NOTE: Before I go into this, I'd like to state that I have nothing against the Mormon religion itself. I think this is important to note because I am the only non-Mormon roommate and my issues lie within how I've been treated as a non-Mormon by the Mormon community around me. Please do NOT take any of this as me saying that I hate everyone of that religion.

So, to start out, I live with four Mormon girls who are all my age. We began living together this past fall and none of us had prior knowledge of everyone in the apartment. This being said, I had no way of knowing that all my roommates were Mormon when I was initially placed in the apartment. For reference, my roommates are Selena, Bailey, Tess, and Mallory.

When we first started living together, everything was great and we all got along pretty well, despite our differences in things like music, style, and even religion (I'm atheist and anti-theist, but to each their own). There was one thing said to me by one of my roommates about how if you're Mormon you're automatically a "good person" and better than just someone off the street (this will be important later). Everything was pretty dandy up until the beginning of the spring semester, when our apartment re-signing began. I urged all my roommates to re-sign so that we all could live together again, but they all said that they didn't know what their plans were for next year so they weren't going to sign quite yet. Well, a couple weeks later, my roommate Selena walked into Tess's room where Tess and I were were talking. She started to tell Tess that it'll be great when they move over to an apartment across the complex. I looked at them and questioned what they were talking about and I was disregarded completely as they went on talking. After a couple months, there was no conversation about it again, or at least not in my presence. During this time, the apartment had become a Mormon clique against the non-Mormon roommate. I was being ditched, left out of things, and my things were being disrespected and it continued until now. By March, Selena had been offered a job over the summer where we live and she had decided to take it and stay in our complex over the summer and Mallory had already said earlier in the year that she was staying for the summer, still heard no talk. A couple days later, Tess mentioned that she had already re-signed but didn't know where she was going to be placed, and that seemed to be the story that all of them would stick to (Mallory and Selena also stated this same thing later). About a week ago, I overheard Mallory and Selena in the living room talking about moving, I disregarded it because for all I knew they all had to move. Later, I asked Selena where she was moving, because I knew she was staying the summer and surely she'd know by 2 weeks before move-outs, and she stated the same apartment number they had been talking about MONTHS ago. At this point, I started to put all the pieces together. A couple days passed and I overheard Selena and Mallory again talking about moving, but this time they were talking as if they were moving in together so I finally asked Mallory if she was moving into the same apartment as Selena, to which she confirmed my suspicions. Easy enough, that was all the confirmation I needed to know that they ALL had re-signed for the same apartment and had conveniently left me out of all their plans, as if I'm not adult enough to (a) handle it flat out and to (b) figure it out.

Finally what it came down to was complete chaos. After giving them the smallest of cold shoulder, they had invited me down to the pool and when I finally went down, I decided to really set the boundaries on where we stood. As I went down there, I separated myself and went to a deck above them. When Tess asked me why, I told her everything and that I had figured out there plans. I assume she never shared this with the other girls because she was the only one giving me the silent treatment afterwards. Assuming it was true, I wrote them all a letter yesterday explaining that being Mormon doesn't make them "good people" and that it was all about how they treat people. I expressed how I wanted them all to know how they had made me feel and how I was just an outsider looking in. I also stated how I wasn't looking for apologies or to fix an unfixable friendship, yet Bailey came to me today almost in tears about the situation. I admit, she was the one who was the least of my worries considering she had never directly lied to me because I had never directly asked her about it, she simply lied by omission (which is slightly more acceptable). She said that she was coming to me because the friendship is important to her and she wanted me to know that. As much as I enjoyed these girls when they were nice, it's just not acceptable to me to treat a single person like they had. Had they simply come to me and told me why, all the issues could have been fixed in a day and everything would've been fine. She also told me that we just "weren't compatible roommates" which really meant that I don't follow all the same guidelines they do (I swear, I drink, I wear tank-tops and short shots, I have tattoos and piercings, etc.) and, thus, I am not a good roommate (I guess?). I do my share of cleaning, I do my share of purchases, I respect their space and items, and I respect their religion and life choices. I'm not promiscuous (I've been dating the same guy for years), I drink in the privacy of my bedroom and stay there, I don't steal their food, I dress "modestly" almost all the time (exceptions being weather 75 degrees or hotter), I don't push my beliefs or lifestyle on any of them, and I have almost all the same beliefs on other hot topics.

TLDR: My 4 roommates plotted to move in together without me next year, lied to me about it, and treated me as if I wasn't welcome here. Then they told me it was because we "aren't compatible roommates" essentially because I don't follow their religion, or any religion for that matter.

I guess I don't really know what my question is other than your thoughts on the situation.

I say screw them. let them move out without you.this is anyway for you to get new room mates? or is there a few friends that actually accept you be willing to live with you? Im not into the whole religion thing either but to each their own right? but i mean if you are willing to respect their believes and accept them regardless if they were your friends or even civil room mates wouldn't they be willing to do the same? I feel like these girls sound slightly awful and you would be a lot happier without them in the long run I really dislike the catty high school clique stuff.

I know right?! It is all really catty high school stuff. Unfortunately, with the apartment complex I'm in, I either have to find 4-5 girls to room with me, or they pick them for me (it's a student community apartment complex). Luckily, a girl moving in with me for the summer (and the school year) actually chose me to live with and I've been getting to know her quite well. She's into nearly all the same things as me, has a few tats and piercings, and is totally not into the whole mormon thing. Since she'll be the only one living with me for the summer, it should be really easy to get along and avoid the whole clique thing.

good to hear you found someone that sounds like it will actually turn into a lovely friendship soon. Enough you'll forget about those nasty girl's

, wow. Talk about immaturity and lack of faith. Especially if they're so convinced that living with a non-believer will somehow lessen their faith, they're clearly not reading for meaning in what they're preached to about. I think you're completely justified and getting mad about this and I think you handled it as best you could under difficult circumstances. Clearly they knew it wasn't right, if one of the girls even broke down crying and wanted to still be friends. They also clearly did not have the gumption or a good argument to talk about it with you in advance.

This news clipping made me think of your post and I think you can find it relatable or at least amusing:

http://imgur.com/ByBfmNt

Oh my god! That's the best!

I know, right? :P

I think at the end of the day, the only lesson to take it away, is that people will exclude others for the most banal and contrived reasons imaginable. All you can really do is move on anyway you can. Write down this whole affair as a footnote on how not to treat people and grow as a much better person than they may ever be.