For starters, I rarely ever post anything on a forum but, I am at a lost with a current situation and need advice.

I am the second oldest out of four kids. I have a older brother, younger brother, and a baby sister. This forum is about my youngest brother. So, today, after school I took my little brother home and spent some time downstairs catching up on missed episodes of my favorite shows. Once I was done I headed upstairs to my room where I found some clothes, which were my brothers, lying on my bed. I go to pick them up, thinking he had the laundry mixed up again and noticed a purple jacket to which I have never seen before. Sometimes him and his friends will trade clothes, shoes, and stuff. So I thought this time was no different. I noticed that the pocket of the jacket had something in it so, I unzip it and took a look. I found these "Sigma E Hokah" things and freaked thinking it was bong or something. But then I remember my friend showing me these vapor cig thing that she had got offline. She had offered me a swing at it but I declined. Anyways, I took the hookah things out, zipped up the pocket, gather the clothes and took it to his room. Nonchalantly, I asked him where he got the jacket and said something stupid like "real men don't wear purple" hoping that he would say he was holding it for a friend who had forgot it in class but, no. He took the jacket and told me it was "none of my business".

So, my mom just got her and IDK whether to ask him about it first or to just go straight to my mom. It sound like a stupid considering I am 18 and will be attending college soon and I still have no clue on how to "tackle" things like this. The funny thing is, yesterday my mom gave him a full twenty for lunch since she didn't have anything less. He comes back home with only $8 claiming that he spent it all on blow pops and pringles:/...like really. My mom was pissed and assumed he was buying his friends snacks from the family dollar in order to look cool. But, now i think he got it from this mart down from the family dollar that sells these types of things. I saw that on ebay they ran for $6 a pieces so the price of those things must be around there. I found two of them in the pocket which would probably explain the $8 left when lunch at our school is only $2.75.

Idk who to approach first, any advice? I know its just a vapor hookah but, if he buying things like that with our mom's money and then lying about it. It just makes me wonder what else is he hiding.

PS. So for the grammar:/ Rushing and typing doesn't make for a pretty sight.

You need to talk to your mother. I know you'd rather talk to him, but she really needs to know what's going on. With his response about the jacket, he'd probably say the same about anything you tried to talk to him about. Then what? Threaten to tell on him? That will just create resentment. Better to start off talking to your mother.

I took your advice, told her I needed kleenex boxes from the store for extra credit, which is true, to get a chance to tell her about it. I have never seen her so disappointed. She was glad it wasn't anything "crazy" but, she was still upset with it. The plan now is for me to talk to him later tonight and let him know that behaviour won't do. He's stubborn and secretive but, I just need him to make better decisions.

Thanks alot! It made the decision much much easier.

Glad I could help. Hopefully things will go okay with your brother.