have our very own ping group called # COOLKIDZONLY4LYFE

haha idk i feel like a doofus for even making this thread now ;v;