So, my boyfriend and I are part of a more, ahem adult, website and have pictures posted (none with face or anything like that so people would have to actually know us, what our house looks like, etc to identify us). Well someone we know irl contacted us via the site. He's kind of an odd duck and he's more of a friend of a friend than anything else. Well he decided that since we had not responded, it was ok to show our friends our profile on this site. So our friends now know about our peculiarities and such, which are not extreme, but are very often judged. Now a few of my friends, I don't really mind because they won't say anything to anyone and they aren't judgemental. But he told one person in particular who has a HUGE blabber mouth and will, if not already, tell everyone she talks to about our business. I feel so sick right now, and part of my anger is directed at myself. I feel partially responsible for this, though he had ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to go about showing people that. The website is specifically designed for people with the same interests and is supposed to be a place where these things are not meant to happen. I just needed to vent and get this off my chest, I just feel so incredibly sick with myself and don't know what this means for my friendships with people here.

I am so sorry. I hope you can get it sorted out. I wonder how they found you? Maybe you could talk to the blabbermouth about how important it is to you to keep this a secret.

it's someone who i know in real life, we knew that each other had profiles. He has been dealt with by both my boyfriend and myself rather severely and has been blocked, reported, and removed from all social media/phones/etc. The few friends I've talked to have been rather cool with not judging, but there's one in particular that I haven't spoken to yet that is a huge gossiper...

Yeah, that sucks. Well, at least you have the one person you know you can't trust out of your life.

yeah, that is true.

Don't worry so much. If someone is gonna judge you for what you like to do in the bedroom, then screw them. It's none of their business, first of all, and secondly, it's not their right to say anything. They just don't know how to have fun. And just think, there are always people out there with weirder sexual interests. Don't hate yourself. :)